Toddlers on Wedding

If I visited a friend's wedding then I would come along with my baby daughter and my toddler son. She is almost one year old and he is three years old. He is disabled. Therefore I push them along in a tandem buggy. If of them began ctying in the wedding I would take him or her outside for a play session. Then I would come back in when my baby or toddler was ready for the wedding. I wouldn't want to spoilt the happy couple's day. It wouldn't be great to let a toddler have a tantrum at a wedding.

I remember my sister's wedding where I brought with me my son, he's 2 years old that time. I am a bridesmaid and I let my cousin to take care of him while I'm serving the bride. To my surprise I heard my son screaming and crying, it was very embarrassing, it leaves me no choice but to go to him to make him stop. I thought he would stop if he sees me but worst he cried so loud and scream "I want to go home". Actually he continued until the wedding ceremony is over. Hope next time he will not do it again, he is 3 years old now and he is more attentive than before.

When my children were toddlers, I did not take them out a lot to events or even to stores. Generally, their father would stay with them at home and I would shop or go where I had to go. If it was an event we had to attend as a couple, they would generally stay with Grandma (my mom) which both she and the kids loved. I think there are certain events that are just not appropriate for very small children. There is not enough for them to do, they get bored and bored children will misbehave eventually, no matter how good they try to be. If there was a wedding where my children were invited on the invitation, yes, I would consider taking them because I'd think the couple was prepared for children (maybe having activities or even some form of child care at the reception). Or, I might just take them to see the wedding service and then leave them with a sitter for the reception. But, if children were "allowed" to attend only because other children were involved in the wedding party, for example, then no... I'd probably leave them at home where they would be happy, occupied with toys and things to do, and able to fall asleep in their own bed at their regular bed time, etc. Just how I always preferred to do things :) Not because I didn't love taking my kids along... I just preferred to take them where they would be appreciated by others and where the event was more "kid friendly" :)

When my daughter was younger, I did take her to several weddings, in fact, she was the flower girl in my wedding when she was only 19 months old. In all of the situations where she got to go to a wedding, she was actually very, very well behaved. We never had a chance that we had to face an experience where she threw a temper tantrum during the ceremony or at the reception. If she had, we would have simply removed her from the situation.

the last wedding our family attended was my sis-in-law's wedding and my daughter just turned 3yrs then and was included in her secondary sponsor- a flower girl. it turned out okay cause she walked in the aisle with her cousin and behaved for at least half of the ceremony .by the time she's having tantrum, her father brought her out of the church.