How will you know when your husband/wife is abusive in different ways?

Abuse can be of physical or verbal situations and it's so traumatic on both party. Depends on whose the culprit, but 90% are the husbands or the males. There was a time when my husband hit me but I fought back from then on he never hit me again. It's only a matter of telling him .... hey you have no right to do this to me. Women should never let their husbands abuse them; be it physical abuse or verbal abuse. If my husband do the cushing well I did too. If he's on the right side I keep quite but if not I reasoned out.

hello amyson! abuse can be emotional, physical or psychological. shouting per se or alone is not an indication that there's abuse but if it is done with insult, criticism and hurting words, it is an abuse. (some people shout because others can't hear clearly). i should know about these because i'd been there. i had been abused psychologically, emotionally and physically by my e-hubby. i survived for almost 7 years and then i decided i can't take it anymore so i bailed out and never looked back. i don't want others to experience what i have experienced. it slowly killed my spirit and my passion. Luckily for me, i was made of sterner stuff, i was able to pull through, but not after so many months of almost going nowhere. the signs? you will surely know once you've seen it. it is not natural for husbands or wives to shout at their supposed loved ones everytime, to threaten them with knives everytime their wishes are not agreed to. it's not natural for husbands/wives to shred their partners clothes to pieces everytime they can't get what they want.

even if husband shouts at you it's already an abuse. words are more hurting than physical abuse. i call it emotional maltreatment and the guy doesn't have respect on the girl. why not just talk about it over a coffee cup, if possible and not raise voice.

I have had neighbors like this before but what I cannot tolerate is when the parents are abusive to their children. Or abuse each other in front of their children. I personally would not tolerate an abusive relationship for one minute, neither physical nor verbal. But I do understand that in some parts of the world there is no escaping it. Usually, but not always (!), it is a man abusing a woman, and that is why I consider it so important for girls to get equal opportunities in education and in the workplace, so that they do not grow up dependent on men. Educated women are somewhat less likely to put up with silly nonsense.

hi,amy,my friend,h r u..we miss you here for some time.Keep appear here now and then atleast friends like me..regarding this discussion---i happened to seen few families..but God sake no incidences in our relations.. 1]Be A Good Friend-- First thing you have to do is make sure you are there for them. Be their shoulder to cry on and the person they feel comfortable turning to for advice or just to talk. Remember to let your friend know that they do not deserve what they are going through and that domestic violence or abuse is not acceptable. 2]Log it-- Anytime you hear of abuse or any type of domestic violence that your friend has suffered write it down and date it. Also, suggest to your friend that they should log any experience of domestic violence as well. It may be needed later on if the police have to get involved. 3]Ask-- Ask your friend if they are willing to discuss couples counseling. Very rarely but on occasion some people have been known to benefit from counseling when they are dealing with domestic violence in their relationship. 4]Things to Keep in Mind-- Never leave any information regarding the abuse or domestic violence resources anywhere where the abuser can find them. 5]Be Careful-- Many times if you get too involved the abuser will try and separate you from the victim and may take out their frustration with your involvement on your friend. http://www.ehow.com/how_4604223_friend-abusive-relationship-domestic-violence.html All the best and have a nice day.

If I was your neighbor's wife ,I will break up with him . This man can not deserve have wife . It is important to understand , help , love each other between one of couple . Do you have the same thoughts ?

Actually, after 14 years of marriage, I’m a bit confused as to what and how much can be construed as abuse. Take my case…my hubby (being the typical Indian male) doest lift a spoon at home…I do all the work…is that abuse (sometimes I feel it is)…I shout at him most of the time in frustration…I call him names even…so is that abuse??? What exactly do I do? Sue for divorce just coz hubby doesn’t help with household chores??? It does sound ridiculous yet to many couples across the world, this might be the sole reason for separation! So apart from physical abuse and non-stop verbal abuse (which are clear-cut abuses) I think all marriages have their own issues which (like you say) are best sorted out within themselves. Otherwise the counselor is always there

I think verbally abrusive is more mentally damaging compared to physical abuse.. For physical abuse is often triggered by some arguements or when one is drunk etc.. BUt when it comes to verbal abuse, it can come anytime of the day, ranging from very little things, and from there it can escalate or become physical abuse too.. Signs of verbal abuse, comes from the volume of the way they talk?? As well as finding fault with every thing, and including bringing up things of the past even though it's already solved?? hehe

I am still single so could not probably relate when it comes to personal experience. But happen to witness some domestic abuses happen from a neighbor where her husband happen to have a high blood pressure. Whenever he is in the bad mood he could hurt her wife including children by yelling them many times in a loud voice. The most evil act comes when he slap her wife then throw any objects on her. Then aside from those verbal abuses he also physically hurt them. The wife just patiently stood with his husband behavior because she also understand his husband have those fit of angers because he had suffer from stroke and had a blood clot on his brain. But I think it is not the right reason to be an acceptable alibi. Even the person is sick he still have no right to abuse anyone and that is very unforgiving. I know their is a lot of battered housewives and children suffering from mishandled inappropriate behavior by the man who suppose to protect them but it turn out the wrong way. The culprit sometimes belong to close relatives or sad fact from the abusive father who I really dislike that they exist. When case like that ensued in my neighborhood I do not like to intervene directly but would call a social services assistant to provide protection when domestic violence is too much to bear. I would not tolerate abuse and bully may exist. They could hurt me verbally maybe but would not allow the physical form. It they would try it then I have no choice but to protect myself form abuses and would do anything to control their aggressiveness.

When she/he have lose respect in whatever you do. He or she get jealous easily iver minor things. Then the trust is also lose. those are the manifestation then he.she like to embarrass you most of the times making you look funny all the time.

Hello friend this is really very difficult to know and find that your spouse is a abusive in different ways it is really different to know where is your spouse going i am all these things because i am not a married person that's why i am saying these all things.

when my wife close the door heavily.

Honestly, if it is going on in the middle of the night, I suspect that the main issue is a drinking problem. Not necessarily abuse of each other. Married couples fight....sometime a lot for awhile. But screaming and degrading and anything physical is going over the line. Make sure you stay out of it. Getting involved in domestic disputes never ends up good for the person getting involved.

a husband can be abusive by shouting, calling his wife names, etc. its not a reason if his stress or worried, his wife doesn't deserve to be treat that way. its very disturbing in your part to know what's happening to your neigbor but sometimes we let husband and wife patch their problem on their own. we can let them have their verbal fights but physical hurting is a no no.

I would hope the one being abused knows that they are being abused. I know i was in shituations like that before. I was arunaway wife 2 times. Well actually once because i wasnt married to the second one. Anyay i ran away both times. The first time i ran away there were no shelters. I used the rent & grocery money to buy a bus ticket back to my home state where all my relatives were. Most the time you have to run away because these abusive males will get violent when they discover you are trying to get away from them.

This is a common thing with some couples. The husband might not hurt the wife physically,but emotionally. Using bad words or degrading a wife is considered as abusive words. An abusive husband is,someone who doesn't know how to respect his wife's feelings. Someone who is not considerate enough to despise his wife even other people hear it.

The period of courtship is provided to really get to know your partner well.. if there are signs of verbal and physical abuse, then by all means stay away from him.. well. if you're already married, Philippine law provides for (VAWS) Violence Against Women and Children.. we can have abusive husband convicted for the crimes committed to their wives or children..