Do not compare me.

hi ambiepam yes I started at age 17 to take nurses training in of all places a catholic nurses school as I am and was protestant. The nuns madeit really hard for me and I was at 17 just too young too. So the head sister made sure I flunked out by constantly comparing me to my half sister who had graduated from there. for one thing she started training at age 23 and for another she was much more mature than I at 17., Nothing that I did was ever good enough and I heard this constantly Rosie would not have done that, Rosie got much better grades, all day every day until I quit demoralized by that sister. I never did go back to take nurses training somewhere else but worked as a nurses aide for many years. she really did a horrid job on me.I was really just a kid yet. It was during the second world war when everyone was so up tight anyway. I would not worry about this person's inability to take criticism but would come right out and tell her that I am not Amy so quit comparing me to her.It is hurting me so please stop it. If she is so brassy as to do that to you I do not think shes that easy to hurt. lol lol lol.

I have never so been compared to anyone else but I have had an in law family member say some pretty hurtful things about me to some other family members and none of them where true but what hurt me that most is the person that said these things about me really has no reason to because I have never sone anything wrong to her and to be honest I barely even talk to her that much when we are all together. I myself am a pretty show type of person and tend to "hide" behind my husband when we are around his family but am always very nice even when I don't want to be. We have been together just over 11 years and I always thought we were okay but to hear this person say these thing threw me off the boat of shock. I wish I could give you some advice on how to approach the complainer but I can't because I am sure that any advice I could offer would just cause more problems but I wish you the best at approaching this person about the things they are saying and hope they will cease their comparisons.

Hi AmbiePam, This is a difficult situation and although you say the other person would take it personally, let them, speaking honest;y about howyou feel abouit the situation willresolve it although they may get upset initially if they are a true friend they will understand where you are coming from and stop it. I don't thinkI have ever been compared to anyone except at work they laugh cos of my accent and call me Staceys mother who is a charater on a soap called Eastenders but I don't mindthat lol, the character does sound like me and is a little crazy which I think most of us are in a good way. Huggles. Ellie :D

I think the best way to go about it would be to say that it hurts your feelings when you're compaired to Amy. That way the other person cannot take it personally, as you're the one with hurt feelings, and hopefully that will put an end to it. I don't recall ever being compared to anyone else..

It's natural that some of our close friends compare us to someone. Sometimes comparison would result to either for our advantage or for our inferiority. Its so hard to make a move in telling our friends to stop comparing. Because we are afraid that they might think the wrong way. I've been to that situation and worst than you could ever imagine. Its not my friend who compared me to someone but my mom. At first I didnt mind it because I thought it was just a joke or something. But at the long run its was repeatedly done and caught my attention to check in myself. Well its a big probelem in part. I just felt the pressure to do what is best since I am compared to someone who is superior to me. Good thing I was able to handle the situation by being courgeous to start a conversation with my mom about that issue. My mom was open minded and was able to get my point. From then on, my mom never tried to compare me again to someone. Personally, a fine conversation would be a great help in this kind of situation. Comuncating to our friends in nice way would help in addressing our concerns on the issue. We just cant let the issue last to forever especially if it would affect our realtionship to them and also our way of living.

Well,i think yo should talk to the person who make asumptions on you... Everybody is unique!!

REally havent had this done to me on a weeker person but I do get it that grand daughter is like me which I take as a compliment.

ONce I was compared to Eran Brokevich (remember the movie?).I took that as a compliment...and there are other comparisons...like I am just like my mom......that also is a compliment to me...but otherwise I haven't had a comparison that is bad...but maybe it's my personality as I would speak up and say what I thought....I don't know how you can stop it....maybe just pointing out the differences between you and this person...say..I don't see any comparison here...then explain why.

If that person is very close to you, it will be hard to tell her to stop comparing you to another person. I really don't know what to do if I was in your shoes because I have not experience it. Just hope that she will get sick of it and stop comparing you. If you are brave enough you could gently confront her and ask her why it is a big issue to compare you with another person? Or maybe you should compare them too with another person, not because of revenge but hopefully they will realize how irritating it is to be compared to someone else. This thought just came to my mind while I'm typing..lol

It would be better to just show who you are to them. Prove to them that they are wrong. It's reflecting their own weaknesses not yours! Be a better person instead and do things that deserves more your attention.

if it can't be settled through explanations, prove it to them through your actions. each of us have our individual differences, so let them see your indifference. prove them that what they are talking about you is wrong. i almost had that king of situation wherein im being compared to my best friend,it can be an advantage in some ways but of course,im not like her. i have my own personality,so i make a way to really get out of her shadow to avoid myself to be compared to her. i somehow get rid of her sometimes, put a little distance between us, at the same time of doing that. i prove my self to the people around me, i let them see the other side of me, and proved them i stand on my own.