Does the distance matter???
By mr_pearl
@mr_pearl (5018)
India
June 18, 2010 4:08am CST
Dear buddies... Relationships are a topic that we can discuss for ages and yet we'll not have covered even 10% of it... I have also come up with something to discuss..
I am committed to a lady. At present we are in two different countries, which many thousand miles from each other... It has been this way for the past one and half years... I have heard many of them say that 'long distance relations' don't work... They fail! The love fades! You get attracted to someone else... One such person said, 'Not in the site, not in the heart..' How discouraging!!!!
And yet, our feelings for each other have remained undeviated...
We love each other unconditionally... We are devoted to each other... At present, we have many problems to face, but we face them as a couple- not as two seperate individuals. Very soon, we'll unite and get married...
Do you really think that distance can affect a relationship???? Have you had any experience? Or could you please relate any??? Thank you....
Happy Lotting! 
We love each other unconditionally... We are devoted to each other... At present, we have many problems to face, but we face them as a couple- not as two seperate individuals. Very soon, we'll unite and get married...
Do you really think that distance can affect a relationship???? Have you had any experience? Or could you please relate any??? Thank you....
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24 responses
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
18 Jun 10
You know sweetie, i have read a lot of these discussions. I know that if you really love someone, no distance can ever make that love fade. You just have to trust each other completely. That is very important. Love, trust and respect, that will get you to your loved one, no matter how far she is from you.
I know you will be together, just trust in that. TATA.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
20 Jun 10
Hi Saphrina... Thanks for your wonderful and encouraging response.. I see your point of view... Yes, I truly love my lady... And I will wait for her... It'll be another few monhts, before we are together... And I know these few months are going to be hard for me... I'll do my best... :) Thanks again... have a great Sunday!
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
19 Jun 10
What is trust, sweetie? You have to take your partners word that he/she loves you,, no matter how far away. Contact with each other each day, helps to build that trust. It is a chance you take, but if you believe in each other and the love you have for each other, you will win at the end of the day. TATA.
@juggerogre (1653)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
I agree with you too. Those factors, love, trust and respect really what tell if your relationship will last or not. But come to think of it isn't it harder to trust if your partner is far away? Hmmm... What do you think?
Those factors, love, trust and respect really what tell if your relationship will last or not. But come to think of it isn't it harder to trust if your partner is far away? Hmmm... What do you think?
@artistry (4151)
• United States
18 Jun 10
...Hi there mr_pearl, I sincerely believe it is totally dependent on the two individuals and the connection between them. If two people are joined in their hearts to one another, they can be worlds apart and are still so involved in their emotional binding it does not matter the distance. Someone can be in the other room and if there is not that same connection, the short space between them means nothing. I think it is not distance but emotional, loving connectivity that binds and holds a relationship together. That is why when the two finally get to see each other in person, the electricity is so strong. Bonding crosses oceans and mountains. Take care.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
20 Jun 10
Hi Artistry... Thanks for sharing... Thanks for your wonderful reply, which makes me feel good... Yes, our hearts are connected and we love each other madly... Passionately... And we'll be together in a few months... It becomes hard for me sometimes... But I am waiting for the divine day, which will let us unite...
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
18 Jun 10
No matter how some people say that distance doesn't matter, it really does. It can have negative or positive effects to a relationship. It depends on the couple and the situation they're in.
@juggerogre (1653)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
Totally agree with you. It really doesn't matter other things. In the end its up to the people who are in the relationship. This would sound cheesy but Love is also a strong factor in any relationship. If you can retain the love no matter how far you are then its really fine.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
18 Jun 10
Woooow man congrats as you found your love in this virtual world.I'm one of those who never believed in long term relationships and all i know is people betray others for money.but something else in here proved me wrong 
---infact she proved me wrong.Trust is the most important factor when it comes to couples who are miles apart.Love is unconditional and no one can prove you wrong---you might be facing some problems today but i'm sure and truly hope you both get married and led a wonderful life there after .hope every thing goes well with my love as well.great day.
---infact she proved me wrong.Trust is the most important factor when it comes to couples who are miles apart.Love is unconditional and no one can prove you wrong---you might be facing some problems today but i'm sure and truly hope you both get married and led a wonderful life there after .hope every thing goes well with my love as well.great day.@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
20 Jun 10
Hi Sunny... Thanks for sharing... Yes, The love between us is unconditional and we are passionately attached... I have had my own share of betrayals etc., so I know what you are talking about... Trust me, things will get better... I will pray for you... :) Take care buddy!!!
