is it really a happy life for singles?

Hi tigeraunt, I am single and I love it. It does not necessarily mean celibate. I date and have even gotten into some serious relationships but I like my own independence. I have to say that I have enjoyed my life as a single person far more than when I was married or even living with another person. I'm 54 and so far not lonely....not bored and I don't foresee that happening. It's not for everyone, I'm sure but for me it is freedom and I wouldn't have it any other way.

hi tigeraunt, i can tell you in my case, i am single not because i am picky, but that rather most of the men i have dated have rejected me because i do not make enough money for them, am not white enough, am not in the right profession, etc. not all single people are picky. also i think one can be happy being single if one has life goals, a good social support system, and plenty of money.

I am single at the moment(albeit temporary) and I'm glad there are only sixmonths before I can be reunited with my wife. There is no comparison between the two lifestyles. I wouldn't enjoy living this way for he rest of my life. Mike.

Hi Ann, Yes, it is lonely at times but I am happy with it. Atleast it is better than to pretend to be happy with someone. I am sure most people aren't pleased with their relations but have to put it up just to be more sociable. I don't have to! Cheers, bodhi

Hi, tigeraunt, most of the points you've made are valid. However, ultimately, you have to choose the way you want to live. I think choosing to remain single is a way of expressing the one's freedom. In relationships you have to compromise with you freedom to the degree which is essential to form a bond with your partner. Loneliness makes them more vulnerable emotionally and defensive at the same time. I think most of the single people always wait for a right person to come in their lives and pull them out of their loneliness.

i too like to be single. but time & chance made me to tie a knot with my partner. But I love to be alone. Now too I love to travel alone & enjoy myself eventhough im married with 2 kids.

Well to be honestly,i am a little tired been a single,I never had a boyfriend before.I am not try to find a perfect partner,just i think i dont find the right person yet.I dont know why i just cant turst men,dont give me wrong,noone hurts me before.It just when i was a child my mum and dad always fight and quarrel,i am just afraid of this.

I believe that it takes a certain type of person to want to be single for all of their lives. For me, I know that this would never be the kind of choice that I would be able to make. My husband is so very important to me and I couldn't begin to imagine going through life without him. But, when I was younger my mother used to sit with an older lady that had never been married and had never had children and she always claimed that there would have been nothing that she would have changed about her life.

I agree with you that singles live a very lonely life. I have an aunt who stays with us and i can see that she is lonely. She often get angry with my mother and they quarrel a lot. She is so impatient with little children and she does not want them to go inside our house. Sometimes we see her talking to herself alone and when we ask to whom she is talking with she gets angry. I think this is her way of coping with her loneliness. We encourage her to join the group serving the church so she has something to be busy with. Most of its members are singles like her so they speak the same language. She also joins us in our outings but i'm sure she does not enjoy very much because there is an age gap already. You see, having a relationship really matter in one's life, no matter what age you are.

hi,its a happy life for singles as well as those who are in relationship.It depends on how well we manage our living in both circumstances,Internet has made life more easy .Sitting at the place u r ,u r connected to this world .So every single individual is connected to a group of the world.So life will be happy.No depression.

It's not bad living the single life at all. As being married would not guarantee a stress free or a better life or that you would not grow old alone. Single life is not all that bad as many people say. I am single by choice, I prefer to wait for the right the person than be married to the wrong and live a very miserable life. Marriage is great when you are with the right person and it's hellish when you end up with the wrong fish. I have a lot of friends who got married and now end up being single parents or have a lot of domestic issue, only a few I could say are enjoying married bliss. Single life has its ups and downs. But mostly up... one is that you need not answer to a husband when you go home late, you don't have to share a space, you don't have to think of a mountain of nappies to wash when all you want is sleep. Of course being single means that you might be eating alone most of the time, that it can be quite boring at times when you need someone to talk to ( but I guess that;s what friends are for), and yes you are devoid of not having children unless you adopt or get pregnant without strings attached.

i'm single and happy, i can do what i want and go out without someone always asking where are you going, with whom you are out, etc. i don't think i will stay single forever, until i meet the right one, i will stay single, some friends says that i'm choosy but the reason i'm choosy is that i want the one that really suite for me

as this moment i am single and i can say i am happy though i don't say i will single forever it is just like i enjoy being free. i plan to have my own family/child someday but at this moment i am happy being single..thanks for asking

