losing a wife/husband
By lesfery
@lesfery (79)
Philippines
June 23, 2010 12:30pm CST
i heard a friend whose wife died this early june, i was informed by a friend that he love his wife so dearly and he always do what his wife told her before..now that she is gone we are thinking what will happen to him. a loving husband lost his partner, best friend, critics, and a number one fan..how to cope up after this?
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@butterline33 (184)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
loosing some one is very hard to accept, the wound really penetrates to the deepest..let him grief, give him time to heal, its not that easy especially that person is your partner in life.his family member can be used as a source of his strength right now, his friends could be also.
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@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
24 Jun 10
Hi butter line: I agree with you. The first thing a person should do in these cases is trying to understand the pain that your friend is passing through and being with him, listen to him so he will feel that he is not alone, that he doesn't have to be on his own. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day.
ALVARO
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
24 Jun 10
Hi cher: I agree with you. And it's not always with the person you love. When my Great Grand mother die, she had 98 years old and even with that my grand mother was depressed for this situation for weeks. She was always thinking about the things she should tell to her mother, the normal mistakes a person does in a relationship, etc. and she suffers because of this lost. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day.
ALVARO
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
24 Jun 10
Hi lesfery: This is really a sad situation. When a person that you love that way it's gone it hurts a lot and you don't forget her ever. But at the same time people need to have the time for their recovery because you shouldn't keep thinking about the things you could do in the past and that you don't have the love of your life anymore. Being a Christian Catholic person I think people don't leaves us completely and that they stay with us so this would help me in the process. As a friend you could talk with him and tell him that you'll be there when he need a friend. The process is hard but it's better when you know that you are not alone. Thanks for asking us this question. Have a nice day.
ALVARO
@sleepylittlerose (1648)
• United States
23 Jun 10
Losing anyone you love is never easy but you have to make a concious decision to move on and live in the spirit of the person that is gone. As hard as it may sound right now, he will learn to live again and move on with his life. I'm not sure how old this person is but it is possible that he may eventually be able to love again also. Just because his spouse has passed on does not mean that he needs to stop living. As a friend you should encourage him to find a new passion in his life, something that will give him meaning.
@sleepylittlerose (1648)
• United States
23 Jun 10
It will take time; but I know a man that had been married for 45 years when he lost his first wife to cancer. Several years later he met another widower who had lost her husband. They became great friends and were eventually married. He has been married to this woman for over 5 years now. Both have made it perfectly clear that they will be married with their first spouse as those people were their true first love but they also love each other very much. Time will heal the hurt if he is willing to allow the healing to be done.
