Are you friends with the EX?
By redphile
@redphile (2264)
Philippines
June 23, 2010 4:39am CST
I have had 3 EXes so far. I think I am friends with them, though not CLOSE friends. Or maybe I just dont have any beef with them anymore. No angst, no bitterness, no nothing. they are just EXes. Past is past and there's nothing you can do about it. I think there;s nothing wrong with being friends with them. It also shows that you have already moved on and now onto a new life with a new one.
Your thoughts?
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7 responses
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
I have 3 EXes as well and the only one who I can't get along with is the longest I had a relationship with. Me and my other 2 EXes get along pretty well. It's like having the good ole days once again when we were still friends. About the only EX that I can't get along until now, I don't really know what's wrong with him. Maybe he still can't accept that after almost 6 years of being together, we just have to part ways just a year ago. Past is past really and I just really wanna move on, start a new life, love again.
Best of luck
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@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
I am a guy, i believe that it's hard for a guy like him to let go of such relationship. not all men are ready to move on unless they really loved that person to the core. if he didn't take you seriously then there's no doubt he wouldn't act that way, otherwise, he would learn to be friends with you again.1 person likes this
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
aww 6 years thats a long time! My previous relationship was almost 7 years when it ended. We havent seen each other for quite awhile but we still keep in touch online though. Well, maybe your ex still cannot accept the fact that you're not together anymore, I would feel the same though if its still fresh and hurting. =)
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@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
@LetranKnight25 -I should really put that in my mind and heart how lucky I am knowing that he did take me seriously for acting the way he is now with me. I have also learned that its rare to find guys like my ex who still acts that way . because I personally think guys move on way faster than girls.. and yet my situation is the exact opposite.
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@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
i'm not. after our break up, we never talked to each other even though we have tons of common friends since we were high school classmates. we're not even friends on facebook since he just started using facebook after we broke up. sometimes, i feel like there is nothing wrong with being friends with him, or at least to act civil towards each other. i did try to make an effort to greet him on his birthday, to show that the thing between us is behind me, but he didn't even thank me for the greeting. so i think i would not try anymore as he might just misread it.
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@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
I had two past relationships before but i haven't made contact with the other one because she is in the middle east working there. she was my first girl friend and things end in good terms. we seldom comment on each other, and that is based on a social network. and as for this one i believed that we still talked from time to time, it's just that our timing isn't that good when communicating, sometimes she has load, some times i have but can't reply to each other.
@redphile (2264)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
It is good that we don't have excess baggage, like feelings of bitterness that we still have for our previous lovers. Its good that theres a good closure at the end of every relationship. No hard feelings, no violent emotions hidden. Although sometimes it is hard to accept the fact that he, she is gone. But hey, things change. We go find someone new. =)
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@nrab_11207 (174)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
i only had one EX, and we didn't spoke for about 8 years after the break up. it was just this year, through facebook, that we chat and talked about "us".
i believe we ought to have been friends sooner but things were not so easy then. maybe the hurt was in the way. but i am glad we are ok now.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
10 Jul 10
Not all my exes but there is this special one, we stop talking 3 years, talk again and everything remains the same. He is a really nice guy.
There's another one and he is really away, never talk or see him but we still friends. Only like once in a year, I think he is running from me.
And another. So I am friend of 3 ex"es".
