I put up a discussion two days ago
By mysticmaggie
@mysticmaggie (2498)
United States
7 responses
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
25 Jun 10
Because my best friend is my husband and I'm his. We both office from home, we spend at least 55 days a year together at our summer property. I couldn't and wouldn't even start thinking about that. I'd start crying and not stop for days.
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@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
25 Jun 10
My husband held the rank of first person to discuss anything in the world with until last June when he had a massive stroke. Now, my darling cannot talk and his frustration is heartbreaking.
As a writer, I counted on him for a truthful analysis of my work. When it was good, he said so, but he also let me know when something was lacking or it made no sense or was just plain awful. Few husbands will take the time to listen to every piece his wife writes, much less take the chance that she can't handle it when he has to tell her to go back to the drawing board.
I tried reading some of my work to him after he came home, but he got so upset at not being able to help, I stopped.
I miss him so much, even though he sits in his wheelchair just a foot away.
@KCruzado (78)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
I don't think that's the reason for that =D. It could be that your title wasn't catchy enough for other myLotters to notice. Or maybe there was no enough to say about the discussion, or whatever. You know there are tons of reasons for that.
Personally, I do not know what to do if I lose my best friend. I mean I couldn't even stand a day of misunderstanding or quarrel; how much more if I lose her.
A topic about friendship is always an interesting topic for me. And am sure for others as well. However, it may not always be the kind of topic that most people would love to talk about. So cheer up. And thank you for the post. Blessings =D.
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@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
24 Jun 10
I have two wonderful friends, one has been with me for over forty years and the other about five. Amazingly, we have never fought, except for the one I discuss politics with. Even after robust discussions, we hug and part friends, willing to do anything for each other.
The first shows up when there are health problems at my house. I don't call her; she just arrives. I think she's my guardian angel. She always makes the days brighter and puts a sweeter face on everything.
@KCruzado (78)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
Don't discuss politics - not even with your best friend especially if you are both on an opposing side =D. Just kidding!
Best friends are always like angels. Mine buys me groceries whenever I run out of money =D. On the other hand, I do her assignment (when she was taking her Masters). I also fought her fight. Well we fought her fight together. She just loves to enter into fights hahaha!
About 4 years ago, I left my hometown for a new city. I left my best friend there too. It was so sad and painful and it took me 3 years to be just on my own. No new friends.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
25 Jun 10
I must have missed your discussion because I certainly would have answered a question like that! I have a great friend who has been my rock (and vice versa) for over 30 years so I would miss many things if our friendship ended. I would miss hearing about what is going on with her family and I would miss having someone to talk to who knows when you shut up and listen and when to offer advice. I would also miss spending an hour or so on the phone talking about absolutely nothing...and having a wonderful time doing it!
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
25 Jun 10
You definitely have a best friend! Best friends always know when to talk, but are equally comfortable just being in the same room.
After my husband had a stroke, my buddy showed up at my door. She had an open-ended ticket, so she could stay as long as we needed her or leave if she got in the way.
I told her she could never get in the way. We often played word games or sometimes we did nothing and didn't talk either. How delicious to have someone like her around. No stress. No urgency to entertain. No special meal planning. Just a relaxing visit from a dear person I can't imagine being without.
@anday0108 (628)
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
I have a best friend and I don't want to think about losing her. It makes me sad just to think about it. Maybe people did not reply to your discussion because like me they do not want to lose their best friend. I will certainly miss everything about my best friend and having said that, I don't want to think about it. I care for my best friend and I do not want to lose her.
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
25 Jun 10
You and your friend are fortunate to have each other. It's painful to think of losing them and reality is worse.
Call your friend and let her know just how much she means to you. Sometimes we a special person knows how we feel. We don't tell them today because we believe there will always be a tomorrow.
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@anday0108 (628)
• Philippines
25 Jun 10
Yes, its painful to think about losing a friend. Everyday we call each other and I never fail to tell her how important she is to my life. It is always best to tell the people we hold dearly in our heart how much they mean to us while there is still time and while they can still hear us.
@incus99 (1083)
• Philippines
24 Jun 10
I posted a similar post yesterday and got 19 responses.. I asked " Can you have more than one Best friends?" .. maybe its more positive than what you posted ... Its a tragic though to loose a friend more so a best friend.. its really the good memories that flashes back.. and the companionship that you will miss.
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@frozenphoenix (530)
• India
24 Jun 10
actually my id was blocked since 5 days.its blazekk.
i created this id just 4 hours back dude
so i wasofline and couldnt respond to ur discussion
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
24 Jun 10
Maggie,
I am shocked that you did not get any responses. Like me maybe some just missed the post or didn't get the post notification.
I have a friend that I've known since 1974 and she became my best friend of all time. We started off as opposites. I was overly emotional and sensitive and she seemed to be without any sensitivity. But we both loved to laugh and we both were very loyal friends. Slowly but surely we both came to understand what was behind our extreme emotions. I taught her how to be more sensitive and she taught me how to better control my emotions. We would do anything for each other. We are seperated by 3000 miles but my love for her will never die. The thought of losing her would devastate me but what it would truly do to me is I can't put into words. It would certainly change my life forever.
Leenie
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
24 Jun 10
You are so lucky to have such a wonderful friend! I'm delighted that you cherish your friendship so much.
My buddy, MJ, is the absolute best. We met each other when we went to work for the FBI in Washington, D.C. That was over 40 years ago. I've been with her through three divorces before she found the right man. She's been with me through family illnesses.
Losing her would be losing a part of myself.
