card games..broken promises..broken heart

Please get a life! Avoid this man and if he still loves you, he will come rushing to look for you. If he didn't probably he is just waiting for you to call it quits. Evaluate everything. And rule number one: if you're happy, stay. If you're not, leave. God bless!

This sounds more of an addiction rather than avoiding you. Game addictions are serious. At least, he doesn't uses monney to bet. I know a friend of mine whom mother gambles alot until they lost the house. His parents divorced and the children stayed with the father. Unfortunately, I never had such problems in my family. You can only tak to him one on one about this matter and try to make him understand how this is affecting the relationship. If you want him to stop, he also needs the willing to stop by himself. Sometimes, it takes time for them to realize that spending time playing games doesn't bring anything productive. Maybe will he understand until he looses you? Maybe, you can threat him a little bit that you might leave him if he doesn't stop?

As for me, I think he is just addicted with the game. If not, he perhaps doing something with his friends. Guys are guys. They tend to lie and not tell the truth when they are doing something wrong. Sometimes, they say that they are playing games when they are not. There are times that they will say we are drinking when actually they are not. Guys are good in making alibis because they do not want us to question them. I think he is not avoiding you. He is just addicted with something else.

deriellevc73, Let me just say that your husband is really having serious issues with his gambling addiction and you have really got to do something about it. Seriously, I don't see how an aimless wait could elevate you to the next level, especially when it isn't calculated. In love, waiting is often 'abused' as a convenient excuse by people to dwell in a melancholic one-sided love affair that will amount to nothing at the end of the day. You felt that you had to wait in the 'queue' or the 'right timing' before miracle might happen, but I can tell you that fate, unlike Pizza Hut, hardly deliver your request right to your door step. Without viable strategy; it's either you know about your failure now, or you halt the revelation on a later date. But surely, it's just delaying the inevitable. Miracles, very often, are only screen in movies. Reality are usually very much harsh. If you are not planning to do anything other just waiting, you are seriously better off looking for greener pasture elsewhere. This is not about being logical, but rather - more about being enlightened. In love, you cannot desire great strength and reject showing your vulnerability - it's impossible. You really need to be in control and firm that he really has to pull himself together and out of his addiction. Like an aimless child, that requires the guidance of an adult parent - you really have to take over the paternal role here. It is not going to be easy and depending on how deep is his addiction, you may also need professional assistance like that of a counselor and/or financial consultant. It's not about what you should do; it's about what you want to do. Take care.

Hello. What our fellow mylotters mentioned above is right. I think this is a very serious problem because his addiction to gambling affects his time management, how he prioritizes things, his work and his quality time with you. Is he your husband already? Please don't get me wrong. I'm just actually weighing if it's hard to run now or stick with him and work on it together. LOL. Please don't get offended. I just really feel so sad about you. I know that this is a very miserable situation and I do understand that you'd really want to work it out because you love this person. Well, you might want to talk him first and tell him that it's impairing a lot of things. Tell him how this worries you and how this makes him so unproductive. I hope it won't get to the point that you need to seek professional assistance to work on this but if needs to be done, then go through it. Have faith. It will pass and you can work it out.

Grrrr! I hate that thing! Actually, its a fact for me now. My husband always spend time facing the computer. Sometimes I think that buying this desktop a few months ago was such a wrong choice. He spends a lot of time playing games on facebook, watching some reply on the internet and other stuff. It makes me angry thinking about it. But even though the situation I have with him is like that, I am still glad to know that there are times when he would be considerate and stop playing for a while. 1 hour is already very long for him to stop but at least he stops.

I understand your sentiment before oh my gush my husband has no time for me he always spent time in front of his computer coz he is a computer geek!As soon as he wakes up he will drink a cup of coffee then go to his computer room while he sips his coffee he is already doing something on his computer. Then until finally he is hungry he will get to me and said honey i am hungry then i will said ok i will prepare breakfast for you. After he eats breakfast he will go back to his computer and for the rest of the day he is in the computer room. I think he marries his computer more than i do. Well, since i am a good wife i tolerate it days,weeks and months then finally i said that's not fair ha. So what i did,i did the same thing i spend more time in the computer or more time in my vegetable. He seldom sees me coz i am always outside then he said to me where have you been? I did not see you i miss you. Then i said really you miss me ah? a little sarcastic then he said are you alrigth then i said no i am all right and i explain to him everything and one good thing is that he understood me. Well, right now were ok..It is just a matter of communication.

well he shouldnt play so much cards games and should give you attention in his free time. you are his wife you deserve his attention more than his friends in cards you know. if he really loves you he will stop doing that also i think you should have a serious talk with him and tell him how you feel about what he is doing. if you dont do something fast you and him will be both unhappy and your relation will be over :( do something.