is it a good idea to keep intouch with your ex

It could be a good idea. If she has benefits like she's a good company and of course she doesn't mind being only friends and nothing more then i'd say it's a good idea to be in touch with your ex. If you have nothing left for each other then i'd say it isn't good. It'll only hurt the both of you cuz there'll be times when she'll be dating someone else and the same for you.

I have done it and the only problem I have had is a quick easy fix. Like my current gf got mad that I still talked to my ex and all I had to do was tell her I am with her and not my ex. Keeping in touch with my exs has been pretty good for me as they usually will know me pretty good and they can help me with some problems I am having and they can do the same for me.

I guess it will depend on both of you. If you started as friends then I guess there's nothing wrong with being friends even if you two are no longer together. But I know it is hard and its a case to case basis. In my experience me and my boyfriend of six years broke up and we remain friends for a couple of months as if nothings happened. Since we work on the same company we still see each other and we still text though we both know that of course there's already a limitation. We are dating someone else already. But we both know that maybe we just missed each other and all the good times when we are still together. After a year we have moved on and we still text and chat on the net even up to now.

It depends on your situation whether it's a good idea to see your x or not. I talk with exs and still hang out with them. I see nothing wrong with that, as long as you both know and accept the fact that it's over. No one has an ulterior motive of getting back together.

well if you dont feel nothing anymore for your ex i think is ok to keep in touch^^ you can be good friends even is a strange situation^^ but i think is ok maybe you can be friends you can try. but if you have a new person and didnt move on completely thats a bit dangerous i mean for the person you are dating now. this person can get hurt if you get too close to your ex again and feelings start again so ^^ anyway i think is ok if feelings disappeared already^^

hey man, I was once in this situation, I slept with my ex even as i had moved on with my new gal,I did this many times, one day my gal came in n found us on my bed, n i was dumbfounded, when she parked her things and left, i felt so horrible,it hit me that i hurt someone so bad, before all these,i was selfish,i tried to fix things with my ex, n found out that the same issues we had were coming bak, and was missing what i had with my gal,to make it worse, she had moved on with another guy, right now i am so torn, to make it even worse , wheneva i try to date someone else, i cant find any who matches upto the gal i had so it makes me feel sick of myself, but ve sworn that neva eva will i do such a stupid mistake, infact to avoid all the mess, i hope i will get a nice gal, will make sure i marry her so that i avoid the former flames thing, afterall, we all want the best to be done for us, so i believe its my time to do it.I know its hard to do the right thing in these times, but we should not give up trying:))

My answer would be in the negative. It is not a smart idea to keep in touch or communicate with an ex even if you have moved or seeing someone else. Unless, he has moved on too or just let time tell you to meet again. After the break up or separation, it is not proper to communicate with an ex right away or even after some months. It take some time to heal the woulds or to move on totally. Moving on takes some time, more so the acceptance. Moving on of guys and girls are different, so respect that space. Let time dictates for you to meet or talk again.

Logically most times it makes sense to keep in touch becuase you have ties. Sinbad the comedian told the story of getting divorced from his wife because he thought she was crazy, being alone for four years, then getting remarried to his first wife. They have now been remarried for 57 years. He said they understand each others crazy they dont understand anyones else crazy but they understand each others. I have found this to be true. I am divorced from my wife but right now we live together with our three kids. It is very hard once you get older and older to get along with new people. Your patience is less, your curiosity is limited and you dont want drama you want to live. Of course not everyone has the maturity to do this many still fight over anything but I have found it is best to keep all options open.

i think that it's okay to keep in touch with your ex if you've both healed from the relationship that you guys had. when you've truly moved on and doesn't feel any love or hate towards that person, and all you want to have with that person is friendship, then it's okay. if you're with someone else, then it could get a little more complicated as that might not be okay with the person that you're with. if he or she is okay with it, then that would be great. but it that person's not, then you gotta choose what's more important, your relationship with your current girlfriend or boyfriend, or your friendship with your ex. it's kinda like what happened whit ross and emily and rachel on friends. if you did watch friends, then you would know about it.

I do not think it is a good idea to keep in touch with one's ex, because first the one's current bf or gf may mind this, second it is not good for both of them to move on, and third what if they want to get back again and they will hurt their current gf or bf greatly which will be very unfair to them.

Personally I can't do it. I feel an ex is just that an ex. I have no problem being amicable but if I wanted to love and care for my ex he would still be my current. LOL

Hi thogojames, I don't think it is a good idea. I believe that one of the most effective ways to keep relationship up is not to involve stupid ex's. You try to imagine your gf now, still getting in touch with one of her ex's, how would you feel? Focus on your present relationship on don't bring up your pasts. See the future with her and don't let your past ruin your relationship in the present. Good luck!

I would wanna you to be honest with yourself, at least live in the present not the past,its selfish not to define your feelings.in the first place why did you break up?m sure there was a good reason, n m sure given another chance it wont still work, so why hold on to nothing while you have something??Its not bad to keep in touch but for your case , i think you still have feeling so I think its not good,because you might end up sleeping with her and hurt your girl, be a man.Not unless you don't sincerely love your current chick.which if its the case you should do something about it.