do you think it is ok to live without a friend in real life?
@Susanayako1988 (350)
China
June 23, 2010 11:52pm CST
I have seen a lot people spend all of their time on the Internet, they do not attend social activities and they do not socialize with people around them. They just like to hide themselves in the virutal world on the Internet. I like they seem to enjoy their lives. So I think it is ok to live without a friend in real life, what do you think?
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@gerry101 (229)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
The friends that we make on internet are different from the friends we have in real life because when we are in trouble our friends in real life are easily reach while friends on internet are not. Friends on internet are limited. It is not okay for me to live without a friend in real life. I don't mind having friends on internet though. Friends in real life are easier to reach when you have a problem or need.
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@alaskanray (4636)
• United States
24 Jun 10
I have made friends on the internet since becoming disabled who have meant even more to me than some of my "real life" friends. They were there for me, emotionally when none of my local friends would have anything to do with me because I wasn't riding high. To the contrary, I was in need and my local so-called friends disappeared. It's hard to make friends in the real world. So many of them are "too busy" for you when you really need a friend. My friends online, however, are always there, even when I'm bedridden. I may never see my local friends because I'm stuck in my house all the time but my online friends are always there because I can still access my laptop from bed. God bless my online friends! Love you guys!
@mavhequijada (110)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Hi, I am sorry about your condition. Even if you can't get in touch with your real friends because of your condition, you can still be friends with someone who doesn't leave your side - God, and He's gonna be your best friend ever!
@gerry101 (229)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
I am sorry to hear that alaskanray about your condition. God has bless you with real friends on internet as for me my friends on internet are really busy at times with work but it doesn't mean I don't love em or care for them. My real friends are more available to me when I have a problem or need someone to talk to while friends online I have to wait till they log on. But I don't blame them because they are very busy with work. A number of them work on Saturdays.
@blademaiden (734)
• Romania
24 Jun 10
Living without friends in real life is far from ok, but I can tell you it's much better than having fake friends who stab on your back with the greatest pleasure.
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@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Hello susanayoko ]
maybe we can chat for quite some time if you like. i don't have much friends to talk to in real life. i don't think i can live with out friends but i have seldom communicating with them, it's not easy being alone not to mention i don't have the money but for now i am happy to that online friends.
like yourself @modelhostaGe (14)
• China
25 Jun 10
hi,susanayako.
I think spending time with friend can indeed bring you a lot of benefits but also cause you some problems,such as the freedom part.I mean when you are with a bunch of firends you should always care about others' feeling and respect their choices.So I prefer to spend majority of my time alone,maybe because I am a person who prefer to be totally free, hehe.But this doesn't indicate that I am very much a loner,true friendship really important in my life,and I appreciate the support and love from my fiends so much!
@uniqueorn (1011)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Friends could sometimes be the reasons of our defeat in financial life. But mostly, they lift us up emotionally. Emotions play a vital role of our living. We need someone for every something. It is advisable to keep a friend with you throughout your life. It eases somehow the burdens we keep inside us. Even if it feels like for my part, they don't. :)
@alphonse_41 (65)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
no man is an island thats what they say and i agree i cant imagine without my friends around me feels like a complete stranger. i can share all my problems to them i feel like i have nothing to worry about cos i know they are always around to listen and to support me mentally, thats how important having someone like friends.
@carsocmaguinsay (417)
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
Ten years ago when i was in highschool, we had a fight with my friends. None of us three wanted to do the apology. We hadn't talk for a month and I spent all days alone. No man is an island, but some people can manage to be alone. With the technology now, everyone can get so absorbed with what they are doing and never needing social interactions.
I also have a friend who was diagnosed to have social introversion. She is the best example that it is possible to live without a friend in real life.
@animegirl334 (3263)
• United States
25 Jun 10
I think friends can be a very special addition to a person's life but even without friends, a person's life doesn't have to be lacking. People can enjoy life lots of ways and while some activities are best enjoyed while with company, there is a lot that a person can do by themseles and still be able to feel joy. One summer, my friends had all gone on vacation and I was all alone. It was boring for awhile but then I started visiting the local pool and it felt so nice to swim even though I was by myself. I ended up going every week to swim and it was really fun. I still consider that summer one of my best summers even though I did not spend it with friends.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
25 Jun 10
I think it's alright, but it might be a slightly boring life.. I think everyone has a friend; just that they either spend more time or less time. Friends have careers, families of their own and whatnot, so to be able to spend time with time when there are free times, is just awesome..
