How could people break up when still in love?
By Hanphy
@Hanphy (14)
China
June 17, 2010 8:34pm CST
A friend of mine told me that he broke up whth his girlfriend when he still in love with her.
And when I asked him why doing this,he said he thought he treat his friends better than his girlfriends,so he consider he doesn't love her enough.
Do U think this is a reasonable explain for break up?
I think ppl always find noble reason for breaking up!
4 responses
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
18 Jun 10
Don't get offended, but I have to say your friend is a jerk and is not really ready for a relationship with girls. It is wrong to compare love life with friendship. And yes, I have noticed that many people because of "friends" break up with their girlfriends. Unfortunately, friends come and go. Also they will never understand us like our partners. Perhaps, you can tell them about your problem and they will listen. They'll sympathize with you for the moment and then forget. But only the partner will make sure that you are happy and that you are not stressed out about it.
He treats his friends better and not his girl? That explains that he actually has not learned to respect his partner at all. He must grow up.
@spicy_gab03 (13)
• Australia
18 Jun 10
Hi, I tend to agree with divineathena, but I also think he did a great service to the girl for saving her the heart ache later on with being treated worse and worse. Though it may hurt her now, someone better will come along, that will appreciate her. I am going through a thing right now with my current, and wish that he would just leave, I can't go any where coz of my kids, bu he can go, but just won't. I love him, but he has to change therefore I think we are breaking up though we still love eachother, some things just can't be worked out.
@palkmae (29)
• Japan
18 Jun 10
I agree with spicy_gab03 about the guy doing the girl a great service by saving her from heartache (or from a bigger one at that). Hanphy, your friend may have different priorities at the moment but I do hope that he would eventually have a mature outlook in life as he gets older.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
18 Jun 10
yes,i think it would have reasonable explanation for breaking up,though i also think that your friend is just considering also the feelings of his girlfriend,he just don't want the girl to expect more from him,i guess. but most of the times i think this break up when you are still in love should be done if someone has to go abroad,or somewhere really far and takes years before coming back.we are all humans need someone always be there for companion.and being lovers is not enough you should learn to trust a lot,and respect a lot,if you don't have it better break up and find the one that you truly deserved.
@pepinho (117)
• Slovak Republic
18 Jun 10
I think he made big mistake when he treat his friends better than her it doesn`t mean that he doesn`t love her enough. I think this is kind of problem which has a solution and he acted without thinking. When he was able to do thing like that he couldn`t really love her.
@med889 (5941)
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18 Jun 10
I do not think this is a possible reason to have a break up because if there is love then the flame of love will be burning no matter how worst the fight might be so I think the love between the two is not strong enough to have a break up for such a trivial reason though.