@MDG2211 (711)
• Argentina
15 Jul 10
The relations of pair are mas difficult to support to the distance, mas if years like that happen. When the love is real, there is nothing that intervenes, everything excels itself and all the obstacles are conquered. But much depends on every pair, no relation is equal, every pair is the only and unrepeatable.
@Honeybuttz (256)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
First and foremost,I would like to say congratulations to the both of you, for being able to cope with your present situation, as long distance lovers. Your love story is very inspiring. Distance does affect any relationship. But that depends on the partners how they will handle it. Just like the two of you, your relationship is exceptional because, not everybody can handle a long distance relationship.
Some couples can handle long distance relationship. Most couples don't.
I belong to the don't handle a long distance relationship.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
15 Jul 10
Hi HoneyButtz... Thanks for sharing... Yes, we have had hard time maintaining things, but we're still true to each other... In a few months, we are going to unite for all the life... Then, nothing will separate us from each other... :) Thanks again!!!
You don't really sound like the one from 'don't handle' group...
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Jun 10
It depends on the relationship. It depends on the two people. Every long distance relationship isn't doomed to failure, but they do have challenges. Good luck with yours.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
20 Jun 10
Hi mr_pearl! Don't listen to what anyone else is saying! Listen
to your heart, believe what you feel! I know someone who used
to be very active here, but has lately been gone from here. She
and her now husband lived in different countries and are now
married and living in the USA! The lived apart, went through
alot but finally he came to get her and they came to the USA
together and got married! So anything is possible if you really
love someone and believe! Don't give up and follow your heart
and what you believe and if you love each other anything is
possible! Love can find a way!
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
15 Jul 10
HI Opal.. Thanks for your cheerful response... That gives me a lot of energy... Lately I have been feeling extremely lonely... It feels as if some devil machination is working against me and I am the only one who is going to face it... But then I remember, she is also suffering as I do... And we must go through it for a few more months... Wish these few months will pass fast... :) Thanks again... Have a good time!
@smartjack (520)
• India
20 Jun 10
You are absolutely lucky to have such a person in your life. Though she is so far from you she has not let the relationship and love fade away. Congrats to you on your marriage plans. You two are now one and it is good to know that you face the problems as one couple. Love is not about how much the other person cares for you. It is about how much you care for the person you love. All the best for your future.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
15 Jul 10
HI Jack... Thanks for your wonderful note... I truly feel blessed for the first time in my life... Thanks a lot... I have heard a lot about long distance relations... and I had never imagined that I'd be into one such relation too.. Now, I have been through it for almost one and half years or more... And I never felt it too... Love has immense power over human faculties.... Thanks to you again my friend... God bless you...
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
18 Jun 10
It does matters.
Distance will either make your relationship stronger,or make it weaker.
It is love and trust that matters.
If both trust each other,distance will never be a hindrance.
And,distance is only a place away,but the heart that loves knows no boundaries anyway.
It's good to know that,after years of having a distant relationship,soon it will come to reality.
I am wishing you goodluck and best of everything...
Have a good weekend
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
20 Jun 10
Hi friend... Thanks for sharing... Your answer is pretty logical... And I really loved to read it... Yes we both trust each other... In a few months, this will end and we'll be together finally... Never to go apart from each other!!! Thanks for your warm wishes... God bless you!!!
@amelly (1554)
• Malaysia
21 Jun 10
well.if you loved your partner and both of us have a full trust on each other..then distance would be a small matter..having a realationship in a long distance means you can see your partner whenever you want to in a flesh and you didn;t know things ahe up to sometimes because she might be busy or she has something that need to be done with her career..it just that many people can't keep the relationship because they can;t be patience and rush things up..that's why there is cheating going on..and that's why some people don;t believe long distance relationship..just be loyal to your girl..karma can or will happen..if you do good things..you;ll get rewarded in any ways in life...
