Have you Experience being "the other peson"

You're right. Our attitude depends on the group of people we are with at the moment. I've experienced it one time when I introduced one set of friends to the other. I felt so awkward but I got used to it cuz usually my friends would say stuff like "he does that whenever we're hanging out."

yes...i have learned to get used of those things...if they don't consider me as a much close friend, then fine. i won't force myself to be with those kind of people.

What you are saying is that you tend not to be your real self when you meet other people because you do not want to deeply have a connection with them eventually. Well, that is natural for a guy especially when they get to meet, talk and chat with girls. They pretend to be something else or keep the real them. I remember this guy whom I met through yahoo messenger. He is actually nice and we really get along well. He told stories about himself and his pasts, of what he really is. But he never actually told that there are things missing on those stories. For almost two months of chatting and talking over the net and phone, he suddenly stopped. He will just send me offline messages. I was wondering for that sudden move or wind changing. Then I asked him why he stopped calling me up and then his answer was, "I love you that's why. And I stopped even though I missed you so much"...Those words made me more surprised and shocked if not thrilled. Consequently, I asked if we could talk it all out and clear things, then he called me up. After which, he said he is falling for me and he does not want to get deeper than that out of respect. Can you guess what happened next? Then he bid his goodbyes and thank yous. He promised that we will meet when he will have a vacation in the Philippines. I had no choice but to respect his decisions,besides that I have a fiancee then. Last year, I received a call from the same guy. Cutting the story short....He called me up to ask an advise regarding the procedure of nullifying a marriage. At first he told me it was his friend who is going to apply for it. But, as we keep on conversing, he spilled it out that he was the one. The story was clear to me then at that moment. I did not bother asking him why he did not tell me right away. What mattered to me was that he kept it and told me the truth. I did not ask either if he was telling the truth about his feelings for me, besides, that is no longer important to me. That chapter had closed. Going back to the topic, you are right. We try to be the another person for some reasons. But the main thing is that we do not want to attach ourselves to the other person. I sometimes do that for my own sake.

hi letranknight, mostly till i does not have such experience with any one of my friend,those who become my friend he or she did not leave my friendship,though i am not so attractive and impressive,now i am having 8 friend since long time means from 10 years to 40 years,no body left me,except one,due to some reason,have a nice day

I am the type of person who relishes in her own company so I am not in great need for company but that is not to say that I don’t care for people and I do have some good friends who I care for. Feeling left out is not a nice feeling and I generally try to avoid situations where I might find myself feeling like an outcast. It is inevitable sometimes because social situations can’t always be predicted. My motto is less is more, I rather have few friends that are good loyal friends than a lot of superficial acquaintances.

Letranknight25,..I agree with you that there are really people who are like that i for once have experience that but let us also examine ourself if there is something wrong with us. Try to check yourself, sometimes we are too blind to see whats wrong with us and all could see are the mistakes of others.We can never deny the fact that we can't please everybody no matter how hard we try to do so because we are all unique and each of us has its own identity likewise we all have our own wants and needs.

yea Letran I have and while its not fun at all, like being the unwanted person when two people want to be alone. You feel hurt and then decide friends,who needs them.but you are wrong. we do need them so I have learned for me I do not want a dozen casual friends but one or two or three whom I really can count on and to whom I am not just another old woman.Now I am deeply connected to only two people my best friend and my son, and pleasantly friends with those at my table and adjoining tables. I am happy now, and specially since last night I learned after a yr and a half my son has a job, a real job. hurray.

hello Letran, That's one thing that i always tried to avoid with,going out with my friends friends,esp if i don't know my friends friends. I don't want the feeling of being outcast. I am the kind of person that can relate easily and adjust with other people,but,sometimes,the situation doesn't goes along. Before accepting an invitation,i try to see/know who are the people around,or,what kind of occasion/event i am invited in. If i feel i don't suit the event,i would rather stays home. Have a good weekend ahead my dear brother

Letranknight25,..I agree with you that there are really people who are like that i for once have experience that but let us also examine ourself if there is something wrong with us. Try to check yourself, sometimes we are too blind to see whats wrong with us and all could see are the mistakes of others.We can never deny the fact that we can't please everybody no matter how hard we try to do so because we are all unique and each of us has its own identity likewise we all have our own wants and needs.