Hi Tigeraunt. I have been single from the age of eighteen after splitting up with my ex partner. Our eldest child is now fifteen. I have had two other children to him in the meantime although we have never got back together. For the first few years I think I stayed single out of some deluded hope that we would eventually get back together. Once that was out of my system I quite enjoyed the single life. It gave me time to reflect and decide who I was. It gave me time to grow emotionally and develop a self confidence that only comes through being self reliant and knowing that no matter what life throws at you, you can survive and cope alone. I am now thirty three. I have had offers but it will take a very special person to make me what to share my life again. I'm not waiting for Mr Perfect, just someone that is perfect to me! I know I deserve that! I have in fact met someone, we are just friends at the moment but he ticks all my boxes. He is far from perfect but experience has taught me none of us are and you have to be able to take the good with the bad. If this does not work out I may or may not meet someone else. But I am not scared to spend the rest of my life alone. I have my family, friends, children and hopefully one day grandchildren. I will NEVER be alone x I hope this has given you a little insight in to why some people choose to be single.

Hi, Tigeraunt. There are a lot of singles out there. But many have relationships that only last a year or two. They say they want their freedom and they have not found the right one, but they continue to run from one unsatisfying relationship to another. Next the female biological clock starts ticking and the women want a baby. This scares the heck out of the men who may already have to pay child support to someone so they run. I think society went terribly wrong somewhere and we have a generation of men and women who are misguided. There are pros and cons to everything and I think you just hit the nail on the head about what can go wrong in a promiscuous society. Sometimes when anything goes, everything goes.

Being a single, sometimes okay, and sometimes very lonely. But I can manage. I am already used to it. I have learned what we call "delayed gratification". I am in my 30 but I don't worry reaching 40 and still single. I have better plans for my life. I am currently elevating my financial status so that i can have more options in life in the future. I just don't want to commit to a relationship now, relationship that will narrow my options in life. Having grown up in a family with limited economic resources, I have pledged to myself, that I will spend the big part of my life gaining wealth so that I can have more options in life. I have seen the negative things that have happened to others because they have limited resources, they also got limited options. I don't want life like that.

Hi Anny dear Let me tell you about a classmate of mine, she retired as Principal of a women's college in 2006 too. She is still single. One day she came to our home, after seeing my grandsons and granddaughter, she became emotional and started weeping, she uttered one sentense, if i were married i would have been happy like you Bhuwan. Actually she is the eldest in the family, she made all the 8 brothers and sisters educated, got them married, but none cared about her.. And it is too late.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor

In this case, being happy is subjective. There are people who are happy being with someone in their life and some prefers to be single because they have other priorities in life that makes them happy. It also depends on the situation, like rather than being in miserable relationship or marriage, they would just like to be single and stay happy. So being single and happy depends really on their contentment.

there can indeed be a perfect partner for people, but the real question is...is the other the perfect partner for the one who seems perfect for them? many times i see unattractive people desiring truly attractive people, and claim that attractive person is perfect for them, but they dont take the necessary steps to make sure that other person will be attracted to them. so before a person can truly see who is attractive to them, they must get to know themselves better..their true self, not who the world has mislead them to believe they are. each must know themselves from within their own selves, and then they can see clearer to know who can truly fit them. without love in the heart, =true love...people only want an ego trip...they want someone who will feed and fuel their ego. such relationships will never end in a good thing. some people just dont have the drive or confidence or courage to take those extra steps to approach the object of their affection, and because of their lack of boldness or confidence miss so many chances at a nice and profitable relationship. yet...for many...it is better for them to remain single, lest they be driven crazy trying to please another who will never be pleased by them

I know a lot of single people, most of them are actually my aunts, uncles and cousins. They say it runs in the family. I generally see them as happy people maybe because they are really not alone, I mean they have a lot of friends and they have someone staying with them in their houses. I know some who are single because they've had bad experiences in the past and are afraid to be hurt again. Some wanted to be single because they just don't want to live with a partner. I think, it all depends on their reasons, for me, as long as they are happy with the life they have chosen to live, then so be it.