What do you think about long distance relationship?
By Philip65
@Philip65 (91)
Brunei Darussalam
June 18, 2010 10:59am CST
Hello, im wondering if how many of you have actually experienced it? what do you normally think or feel when it comes to you? any doubts? risk? what would you do? especially if the other person is distance away and you it is not easy for you either financially or by any other restriction prevents you from from meeting them. nevertheles you only get to know them via online conversations very deeply. If anyone have any comments or advise, i'd love to hear them =)
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7 responses
@butterline33 (184)
• Philippines
20 Jun 10
hi there, on my own point of view, distance relationship depends on how u really love each other, ive known friends who never survived a relationship like that, but ive known also some who survived and ended up with each other, in fact i have an aunt whose working in kansas and her boyfriend is from the philippines, it was way back their high school years when they have their relationship, they've been communicating for almost 6 years thru letter, because of their love, trust and communication they ended up with each other happily, some also wont go ling on that kind of relationship, some are easily tempted due to loneliness, but if have faith on each other, no matter how far your lover,one day you will meet and exchange vows happily and tru long distance relationship you will grow more mature and responsible.Dont be afraid to try having a long distance affair.If you really love that person, you need to take that risk and compensate the barrier that you have...
@Philip65 (91)
• Brunei Darussalam
20 Jun 10
i agree with you butterline, but having knew each other already in person will give you more confidence to put in your partner as you can make a firmer decision whether he or she is the one you want to go for.. on the other hand having not met them yet, while knowing them very well on the internet alone, it will makes the decision a bit shaky until hopefully after quite sometimes you finally get the chance to meet, then you could be almost sure of your decision.. thats what im worried about in fact, you might find them a completely different person from that you knew on the internet conversations.. and im refering to the character and way of behavior or attitudes.. not about the cheating matters.. again, its Faith and trust in each other that will make it work i believe.. a test of their love..
Thank you for sharing =)
@Philip65 (91)
• Brunei Darussalam
21 Jun 10
very true.. i think the only danger is when you get too emotionally attached and later found out things went wrong and that you'll have to part no matter how deeply you've already felt for the other person.. yet i find the more experiences you went true, the less hurting it becomes..
@butterline33 (184)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
hi, yeah your right in your case its a hard and different especially you dont know that person, well its really up to the two of you, if you think that this person is worth the time and effort that you've showed then dont be afraid to take the risk, remember that experience is our best teacher, we will never learn if we dont try it, if you got hurt then pause and take time to find your self and learn from it, dont be afraid to love and get hurt, thats how you grow mature....
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
Well, I had been in a long distance relationship before. It worked for sometime, but I think I was that weak and have to separate. We have a 5 year old relationship, and we just broke up last February. We are long long distance apart, I being in the Philippines and him working in Saudi Arabia. We had plans to get marry this October, but that plan was gone. The relationship actually is almost perfect, it is just that I met another guy here in the Philippines, who o the other hand is able to give his full time to me. Again, it was me who is weak and have not waited for my fiancee to come back. It was a tough decision on my part to break him up considering the years we were together, same with those who were close to us like our friends and families who has been anticipating our wedding.
Well, to make the relationship lasts will depend on the persons involved. They need to think how to work it out and communicate. It is hard to maintain, actually.
Regarding the issue of long distance relationship between two people who met online, I have experienced having a suitor, but we never end up as a couple. It is hard because you cannot spend together. On my part, it is quite hard too to trust someone you meet online like in the chat and eventually talking over the phone. It is still better to meet the guy in person and know him better.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
As advise, I think you need to meet the girl in person. There is still a difference when you really meet her personally before moving forward. I guess, you need to do an effort now or as early as possible than letting your feelings go deep until you are already in love with her. It is possible that things may change when you meet and if that happens at least the pain will not that much hurting.
@Philip65 (91)
• Brunei Darussalam
22 Jun 10
actually this is something im worried about, especially like your case when you've already been through it together for such a long period of time.. and it all ends just so suddenly and the years we've been through becomes nothing.. its true also sometimes what seem nice on the internet or expressions through chat and calls might not be what you think it is when you meet the person.. im planning to fly over to meet her if there is a chance.. we are not really in a relationship as yet, but im also not sure as to whether i should move forward or not.. at the same time im also worried of losing her as time goes by... its tough and confusing.. as for me, i know that im strong enough to handle a long distance relationship if i we do get into it.. its just the emotional breakdown in the end, despite the efforts and love and time having put into it that im worried about.. cases as her change of heart, or she's not what i think she is, as you cant always be with them..
thank you for sharing your experience.. and best wishes to your new relationship =)
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@mine2008 (107)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
long distance relationship is the hardest thing for a relation. because the situation too far to each other. the temptation is everywhere. but if your relation is strong why not. just to be sure you have the TRUST to each other
@labea17 (443)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
I think that being in a long distance relationship is very difficult and will take a lot of trust to your loved one. You cannot go on a relationship like this is you do not trust your loved one. Another important factor that i think is essential in this kind of relationship is constant communication. I have heard stories of people who do not talk regularly to their loved one. I think that your relationship would not grow without communication and trust.
@Philip65 (91)
• Brunei Darussalam
19 Jun 10
i agree with what you said.. and i sympatize with those who are in a relationship yet felt as if being left alone.. but i've also heard stories of people who succeeded in this kind of relationship and some knew their partners over the internet. true communication is the main way to connect between the two.. and i do believe it is also a test of love and trust between the two people and as a result of two people loving each other greatly, they will also learn to appreciate each other all the more..
Thanks for sharing your thoughts =)
@yunari13 (2)
• Slovak Republic
22 Jun 10
My opinion is quite simple...
I believe that a long-distance can ONLY work out if one (or, in some cases both) partner(s) are willing to relocate to be with the other.
You can't expect to fulfil each other's needs at an unreasonable distance.
Personal experience:
I was in a long distance relationship for a little over one year before I relocated to my partner's town. If I hadn't, we wouldn't have been able to deal with it emotionally - as it so happens, we ended the relationship a year after I moved to be with him anyway, and later I ended up relocating to another country (1000 miles) for the sake of love.
@Philip65 (91)
• Brunei Darussalam
23 Jun 10
Hello Yunari, thank you for sharing your experience.. i can see you are very devoted to the relationship.. i'd be really glad if my girl will be willing to relocate for the sake of the relationship.. anyhow i plan to make the first initiative to visit her someday first..
@krnavtr (285)
• India
26 Jul 10
Long distance relationship means a couple staying far from each other.Distance is not the end of world for the relationship and it won't matter if we really loved each other.its not that after being in relationship we should be together but even if we stay separately we can grow our feelings.Gap shouldn't be kept and we should always keep in touch by sending emails and chating sometimes if not always.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
3 Aug 10
Well its really a pain as we miss them a lot. But i made it via online through webcam, i feel we are always together!
