Can I get married when I am in this situation?
@juanjuanlevin (147)
China
June 27, 2010 4:07am CST
I consider him as a good boy except he can not say much sweet words to make girls happy.Recently I feel more and more I can not live without him,and sometimes I even want to marry him then build a warm family.However,raality ia also cruel to people who have true love--his hometown is far away from mine and I told him if he can reside and buy a house in my hometown,I will marry him.His response was very calm,he said now he don't have enough money to satisfy my demand...but as soon as he is rich enough,he will.
I am decisive and I will not leave my hometown and my parents for love.Both of us are old enough to build a family but both of us are unwilling to make a rent house our home.Is the only way is waiting for his money and mine?what should I do ?
5 responses
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
28 Jun 10
Hi Juanjuanlevin,
Well, no one can tell you what to do in a situation like this. I will say that buying a house is a really big expense and so you may be in for quite a long wait to get married. Do you both work? Do you both still live with the parents? If you work, which one of you earns the most money? It would be hard for me to even tell you what I would do in that situation based on the information you gave us.
@juanjuanlevin (147)
• China
28 Jun 10
If I tell you the truth,you must be shocked----I know him from internet and we only meet each other for one time!In fact,I don't know of him very deeply...But I love him and I have no feeling to other boys although people around me are introducing boyfriends to me.If I plan to marry him,I guess my parents will not agree us to be togehter,so I intend to ask him buy a house in my hometown and convince my parents with this fact.Waiting doesn't matter,the key problem is I am afraid of we have no future and I will waste my youth. :-(
@qianyun6 (2067)
• China
28 Jun 10
In China, house problem is reality! I see your age from your profile, you are young enough to wait, if your boyfriend has a similar age, i think waiting several years to save enough money is a good choice. Maybe you have already seen such a statement in Chinese blogs or sites, "Marriage without bread is fragile." Especially you are a girl. So my advice is, if you are not living in crazy cities like Beijing or Shanghai, waiting for sufficient bread is better than a marriage without firm economic base.
Best wishes to you!
@juanjuanlevin (147)
• China
28 Jun 10
I have responsed you,but when I submit,the internet broke off.I even become mad.
@prakashspy (12)
• India
27 Jun 10
One should never be selfish when in love.Never think in your own perspective think what is best to both of you .always try to be independent in nature and be together in decision.So always think of your love before your parents and family.As they are for you and your siblings.But your partner is for you and only for you. So just think about it and lead a happy life.
@ascof12 (23)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
Love knows no border. Love is like a wind that everyone feels but no one sees it. If the both of you truly love each other, then wait for the right time for the both of you to live together. Love is not just about what you feel, it also about how long can you embrace it and how long can you resist all tragedies that will go on your way. If you really love him and he loves you as well, wait for him. Patience is the key, the solution to your problem
