How can you be sure that your friend is really a friend?
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
Philippines
June 18, 2010 10:58am CST
I just had this experience where we were resolving an issue between the security force and the maintenance department. The issue was the lax in carrying out the responsibility of the security force to man an area. However, they tried to cover up the situation and pointed it to the Maintenance dept. as the real unit at fault. The head of the maintenance sat down in our office and we did the investigation. Then suddenly the head of the security force came in and surprisingly, he shake and hug the head of maintenance. It turned out that they know each other very well.
Another, my friend, he use to ask me for favor. I help him with his needs. But suddenly, behind my back he told my other friends that I am a lesbian. He does the same for the guys I befriended. He told me that they are gays. But every time I look at his actions, he has some habits that can be interpreted as effeminate. I don't mind it if he is gay or not. But what pissed me is that he would act like a jealous guy but in actuality, he is not. He may not be true to himself and to his friend. It saddened me that after so many years of me being a friend, he would change and act differently towards me.
So how can one really know that they found a true friend?
2 responses
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
18 Jun 10
Hi,
There is not much scope to realize that. True revelation comes when you are in deep trouble. If any of your friends stay at that time, he is your true friend, otherwise he is just another camouflaged parasite feeding on your flesh. Though there is only one way to identify a true friend. There are several ways to distinguish a fake one. But its a difficult way. You, yourself must have a clear understanding of what is good and what is bad. Anyone who assist you in being good, is a true friend, or at least an indifferent person. Whoever tries to persuade you in doing something wrong is an enemy in disguise. Thanks
God bless you
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
To have a clear understanding of what is good and what is bad, I consult the bible and look for the doctrines of Jesus Christ. He's the real friend that we can all have.
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
19 Jun 10
Though I have not read bible yet, but I have a clear understanding of the teachings of Jesus. Reading and understanding of Bible would be more than enough to distinguish between good and bad.
@olayemi7 (36)
• United States
18 Jun 10
Well that't the way life is sometimes. You just have to realize that you don't need such people in your life. One thing i've come to realize is that if someone can come to you and talk about others behind their back you bet they will actually go out there and talk about you to behind your back.So watch what you say because you will be held accountable for every word that comes out of your mouth. Here is one of my favorite quote you might like: There is a point in your life when you realize who matters,who never did,and who won't anymore,and who always will.So don't worry about people from your past there is a reason they didn't make it to your future :-)
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
It is not really healthy if you have associates or friends who talks behind your back. Their negativity disturbs your inner balance. I pity them because they don't value the chance given to them to see a clean heart and the value of having real friends. True happiness can be found when you don't harbor bad feelings towards another person.
