my son looked at p o r n

Whoa! That could really be scary, to think that he's only 9 years old. Oh, well, there're a lot younger kids out there who are doing the same which is really, really not good. I think, what you should do is to try to talk to him seriously and get him to understand why you're not allowing him to do such thing, or why is it bad. Because, you know, sometimes, when parents just keep on telling their kids to not do this or that, they may not really understand why. So, the best thing maybe (for me) to do is to make him understand. Hope you'd consider this. Happy MyLotting! :)

This recently happened to me and i found that Norton has free family software that you load onto your computer and the one your kid uses. It is simple to do. You can block specific sites or X rated sites. It tells you when they try to access them too. it is online family dot norton dot com. Good luck to you! I have been told it is part of growing up and natural curiosity but I blocked them all in my house

I was really shocked dear ur son is so young. & he. u should talk with ur son its nt his fault its d mordrn technology. u make him feel that he is doing bad things its bad 2 watch these sites u guide him hope everything wil b allright u need not 2 b worry

I don't really know what to say.He must have seen a site like those at one of his friends. And then curiosity makes the move.For the moment you're doing well,punishing him will do. These things are totally normal so don't worry .

i feel that by watching him you make him feel like hes untrust worthy. therefor he becomes untrust worthy. im not saying that what he did was right, because it wasnt. but i am saying that the way you treat him is the way he's going to act. oh and send me a message if you would like to know how to block all these bad sites

Sounds like something my nephew did with my computer. He is 12yrs old. WHat I did was I made him a user account with parental controls. He made his own user name and account password that only him knows. I also put his account on parental controls meaning I blocked all the sites that I don't want him to go into. And he only goes on my computer with permission. When I asked him, what made him go to that site he told me his friend dared him to go on it. So I had a chat with my neighbor cause it was her son. Children now a days learn so much and they get so curious that they are always going to wonder and ask. We just have to do the best we can to protect them as grown ups.

My now 10 year old son did the same when he was 9. He was curious about it. He wasn't usually allowed to use the computer unsupervised. Earlier he had also told me how he feels about looking at pictures in the newspaper (our kids weren't allowed to watch television). This incident happened when we went grocery shopping once and he was left home. We found the sites in the 'History'. My husband and I had a talk with him after that where we told him it was natural for him to be curious. We told him that what he saw was not the real thing and it wouldn't help him. If he had doubts, he had to come to us. We would openly tell him what he needed to know. We also felt that we need to keep him occupied in other activities. We told him the same. Once he got busy with other constructive activities, he was fine. This also opened up the 'Birds and the bees' topic for us. We also set up a filter and a software that wouldn't allow such sites to be opened.

I think your doing the best for a situation like this. Luckily, I have it fixed that my 8 year old can't look at programs without it asking for my permission first. Got to love how the older kids put things in their fragile minds making them curious of stuff that they are not ready for. I wouldn't completely ban him from the internet. There are so many programs out there to block junk like that, which you have already done. I have two girls, ages 14 and 8. In away, I'm so glad I didn't have a boy. Like I said before, you handled this situation way better than I would. I think I would have went off the deep end.

When I was a boy of 8-10 years old, there were no computers then, but sometimes one of the other boys would bring in some naughty pictures of ladies that weren't dressed. They were considered p o r n in those days. We were very curious and knew that we weren't supposed to be looking at them, but we looked at them anyway and giggled away. At 9 years old we weren't really into the sexuality of such things. It was just that because it was forbidden, we wanted to do it! That's the way it is with young boys, as I remember. This curiousity is a natural part of growing up. However, the Internet is full of much worse stuff than we looked at, and you are right to make sure that you son doesn't look into the seedier side of the net. I would imagine that he would get s ex education in school, so much would be explained to him there. In your own way, I would say it is good to start informing him of what goes on in the world, so that he knows what to avoid. I don't think it is easy in these days of the Internet to advise a child though. We need to keep an eye on the youngsters but also give them a little trust so that they can learn some things for themselves. _Derek

WOW! He's so young. I think you are right to ban the computer. Ask him if he has any questions about what he saw. He will probably be so embarrassed! Then ask him if he understands why he shouldn't be on those websites. I would definitely get programs to filter the websites. Good luck.

Hello goldie Are you sure he opened the site, or the site suddenly popped up? If he admited, then talk to him it is not normal that he watchs it, because he is a child and he should be more interested on different other things, and tell him how he can face his curiosity to se x. Make a tight schedule for him, if he finds different hobbies, the hobbies distract him from this kind of curisoity. I don't think standing right next to him is good, somehow he would even become more curious on these kind of sites.

Hy goldie77, First of all I would like to say to you that I have a very good solution for you , so you won't be worried any more and you won't have to supervise your kid from now on . Before I read your entire post I was saying in my mind it's pretty normal , but for a 15-16 year old boy , not for a nine year old one . Maybe he's just curious but anyway I think you really need to have a chat with him . Ask him why he did this , and have an open attitude . But this will not keep you from banning this sites . Like I said in my first sentence there is something that can help you . A program called K9 parental control . You can download it for free and you can forbid him only sites of type x x x or anything you want . You can make your own list of forbidden sites and you can pre-set the time your kid is allowed to stay on the internet . Also you can set , if he tries to enter an un-allowed site for more than , let's say 5 times , he can't access the internet for 15 minutes . I think it's really useful for you . So keep me up to date if it works well !

This is very normal actually . When I was young , I was very curious too , so i visit those adult sites. You should try to explain things to him and restraining isn't going to help .

my recommendation here are the lists cyber patrol, we blocker kids safe explorer www.wisechoice.net www. the web blocker i hope this will solve your problem.

Hi goldie and welcome to myLot! I think that he's at the "curious age" already. Kids seem to get there alot sooner these days and the Internet is to thank for alot of it. You can lock him out of the sites, which for now would work. But, I think that you already seem to know how to handle it from your other responses! I hardly ever read the responses because I usually respond from my emails, but since you made the Digest, and to me that is a big deal I got to meet!

Put child blocks on your computer. They have to have the password to get into anything but sites you approve.

Your son is abit young to be looking at things like that.But if it makes you feel any better,there are alot of children that get to see sites like that as they are soo easy to get on.You did do the right thing though by banning him from the pc.

well that is not very much strange.. it is normal for boys.. we get attracted.. all you can do is try to be frank with your son.. and let him share his secrets with you... try to be his best friend..

Maybe you should take actions on it, don't let your son make such fool things like that. He should be grounded for at least 3 days in your house for his punishment so he will realize that what he did was wrong. Don't worry to much everything's gonna be alright.

I think that you did the right thing. Banning him from the computer and supervising him is the best choice! I'd be shocked as well..