Many people think marriage or relationship is about finding the perfect partner

Actually, both parties will make it the perfect match or perfect partnership. Based on facts, we are all different in so many ways. It is up to the both of you or us to make it work. Nothing is actually perfect in the world, there will always be flaws. There will always be arguments and misunderstandings that will come along. My opinion is, make use of what you have, cherish every time. Life only comes ones, and it may end in any second or at any time.

I think you hit the nail on the head when you said it is not about finding the perfect partner but being the perfect partner, how true is that? I don’t believe there is such a thing as a perfect mate because there are no people without defects. The trick is to find the perfect person for us and that maybe someone who may have a lot of lessons to teach us which will not feel so ‘right’ at times! I think that if both people in the relationship decide every day to do everything in their power to make the other happy and make their life easier they cannot go wrong!

It still depends on the other person because even if you don't put too much expectations, if the other person falls short, then the relationship will fail. I can speak about this personally because I have given almost everything in terms of understanding and not minding my personal needs, but still my boyfriend left me for another woman. I have always understood from the start of our relationship that ours is not a perfect relationship, thus managing my expectations, but I guess for some people this is never and can never be enough.

I don't agree with you Vijayanths. I don't think there is such a thing as a perfect partner or being a perfect partner. We are human and humans are not perfect. The key is for both partners to work together with equal committment to making the relationship work and to keeping love alive. Once one of them gives up then it is all over..

I don't want a perfect person for a partner because I am not perfect as well.I just want a perfectly less perfect relationship with a beautifully imperfect person. I don't preach what I can't practice, nor ask for something that I , myself, is possible to give.:-) Have a lovely day

Agree. They want to recieve but don't deliever. In a way it's a selfish concept but the way the world is nothing is perfectly balanced. I also think a lot of people focus on finding it too much that they don't even see the flaws until later on instead of taking time to piece out all the things about the person and truely knowing them inside and out!

No I don't believe that's true. I believe part of it is finding the person best suited for you.. so basically you do have to find the perfect partner. You have to be compatable otherwise the relationship won't work, no matter how hard you try.

i think it's hard to find the "perfect" mate. When you have found the "perfect" mate he/she should be able to look past your flaws and look into there heart. Sometimes it's not worth staying with someone because sometimes love just isn't enough. God doesn't expect us to put up with things just to stay with someone. He wants us to be happy.

I aint married, I have a small list of flaws which I know I cant accept ever in any relationship. Subject to that, I can overlook everything. :)

If you are looking for the perfect partner you better become either a nun or a monk. There is only one perfect person to have ever walked the face of the Earth. Now if you are looking for life partner you better be willing to compromise and accept their faults. Make the best of what you have or get the heck out of dodge.

I don't want a perfect partner, i want someone who wants me as a person and who i will accept as a person. No one will ever have the perfect partner, as no one in life can ever be perfect. I think all of us should wake up and realize what we really miss in life when it comes to relationships and marriage.

I am sorry I do not agree with you. Humans aren't perfect. But two partners can be perfect for each other and that is what people want. It is all in compatibility. If we use your theory then people will get stuck with wrong partners and end up ruining their lives. The truth is that both partners have to accept each other as they are. Otherwise, the relationship will never succeed. Also why would we be perfect partner to someone who abuses our love? I am basically using the word abuse because you mentioned that they end up looking for other partners. To me that is an abuse of love. Also these days people seem to get bored of partners who do everything to make them happy. So it is important that two people must be at least 95 percent compatible with each other. Let those imperfect ones stay with the other imperfect people. That is their perfect relationship.

Hi vijayanths, daily i will be checking for your beautiful quotes with meaningful discussion. Yeah it is true, it is easy to say than to follow. But i am not that kinda person. I feel i am perfect to him and he is to me. Anna i am asking you what about yourself?

i think the same to.. it's easy to say, but it's not that easy to do

A marriage is just finding a partner, as suitable as possible.There is no question of finding or being a perfect partner.One person may think that he/she is a perfect partner.But this may not be so from the other person's point of view.So, who is to judge the situation?It becomes very subjective. Marriage is one of adjustment and compromise and requires a lot of maturity and proper perspective.

When we start out looking for the perfect anything you are not going to be happy. none of us are perfect. we need to look for people who have those things about them that we think are good and true. not perfect. my spouse now is a great guy. he is sweet and loving and supportive. but by no means is he perfect!!!! nor am i for that matter.

I think "perfect" doesn't really exist but people should look for the ideal or right partner. The reason why relationships break down is because people tend to rush, give up on the ideal partner and just settle and the fact that they don't really know each other well enough or even compatible. Really I think people should spend more time on seeing the good things in life, most relationships now are built on arguing and having petty fights. Well they are around here. :/

If we are seeking perfection in someone else, we may be disappointed. Marriage and relationships shouldn't be about looking for someone perfect. Finding someone to love and share your life is the goal to be after.

It is actually up to the person on how she defines the term "Perfect" it could be like a perfect bad boy hahahha!!!! or even a perfect dream guy. It may also mean that perfect means for being compatible by understanding each other's beliefs and the things that both of them are in good terms.

I couldn't agree more... its what you make out of your relationship actually that really counts.. You don't really marry someone if you think she's not at least perfect for you... Make each day count!