Quarter-life crisis, does everyone go through this phase?

Philippines
June 27, 2010 10:59am CST
I believe I am experiencing quarter-life crisis, as what they call it. I am 24 years old, do not have a career, still asking money from my parents, never had a real job and never had the chance to work in my field (Nursing). I wanted to try another field, but it seems as if the more I want something, the more it gets out of my grip!! :( I feel I have not done anything in my life! I want to be successful, but I the clock is ticking. Is it normal to feel this way?
6 responses
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
28 Jun 10
Hi globetrotter. If you are uncomfortable with your position in life, change it. Be proactive. Go out and look for ways to get where you want to go. Don't wait for opportunities to come to you...go find them.
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
Thank you. I will keep that in mind. Be proactive!!!
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
28 Jun 10
Different people see their life changes in different ways. Some are more accepting of their successes and failures. Some cope easily with the cycle of life, while others have difficulty facing it. I don't believe that everyone goes through the quarter life crisis in the same way.. Some do not see it as a crisis. Some see it as a stepping stone of their achievements.
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
Hmmmm... I haven't thought of seeing it in that sense. But, that's a great insight. To see is as a stepping stone rather than a crisis.
• Philippines
27 Jun 10
hi there globetrotter. honey, it's not too late to start. you are 24...please do not think and feel that you are behind what you can do. you are young. yes, maybe the right job for your profession hasn't come yet. who knows it's not even yours. you might want to use those other talents and potentials in finding the right career. trust me, you can surprise yourself...just don't be afraid in trying. when i was a fresh graduate, i badly wanted to push for a career in line with my course, psychology. however, i can't seem to find the right job. i tried to switch to a different path...and i am not complaining. i suprised myself because i never thought i could be in the profession that i have where going to work everyday was a treat for me. you know what, a huge percentage of people do not really land jobs that they want or planned for. so, don't be afraid to test the waters. if they do not work for you, you have your diploma and memory bank to revert back to nursing.
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
Wow, thank you so much for that insightful response! :) Sometimes, I think I pressure myself too much. I guess I just have to be patient and keep on trying!
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
6 Jul 10
Well this is same feeling of everyone, tough time to pass through. But it will change.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
It is normal to feel that in your 20's. I kept switching jobs, too, and had asked for money from my parents. And, then, I went back to school and had odd jobs during that time, but, still kept asking money from my parents. I you'd like a job as a Nurse ( I have a feeling you're a Filipino, too), and would like to pursue it elsewhere, try volunteering first. As to the other field, if it is really what you want, why don't you try it? You might thinkg that time is running out, but when you get to your thirties, you'll find that you had much time in your twenties. You're still young, and there's much time to succeed. The thing is to keep trying. Good luck to you! Hope you find what your really want :)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
Haha, you got that right. I am a Filipino. Thanks for your advice! And yes, I won't stop trying until I find and get what I really want. :)
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
27 Jun 10
Yes, I remember that I had the same phase at 25, and I had a pretty good life then for my age. But I think it is really one of those times in life where you start questioning yourself and some of the choices you've made. So it is completely normal, and it will pass, don't worry. Try to start doing stuff now instead, and it will all be okay. You have plenty of time, you are still young and should not worry about this in a serious way! (Also, don't compare yourself to others the same age as you, that is rarely helpful, because we are all different, so it does not matter what your friends have achieved or not achieved yet)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
You are so right. I tend to compare myself to my friends and it gets me down every time they talk about how much fun they are having with their present jobs, when I see pictures of them traveling to different countries, when they talk about their grand future plans. Thank you for that advice. I should just stop comparing myself to the rest and start doing something for myself!