They confuse me

You may have to wait a while, but eventually, your children will get along. My two children argued and even fought when they were small. This ceased by the time they were in their teens. Somewhat the same happened with my daughter's two girls. They argued constantly until the younger became a teenager. Then, they became best buds. When the older girl joined the military, it wasn't her parents that she missed as much as it was her sister. Right now your children are young and are competing for your love and attention.

They are only after your attention. They know if they argue , fight or blame the others that you will intercede and therefore give them all the attention they are apparently needing. I am not saying you don't pay attention to your kids... instead they are looking for a different type of attention. Even swatting their little butts gets you close to them . I just suggest you might put a little more heart into the kids and what they do. Take time with each one individually as they are only small once. Ask me and I'll tell you since my son is now 43...................

I have 6 children. This sounds like a classic case of siblings competing for mom's attention. When you have more than one child, it is difficult to give your undevided attention to just one or the other. Children crave one-on-one time with their parents. Pick a day each week where you can go and do something special with just each individual child. Not only will it strengthen your relationship with each child, but the vying for your attention will dramatically decrease if not stop all together.

As a teacher, not really for kids but though i was able to teach little kids at sunday school also, to me kids would love to empress their parents. I agree with one person here saying that they love their siblings. I think whats happening with your kids is that they wanted to empress you on who is greater than the other thats why they would like to show the older kids that he/she is more superior... But as parents, i think its good to also talked to them about it. Maybe being honest with them about what you observe and being open to them.

Hiya cups, That is what my eldest one would be like to with the very younger one all nice and sweet but only when he wanted to be and he would scrap with the youngest one at the drop of a hat. They have seven years between them as I lost other babies prematurely. He had this same behaviour while I was carrying the twins too. But I have not taken any notice of it not then or after. I have tried to find out what makes him tick but have not found out yet or never will. This must go on in every Family I suppose. I really think it was just for him to be the first to be noticed and felt out of place when the others were being born.

I remember listening to Grandmothers bragging about how much control they had over their grandchildren compared to the mom. They were convinced it was because they had the answers to controlling the very same kids that fall apart as soon as mom walks in the door. The Grandma has the gift of good nurturing. Me thinks not. After watching my own children and doing day care for years I have seen just about every scenario. And my answer is...........It's the basic instinct of looking to mom and sometimes dad for attention, instruction and guidance. They need reassurance, structure and consistency. No matter how much they know they're loved by you they have to keep proving it. Your motherly guidance they know has always been there. Is it still? That's the consistency. I remember time and time again the little ones that were so capable and wanted to prove it all the time, became a blubbering mess on the floor suddenly unable to tie their shoes. These were very good mothers with wonderful kids. See a pattern here? They are happy and well adjusted with great parenting.

Kids will be kids and siblings will fight!! I have five children but the first three were born with just 2and a half years between each of them, so the eldest was 5 when the third was born. They are three girls and the fights and arguments were AWFUL !! But let anyone call one of their sisters then they united and wo betide anyone who hurt one of them!! I remember when I was expecting my 3rd child and the midwife was round as the older two were fighting. She said that in her experience children who fought between themselves like that were from happy loving homes - that it was the children who had hard lives who didn't fight with each other but looked out for each other all the time!! So it probably means you just have happy kids!!!

I have no parenting experience but as per my early age experience I could tell that heart and mind is very sensitive of children,they usually think mom or dad doesnt love him, they love him younger one or olderone most...but in reality there is not anything like that...if you are getting such kind of problem,try to understand what they are thinking from inside without uttering a single word...its very simple just try to watch them you easliy grab alll the things, it would be very helpful to you after getting the knowledge, you can easily tackle your kids,,,best of luck...