Which one is more important ?Love or reality?
By hanna811
@hanna811 (132)
China
June 21, 2010 3:18am CST
You know yesterday I just came back to my bf's city and on the bus I met the girl who is living with me together in another room .On the bus we were talking about the love and the reality ,which one is more important ?
She has been married for about 1 year and she is 24 years old ,the same as me .But her husband is in another city ,which is little far from the ciy we are living and he is not very rich ,and maybe you all know that it's a little difficult to buy a new house in China nowadays.If you want ,then you have to work very hard for about 20 yeaers and after 20 years ,how old will we be?But if your bf or his family is very rich ,they can buy the house and can give you a good job but if you dont love him then what can you do ?
I just told her even you are poor now but if you work hard then you have gain what you want ,right ?she said ,yes ,but I know that she is little regret because she got married so early and so easily.
So whould you like to share your opinions here ?
10 responses
@hanna811 (132)
• China
22 Jun 10
yeah,that's definitely right ,it happend to my friends .when we were young ,we always think that love can do anything.But when they have to face the reality ,perharps they will be little regret that why I fell in love this poor guy,why not that rich one ,but complaint doesnt work ,right ?
if you want a good life then what we should do is to work hard and then enjoy the life.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
22 Jun 10
To me love is more important coz true love is a once in a lifetime opportunity and a gift of God…true love, mutually reciprocated gives you the strength to face reality together and overcome the hurdles of life…even if you have pots of money, life may not be all easy for you…but if you have true love, then it becomes easier to go thru the journey together. However, too much of practical sense makes one cynic and critical and then you lose the joy of facing the uncertainties of life.
@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
No one wants to have a difficult life, or to become poor when they get married. That's why there are women who are choosing reality or being practical rather than choosing true love. But what will happen to your money if you're not happy with the man you married and your life will just be miserable with him? That will just be useless. On the other hand, if you're going to choose love, there will be a lot of sacrifices. But sacrifices are worth it if you are with the one you love. Money can be gained, but happiness cannot be bought. You just really have to work hard and be contented with what you acquired. So for me, Love is more important.
@jesgil (95)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
i would chose love because all i need in life is to be happy. if i am happy then all is well for me. i am nurse and i am earning just enough for my family and my husband is a sales staff in a t-shirt brand. some would say why i married him when he has no money and house and he did not finish college. i really dont care what they say as long as i have the man that i love beside me all the time and when i have a bad day at work, he comforts me. my husband is not a lazy person, he always find ways on how to have extra income for our little family. and soon we will have our own house and car. thanks to our critics because we use all their opinions to make us stronger and earn more money.
@gunsirit (90)
• Malaysia
22 Jun 10
I think when we are young we tend to concentrate more on love than anything else in the world. You don't really care about a person's background as long as you love him or her. However, as we grow older, our perception of the world changed as well. We are more concern to "down to earth" matters, we tend to focus on our present well being and our future, love doesn't really matter now.
Perhaps, it is up to the individuals to choose between love and wealth. Some would be very fortunate to have both.
@denzlangga (744)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
Love dwells in the reality of life, we should not regret the decisions we've made in past because those are the things that mold us in the future. She can't just dumped her husband due to poverty, they should be helping each other to gain the life they wanted. Tell your friend, it's too late to undo her life, but there's a lot of things she can do to change her future.
@pinoyblogger (397)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
I think it really depends. Reality would be the best option. If the girl wants to be prosperous enough, she should venture out and migrate to other countries offering much more higher wages. In this way by 3 years time or so she can manage to buy her own house without even compromising their relationship.
@taliatrinity (7)
• United States
22 Jun 10
that would be a really really hard question.
i haye reality sometimes but most of the time i hate it because of love.
who ever thought of this question is a mad genious, i dont see anyone answering it and not seeing how both sides of the story can work.
