need advice

Oh, I experienced that "love triangle between bestfriends", twice already. When I was still in high school, I loved my guy bestfriend, but my girl bestfriend love him also. I don't want to hurt my girl bff, that's why I didn't do anything. I graduated high school, now that I am in college, I am still contacting my guy bff. I've been telling him that I loved someone during our high school days. I even gave him a clue. I told him that the a guy I loved before was "an ugly creature". I always call him ugly before. I think he already knows that it was him. But I don't care anymore about him, because I don't love him anymore. Right now, the same situation came up again. What will I do? Give up again. My reason for telling you this is, you should not always force your feelings to somebody. What I've been doing this time is "playing safe". If your friend is like me, who loves his friends more than himself, then this is the solution. I know it is cowardice, but I always believe that, "if someone truly belongs to you, no matter what happens, that someone will always come back to you"

Um... this is definitely a hard one... This question is one of the most-frequently-asked and most-unanswered questions in the world. As I am no professional advisor, I don't want you to take my advice as 100% true. I can only tell you what i would do if i were in that situation. I believe there is only 1 person meant for us in this life. That is why if this person is really the "true love" then everything will work out. This might sound a bit fairy taley, but overall it may be true. Maybe your friend shouldn't fight for love, but give it time. Give his love time to break up with his best friend, or if not then give himself (or herself) time to relax and think about it clearly. If both your friend and the best friend are really that close, maybe they should talk about it. Hope I helped!!!

I think your friend must know about the girl's feelings. If the girl has feelings for him and not for the other then your friend can carry on. If the girl loves the other guy so it will be useless to love a person who do not love you but love your friend. The girl's decision is very important here. Remember you cannot force a person to love you even by fighting.

it will be the girls best choice but actually your friend should realized that he's not the only one loving the girl so whatever the girls decision will be he should accept it,its either bad or good he doesnt have a choice but to accpet teh girls decision.

I think it's best for the best of friends to talk over this crazy situation that they're in. They should weigh their options. Would they consider courting the same girl and end up hurting each other? or just find some other girl? If they really are bestfriends, I think they wouldn't let a girl break their friendship :)

You should agree that who ever you're love chooses is the one she will be together. You can't just do a competition who ever wins, because she can also not like him.

I agree with you, all is fare in love he should tell his best friend that they are both in love with the same girl. If his friend is a real man, he should accept the challenge and who ever got the girls "YES" then the other one should support instead no matter how it hurts. That is how real man do, being sports and fare enough to a friend.