Expectations that Women Have of Men
By carlynganda
@carlynganda (749)
Philippines
June 21, 2010 6:32pm CST
Most women wanted to meet the right guy first before settling down and have babies; someone who inspired her, the kind of guy she would be proud to call her man.
In the past, a moral man with a good job was all a woman should reasonably expect but some doesn't want to settle simply because he was kind and decent and had a good job. They wanted to feel passion for him as well. No matter how kind or responsible a man was, if she didn't feel any passion, that wouldn't be fair to her and it wouldn't be fair to him as well.
Most women wanted a man who was both sensitive and kind, but at the same time could sweep her off her feet. She wanted someone who would offer to rub their feet after a long day outside, but also challenge her intellectually. Someone romantic, of course, the kind of guy who would buy them flowers for no reason at all.
It wasn't too much to ask, was it?
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9 responses
@JAYMAR777 (840)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
In the side of a man (like myself). I guess everyone wants that. We want also those attributes somehow. We also want women to be at par with us, and most of all men likes the challenges that is before him.
Sometimes women tend to be idealistic (men as well i guess). but the best thing is that you love each other, and the man is responsible and faithful. Those things like passion, sensitivity, and etc. they will all come as a result of their love.
Believe me there are so many passionate man that are very irresponsible. You may like the passion at first, but if food is not present at your table, or money will come to play; You will forget all the passion and wish he's responsible.
@rosegardens (3034)
• United States
22 Jun 10
It is true that many of the passionate and romantic men are irresponsible to say the least. They tend to be abusive and manipulative. What a shame. But they cannot show their true colors at first, else they would be short of victims. So they must learn what the woman wants then do it in order to lead her in.
Of course, this is true for women as well.
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
22 Jun 10
Don't bring me flowers!!!! Give me a two year engagement, money in the bank, dedication to work, parents and paying bills off. Fulfill my mile long list of needs and I will marry you. Continue to fulfill those responsibilities and I will remain married to you. Think there aren't any guys out there like that anymore? Think again. All of my sons follow in their dads footsteps. If I had a daughter she had better follow in mine! 26 years and counting.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
22 Jun 10
A lot of women expect men to take care of them. When men don't live up to a woman's expectations, look out. Disappointment is sure to come. Women can't change the behavior of a man. They shouldn't try. Love and respect for each other is what matters most.
@rosegardens (3034)
• United States
22 Jun 10
I will settle for a kind and decent man who has a good job. He must be mentally stable as well.
I believe if someone truly loves another, they will do things to make their significant other happy, even if it is a might uncomfortable. For example, just bringing home flowers because it makes her smile, even if he has never done that and feels it is an irresponsible waste of money. Cooking his favorite meal even though you don't care for it.
Ah, but wouldn't it be wonderful if we all just put an effort into being the 'perfect' man or woman? None will accomplish it one hundred percent and one hundred percent of the time; but if we all just made the attempt, wouldn't things be better for everyone?
@lesfery (79)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
every woman dream for their price charming to come along the way BUT in this world what we dream on sometimes stay as a dream. we are lucky if we meet our prince charming along the way. as for me i want a man who feared God most.
@flowerhorn (1008)
• Malaysia
22 Jun 10
Hmmm, of course most women want the perfect man. But do they really exist? Remember one thing. While you choose, you are also being chosen.
Even if a woman can get all the qualities she looks in a man, she got to ask herself one question. Is she going to get her man? And if she does, is she going to be able to maintain the relationship?
I would say that one should not ask for so much. In my mind, the first and only priority is to find someone who is faithful and honest. Stuff likes romance would not score highly on my judgment.
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
Well, though what you're saying is true for most women, that rule of finding mr. right has never been accomplished ever. You still need to compromise with the qualities that your boyfriend has, or someone courting you. Men don't have everything. They may be sweet, romantic and sensitive, but he could also mean that he's sensitive too. that he'll cry over the smallest things, etc.
Compromise and be agreeable. that's the ticket.
@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
A lot of women has their standards of the right guy whom she wants to marry. Qualities like tall, dark, handsome, responsible, with stable job, intellectually-challenging, passionate, sweet etc....But oftentimes, you cannot find all the standards or the qualifications you are looking for in one man that you love. When you love a man and he loves you back, I think the passion is not hard to be seen even he doesn't meet some of the expectations. What's important is that you love and respect each other, and everything will fall in it's place.