@ajawrites (77)
• Philippines
18 Jun 10
i think it really does affect your relationship, because it will make it stronger as you faces more problems. don't let anybody's opinion affect your faith in the power of love, because in love, there is no distance, no time and no race. just keep on loving your partner, and i hope that she do the same. best regards to both of you. god bless
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
20 Jun 10
Hi Friend... Thanks for your encouraging response.. .I know that I am being tested by the Almighty, my Love for my girl is being tested... And I am going to pass this supreme test, I have promised this to her... And to God!!! In a few months, we'll be together... And I'll be so thankful to Lord for sending me to this world... Thanks again!!!
@l33tqueen (15)
• New Zealand
19 Jun 10
I've been in a long distance relationship for just over a year now, and I can honestly say I feel more in love than ever.
I think distance has its effects, of course; it IS harder work than relationships where both people are close to each other, but it's usually worth the work if you're both committed!
I'm really happy for you and I hope that one day I'll be in your position and getting married (at the moment I'm only 18, and we've both decided to leave marriage as an after-uni decision).
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
22 Jun 10
Hi Queen... Thanks for sharing... It is great to read from someone who is going through what I am going through. Yes, I agree it is really tough; but I know it is going to work... I Love her and she loves me... We both love each other passionately... And we'll be rewarded soon by the Almighty, who'll smile and let us unite... :)
Sure, you'll also get married to your King, my friend... Just hang in there... God bless you both...
@med889 (5941)
•
18 Jun 10
I think distance can be the cause to be an obstruction in a healthy relationship because there are times in life when we need the other one to be close to us, to feel them, to talk to them while seeing them in their eyes so these beautiful moments are missed when the lovers are very far from each other.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
20 Jun 10
Hi Med... Thanks for sharing... I understand what you mean by we should be close to each other... but at such times (when we feel that we should be together), we call each other. Even hearing her voice gives me such a strength... I understand your point of view, and that is the only reason why I feel so lonely... I am going to do my best to get to her ASAP...
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
20 Jun 10
hi Myl... Thanks for your warm wishes... I need those wishes... The best wishes!!! We love each other passionately, but there are external factors which are a worry for us... It'll be another few months for us to meet... That will be the end of all pains and stress... Hope God gives me the strength to go that far... Thanks for your warm wishes... Have fun!!!
@airakumar (1553)
• India
18 Jun 10
Hello Mr Pearl,
Long distance can serve as an indicator for the strength of a relationship. A truly profound relationship is not characterized simply by physical intimicies, but by emotional and intellectual intimicies as well. Although the former is hindered by distance, the latter often are not. This leaves room for potential growth within the relationship. One must remember, however, that people continually grow and change. In order for the relationship to be successful, the couple must grow and change together.
I feel that if you and this person are truly in love with each other and cherish each other then it doesn’t matter how far away you are because you will have your love to keep you strong.
Thanks.
@edorms36 (275)
• United Arab Emirates
18 Jun 10
Hi mr pearl, distance really does matter in any relationship specially romantic one's because there are a lot of factors that will get in the way and troubles that each of you will face on your own but the most important thing is that whatever the problem that will be faced your love for each other should prevail and your trust will have to be 100% percent towards one another, with this in practice for both of you then you don't have to bother yourself worrying about distance, it's just a mindset afterall.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
20 Jun 10
HI Edorms... Thanks for sharing.. I really do see your point of view.. Yes, we trust each other 100000000% and none of us has ever doubted the other one's devotion... The love between us is unconditional... In a few months, we'll be together, if everything goes fine... I hope things go fine... There are external hurdles and we're worried about those...
@ying_yang (56)
• Philippines
18 Jun 10
for me, it depends on the couple and how they handle the relationship. i don't actually have someone special outside the country but i do have friends. and as far as i feel it, i really miss them to the extent that i want to jump for joy when we talk with each other sometimes. so for me, still "absence makes the heart grow fonder", maybe it depends.
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
yes.., distaNce can affect a relationship..no matter how long you may have been together...but it depends on both of you for the relationship to work... i've been with a long distance relationship too..my boyfriend and i started that way for 2 yrs...we get to see each other every 3-4 months...yes.., there are doubts.., fear that this might not work..but if you really love someone and trust them with all your heart..and you are loyal and faithful to him or her..i don't see any reason why the relationship shouldn't work,,.me and my bf have prove that..and now we're still together..but no longer away from each other...=) just go oN and make it work...=)
