when she makes the first move

I have tried it before and I really regret it. It's something that makes me feel that I insulted myself. The guy doesn't really love me and as an effect, I was the only one who gets affected whenever we have fights. The time I broke up with him, that's the time when he regret it. He realizes that he loves me but it's already too late.

I tend to wait on the guys to make the first move because I'm shy when it comes to meeting someone I don't know or who doesn't know who I am. I have however kind of changed tactics just a little where I am the one that talks to them then wait on them to make the move. If they don't call back or text or write back then it's there lost not mine. I've gotten tired of getting nothing back from emails or from calls that i make after I meet someone. It's strange but I've gotten more out of just being who i am when I go to bars and such than trying to flaunt myself out there. I go out and line dance at the local clubs and that seems to attract the wrong men but atleast you don't know it til it happens. I find that I get more intrigued if I can have a conversation with them online first though. I've been used to doing things on the computer and osmetimes the suspense comes of not knowing everything so when you do meet they will make the first move.

I have made the first move, or the second really when it came to my now husband. He was very shy about it but we knew we were meant for one another. We have been married 8 years!!

Precisely,traditionally,it is the man who must do the first move. But,it is changing a lot now. And,yes,women can express their feelings in a decent manner. Somehow,demure and yet aggressive ( i like that) It is not bad to express oneself,esp when you know that,the guy's so shy to express his love. Thu,it is still good to think that,a woman should acts decently,expressing her love doesn't mean that she's not respectable anymore. It is her way of expressing her freedom. Happy weekend

Yea I know times are changing and some women are bold enough to make the first move without being sl*tty but I'm a little old-fashioned when it comes to making the first move. I rather have the guys do that. Its not that I don't have the guts to ask a guy out, its just that I would like them to show n interest in me and then I'll surely reciprocate from there! Think the reason is fear of rejection and usually the kind of guys I find interesting may not bother to give me a second look. Also you never know if the guy's single or in a relationship! So I would wait for the guy to make the first step.

For me, there is nothing wrong if women are more aggressive nowadays. Of course with some limitations and decency, women are also allowed to express their feelings and thoughts. Maybe to some conservative men its like taking over their role, yet they benefit from it too, so why refuse? Right? There's nothing to lose if we open up our minds a little bit. :)

BYOLA2871, What's good? What's bad? It's all relative. Honestly, I just do not see why we should even consider all these factors as to who takes the initiative and how it is done. When in the first place, we can't even find the courage to accept the change and/or to love the other reciprocally. Success and happiness doesn't come easy - in fact, most of the time, a lot of us are probably having to die fighting or surmount arduous challenges before we could transform any dreams into reality and obtain happiness. Hence, I think we should ask ourselves if we would want to have our lives dictated by the prerogatives of traditions or be the ones to steer our course of destiny. Take care.

For me it is decent that the man would do that it is bible principle so Jehovah God happy if you follow him.

well i smiling is not a bad way though...yeah i also think man should make the first move...but sometimes girls can do it to... not really to do the 1st move... but you know to get notice... and maybe after that everything will be fine...