pain..which is better?

You are in pain but it is not right to further inflict pain in yourself. Why add misery to what you already have? Instead of doing that, move forward and try to focus your energy on other things. Like play basketball or any sports you prefer until you drop. Shout at the top of your lungs if you want or throw and break your utensils but do not hurt yourself anymore. There is a whole wide world waiting for you outside. She's not the only girl in this planet. Or you could try to understand her situation, too. She might love you but is not ready yet to go really that serious with you. Just give her time. I think both of you are still studying. Too young to have this kind of problem. Goodluck to you. Cheers.;-)

The thing avout pain is that it goes away. I think you should try and get youself over it, rather than distract your self. Also, just because she said no the first time, doesn't mean you'll never have her.

I understand how you feel. When my ex-boyfriend broke up with me it was a very painful situation for me. I couldn't stand the emotional pain, and I used physical pain as a distraction from the emotional pain. The physical pain helped me get away from the emotional pain for a short while, but the emotional pain returned and I had to find another way to get through it. It was very hard and I thought that I was never going to get happy again, but today and I am actually more happy than before. When I am suffering from severe physical pain like I did after my surgery I sometimes think that emotional pain is better than physical pain, but in most situations I find it easier to handle physical pain.

i have gone through this before 1 year and now i am all right....just brain wash your mind and u will be all right....i sat in front of mirror on that day and told my mind to forget that and just live ur life as usual.......now i dont seek for girls because my love was true..leave it..i think physical pain is better than emotional one...

I was also emotionally hurt before by my ex boyfriend. We had been in a relationship for four years and yet he cheated on me. He broke my heart because of that incident. It took me one year to recover. Though, now that he is talking to me again, and he's sweet as usual, I can't feel anything for him anymore. I made my family as my inspiration to forget him. You should also have inspiration so that you can put yourself into other things other than thinking of her. Please don't hurt yourself physically, though you say that you feel better but that just cannot solve anything. Look around you? What do you see? Its the present it? Past is past. Learn from it. Think again.

Why add more pain? You are already mentally and emotionally hurt, why get yourself physically hurt? Doesn't make sense isn't it. Though things maybe senseless for you right now, including your girlfriends rejection, just believe that all the things that are happening has a purpose. It's up to you to find the reason why things happen. Believe it or not, all the things that are happening to us will always be for our good- maybe not now, but in the future. Move forward... I bet, in the future, either your GF will realize that she's wrong or you'll realize that you're wrong to have proposed to her in the first place. Keep moving!

I preferred physical pain, just like your father hurts you physically if you done wrong than just give a little talk for you to have a conscience. Regarding your problem, you need to move on men, maybe it is not time to propose and not time for you to settle down, there is right time and place for that. Hope you are doing fine now after you hurt yourself.

either physical or mental (emotional)pain is not healthy. so what you should do is to avoid this kind of pain as much as possible. well at first you have to face the reality that breaking up with someone is totally painful. the pain that you are feeling should keep you stronger and not weaker.every time you hurt yourself do not show you are strong enough to face problems of the real world. and hurting yourself will not do you good instead it will make you more depressed and the scars will still make you remember all the pain. i suggest that you should love yourself more right now because yourself will help you stand up and face the problem. talk to someone who knows how to listen so you can release all the pain then after that do an activity that will boost your self confidence and help you regain your energy. do good in school because when the right girl for you will arrive, you can marry her anytime you want because you can afford it. maybe your ex girlfriend will realize that she was wrong in dropping your proposal. i hope that you will surpass your problem. :)

Both are not good either. You would not become a better person if you are not able to learn the lessons in your life. Do not deal with your emotions quickly. I advised to you to make friends instead and start pathing up your life. It isn't to late.

She just refused your proposal, but you didn't break up. Why are you so pain. As for the hurt, I think the physical hurt is more pain, because physical pain might leave a scar on your body, but mental pain will not.

I cant say i been in this situation but i have had lady problems, and all i can say is mental pain goes away eventually, as for the physical, its always going to be their. so my advise stop the pysical and go talk to a doc about your mental.

for me, not of it is good.because in mental pain, your loveones would be the one get worried about you. another thing, it was just in your thoughts that if you physically hurt yourself, it will make you feel better. no, it's not. it's just a manifestation because it's what you made yourself to believe in. i also had a relationship before where in my ex-boyfriend broke up with me without no reason at all. it took me months to recover, and just like what you did, i physically hurt myself by not eating, and i use to keep myself being drunk.it seems that my life is already hopeless without having him again.then my friends told me that,there's no good with destroying myself, what happened is done.and it made me realize that instead of doing those things,i just should kept myself busy for me to move on.i involved my self with a lot of activities,put my focus with my studies. months, and years had passed and a lot of people see how much ive grown since that day. at first, i did this to make him see whom he left, but as time passes by i realize that i shouldn't do this for him, but for myself. and looking at me now,i'm happy and satisfied.;p