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if it concerns things about me...i hate using those words. it makes me doubt myself... and a positive thinker shouldn't doubt oneself. a positive thinker should just soldier forward toward their objective regardless of how many 'what if's' pop into their minds..

Hi, I completely agree. These two words only prove the inherent dilemma of a person. If we live every moment anticipating what is gonna happen next, then thats not a living at all. We should leave something in the hands of God. To be quite frank, we don't have any power to control the consequences as they depend on thousands of factors. What we can do is that we can affect the cause. That is, instead of planning and anticipating about our future we can stand afoot in our present. This way we can make our present beautiful and productive. Thanks God bless you

Yeah, saphy it is better to avoid using What If too often. How about So what?

Hey Saphy! Again, I'm way to late to partake in all the fun stuff! All the good bantering went on hours ago so would make no sense now! I hate the "what ifs" too! And I'm starting to think maybe I should leave here for awhile myself! I don't seem to be here when the good stuff is going on anyway. I guess I just live in the wrong part of the world. It is starting to get me really down. You, Meluan, Vanny, Mario, Sunny and the rest are always there and no one comes to get me on the total other side of the globe. I don't have anything left to say all these hours later~

I think that there are definitely advantages to using these words as it allows us to question things and follow a line of thinking to its (hopefully) logical conclusion. I also feel that there are times when this kind of thinking is detrimental to our health and mental well-being, especially when we are questioning actions in our past that we cannot change. There is a time and place for these words, but you have to know when and when not to use them.

I think it is "if condition, then action, else some other action, end if". Where does the what fit in here?

Nice one, but I never use those words as far as I can remember my B, yet if I did, it only be on my mind, because if I would gonna utter them, it would just make my world so uncertain...

What if everybody responds to this discussion with a what if?

what if i get busy the whole week and not use my laptop? i won't be seeing saph for a week? gosh.

hi, as english is not my native language i dont use those words anywhere in my life. i think i dont use in written english too. but some times i use some similar words like these in my local language. take care

What IF i do not respond to this discussion seriously i never use those two words which have been bothering you so much

before,i was like that. i always have a thought of "what if's" but as you said it could just make our lives more miserable rather than facing the truth out of us. you can't change the past,all you have to do is deal with the present so you can have better future. you can't live with regressions. it makes you sick and you can't get a life you always wanted. you have to accept life's natural unfairness,move on and cheer up. there's always better things that are waiting for us out there,i know it and i keep on believing on it,no matter how hard our lives can be,i know we will all face a brighter future.just keep believing!

seriously lots of time..sometimes it is just 'what??'...my dad loved saying that thing to annoy my mum especially when he is online..my mum will provoke her with stuff and all he said was 'what?' in a super annoying way.....yup what does suits us,human..i mean what indicates our quest about something but it also says differen meaning...and ya know WHAT IF it's like we are not sure of things that going to happen or will be...or maybe we want things to turn our way..'what if it rains today and i can chilling out inside?'..ya see..but truly what is one of the most words i used each day..

What if are two beautiful words... they represent potential. Every brilliant discovery ever made began with those words... what if .. what if I try this.. will that happen.. wow.. it did, I invented a light bulb. Every piece of art starts with those words.. what if.. what if I put this color there and use this brush.. wow.. yeah, it worked.. that's great. I think it is sad that you view a symbol of potential.. ""what if as leading to negative conclusions. YOu do not need to hate the what if.. just fix what comes next. Instead of asking "what if I fail".. ask.. what if I succeed.. and then let your mind see all the wonderful paths that are open to you.

Hi Sweetie I do not use them as often as I used to These words used to be part of my Life believe me but not as much any more

I have discovered that what ifs never happen. I ignore them. I do see people all around me what if-ing. Got to talk with those folks before they go off the deep end. People can come up with the craziest what ifs that could never come true. Don't let them stop you from doing what you want.

ya, you are right. They mean that we are doubting. It means we are either doubting ourselves our on others. It is sad that many people doubt themselves and others. The negativity is always there. What and If are the two words that stop a person from achieving their dreams. Self doubting can never help. Hence dreamers should never think of these words ever.

Sweety I don't use these words very often now a days, but i used while i was teaching.. Thanks for this nice discussion Welcome always. Cheers. Professor

nice joke......................

hmmm..interesting point of view, that two words make us unhappy for a while, wishing things that we don't have or didn't happen, it's a good idea to stop using that two words and be happier with what we have =)