Will you, having a relationship,see an ex lover for a formal closure?

breaking a relation and again starting is really a difficult one. once we break with our love, we can maintain the relation as friends rather than being lovers. in your case i think its better if you stay with your present bf because if you leave him leave him you are doing the same mistake as your ex boyfriend.you could ask him to be friends. if you again get into a relation with him and some serious problems broke your relation again then you will feel let down. you will start checking him for some mistakes and he will also start finding mistakes on your side.this will harm your relation. "Think ten times before falling in a relation"

hi there! I think there's nothing wrong with what he wants to do. in fact, it will be better for the both of you to finally, after long time, you'll have the time time and the courage to talk things over. for me it is good to have a formal closure with your ex-lover. so that whatever happens, whenever path we go through after the break-up, we won't be carrying anything heavy in our hearts. we might be good friends after all too. i was just wondering, why are you being confused? of with what? unless, you still love him and wants him back... but if you already have a new bf then it only means that you've already moved on with your life. and somehow the pain heals... i've been through with the same feelings before... and it took me half a year before i finally let the pain go out... but now i am happier with my relationship... and my ex-bf and i and his wife were good friends now... try it... it'll be worth it. happy mylotting!

Hi Meeksilent! I think you should first ask yourself if what is your main reason of talking with your ex boyfriend. There are a lot of things to consider in this situtaion: first, would you let your current bf know? or would you rather hide it from him; second, do you really know what's in your heart or rather whose in your heart? You should have a clear understanding of your own feelings first before you decide to talk to him because talking to your ex might cause problems with your new boyfriend. What if he comes begging for you to comeback?, are you strong enough to let go of your new bf and risk being hurt again by your ex? Take time to pray and ask for Guidance from the Lord that He may show you who is really meant for you. Goodluck and God bless!

Hi meeksilent! I got into the same situation you are now a few years back. But I did not go and meet up with my ex. When he called me up, I told him that I gave him the space he wanted because he needed it, but I wouldn't hold my whole life forever waiting for him. When he said he wanted space, he specified a couple of months without seeing each other. Even it hurt a lot during that time, i gave him the space he asked for. i waited for that couple of months. i cried a lot, i missed him a lot more, but i endured that if it made him happy. But the couple of months turned into few then several. I tried to contact him, but i didn't get any response. So i assumed that he wanted everything between us to be over. And mind you, i was really disappointed that he didn't think i deserved a formal closure. So, when he popped up months and months later, I have already moved on with my life. I have picked up the pieces of my broken heart. Moreover, I was already seeing someone else. I told him I am sorry to deny him his request because when he didn't show up the next few months after the couple of months he asked for, it seemed to me that even if the closure was not formal, it was FINAL. I hope you got pointers in between the lines from my experience. One final thing, be honest to yourself. If you think you really need that formal closure, you can go meet up with him. But be fair to your current boyfriend. Be honest and tell him all about it and how you feel. The current boyfriend deserves that much respect. Don't forget to pray. God bless you!