It's so hard to marry a soldier
By dian21
@dian21 (606)
Philippines
June 20, 2010 3:39am CST
When were just boyfriend and girlfriend, he is already in military service. Then we decided to get married. I thought it would just be easy to become a wife of a soldier. But I was wrong. He very seldom goes home. I need to be responsible with everything in our house even if it is the task of a man, I should be responsible to all of the things here in our house, I need to the mother and the father as well to our baby, plus the thought that his job is dangerous makes it more difficult for me. I'm very lucky already if he could go home once in a month. I wish he would just leave his job, but it's impossible because according to him, that's what he is already when we met and he really loves his job too.
Huh! I really need the courage and strength with this situation.
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5 responses
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
20 Jun 10
I always hear my sisters say that they would not marry a soldier. Now i understand why because a married life with out the husband to help in the household things is difficult. Not to mention the danger of the job it associated with. I guess it's pretty hard on your part because you are the wife and you will be everything to your baby and including to be a father as well.
Yes...you do need lots of courage and strength to cope up with everything because most of the time you are alone. And then you have to prepare your self and your emotion to expect the worst anytime because the soldiers life is always in danger.
Just be brave and you will be fine just for the baby's sake. Take care.
@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
20 Jun 10
thank you reckon. If some girls would ask for my advice if they will marry a soldier or not, I'll advise them not to because it's really hard, physically, emotionally and psychologically. But you know, a lot of girls say that they don't like to marry soldiers, but just like me, they end up to a soldier because that's the person they love.
So the best thing to do if having a relationship with a soldier is that to prepare herself emotionally, because it's like a torture that you have to live with for the rest of my life.
@larish (2234)
• Philippines
31 May 11
hi dian21, let your love for your husband be your strenght to undergo all your current predicament.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
20 Jun 10
i can imagine how you feel having to do everything that can be very hard.missong that companship of your mate.you could try finding a hobbie are something because i know you worry about him. bue dian its going to be alright be strong.
@youless (112561)
• Guangzhou, China
26 Aug 10
I can understand it is not easy to be a wife of the soldier. Like you said, it is a dangerous job and you have to worry about him now and then. This is a tough feeling. Besides, you have to do everything at home. Bringing up children is not easy at all, and it is much more difficult that you do it by yourself only. I don't know how to solve this situation better. Perhaps try to contact with each other often. I hope your husband is understanding and considerate. Sometimes women's demands are not so much, they will be happy to hear the thoughtful words.
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@larish (2234)
• Philippines
31 May 11
Your situation is not easy. I think you should be friends or acquainted to other wife of a soldier. You need a support system so that you will be able to do your task as a wife and mother to your child. You should have a mentor who would give you advises, someone older and who have been successful with her marriage to a soldier as well.