Online friends and friends are all the same meaning.. just that the nature and circumstances which differ..people online behave the same as people outside.. and if a good friend is on the net or outside, if they are nice, means they are nice.. I appreciate both sets of friends. So your question is, I think it's alright to live without a friend in real life, but it would be better to have some..
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
24 Jun 10
you gotta be kidding me now---how come one can even imagine to spend his time without having a friend.i have a group of friends who keep me busy all the time and we have a great time hanging together.It would be really when one of us fails to catch up at the weekends.so nope i dont think i would be alone without a friend which whom i can enjoy,share my sadness.great day.
If someone feels that normal....he may be abnormal....(no offense meant)
Man is a social animal...
thanks for the topic...
have a great day/night....... @braiym3 (135)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
No, because no one can live without a friend and if ever someone can - his life is miserable. Maybe some people are just trying to explore to know their limits as well. But at the end of the day, they still be needing a friend to cry, laugh and love.
@ohiocy (214)
• Malaysia
25 Jun 10
Well for one thing, you can't say that sticking to the internet is not connecting with your real life friends.. Because there are all the instant messaging programs and then of course there are those social forums..Heh..
Anyways back to your main topic, I don't think it is possible for any person to actually live without a real life friend, because I think such a life would be a hard one to cope with. It is so empty and sooo.. ermm.. sad. I'm not sure how to describe it but it pretty much sums up to being pointless to be living as a human and not have real life friends. Cheers.
@xcel0684 (76)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
I am sorry but I can't live without a friend. First of all, no man is an island and we are social beings so we can't live without a companion like a friend. I think people only spend just a portion of their time on the internet and after that they go out and meet someone. Well as far as I have observed here in Philippines, students go to net cafes in group to play or update/check their social networking accounts like Facebook or Friendster still about socializing.
@shaggin (72141)
• United States
24 Jun 10
I have two little children and I am a stay at home mom so I do not get much adult conversation. I go on facebook very often and thats pretty much the only socialization that I get. I love friends life just isnt the same without friends. Its just hard getting together with friends when our lives can be so busy sometimes. Most of my friends are not stay at home moms like I am so its harder to get together with them. I like my solitude though just not all the time is all.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
24 Jun 10
I guess that life would still go on if you did not have a friend in your life. Thingss would still be aable to turn out right. It would just be a lonely existence without the support of friends to lean on. I would choose to have friends instead of being alone.
@marvinstienz (18)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Personally, I dont think that it is ok to like without a friend in real life. Friends are important to us. They makes us understand more about life through various interactions. The fact that you want to make interactions virtually through is the good reason for you to interact physically by attending activities or by just a chat with someone personally. I hope that you would learn to socialize and have fun to those people who want to minggle with you.
@gen0272001 (39)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
it is ok to a certain extent..you still have to live life the real way..interacting with people, nature and God....life with out the internet or social networking sites don't last as long as humans to an emotional or more valuable extent....this realm is still incomplete..family.friends, spirituality, human mentality and emotionally outweigh this world more than anything else..you should think twice about that..not having a life outside this...just a friendly reminder..;)
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
24 Jun 10
If you say that sun rises in the west i might believe you. If you say that i can fly as a bird i might believe you but i don't believe you when you say that one can live without friends. They are the only persons, who are in a relationship with us, who are not actually in any relationship with us. I can't do a single moment without talking to any friend of mine. They are the very breathe of my life. They are the music of my soul. It's their friendship and trust that keep my heart beating till now. I wouldn't leave them for anyone. I will die till the very end with them...
@dominiquilita (15)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
For me, no.God gave each people a "buddy:, to be their to accompany them, someone who will share their happiness, experiences, learnings and love. and it is what we call a friend. yes it's also cool to have a friend even just through internet but isn't it nicer to have somebody to help you. somebody you can talk to and be with you personally?;) We are given a friend to stay with us, to have someone who would never let us down and understand how we feel. and or course, friends are not just being looked for, it's being prayed for. because God will always give us the best.;)
