Do women think that men don't express their love enough?

I don’t know about other men but at least my hubby has never been the expressive kind. Since the time I’ve known him from our college days, he’s never gifted me any flowers or chocolates or whatever girlie things we girls are supposed to like…if you ask him to buy a gift for me even now (after 14 yrs of marriage) he’d actually be as confused as he was way back then…he now just gives me the money to buy whatever I want to BUT never for a moment do I doubt his love and sincerity towards me. So whether a guy expresses his love or not, you’ll have to know his heart to understand if he’s really serious or just flirting…expressions don’t always mean everything. BTW I don’t think guys are not expressive…most of them I see wooing their gfs all the time…yes, hubbies maybe are not that intense, but then all marriages lose the intensity of young love after a few years and that’s perfectly normal and understandable.

hello dear anna, This is true,mean shows too much expression during the initial period,and become lesser in time. Maybe becoz,men feels that,their wives/partner don't need it anymore since they are living together and that as they age,it doesn't fit at all with flowery words. I wonder why men are not sensitive enough to feel that,some women loves flattery. Well,you know the answer well,more than i do dear anna,why men are not expressive. Have a good weekdays

Yup men are very poor at expressing themselves and I guess its the way they are. The culture and society has put boldness as an image for man and a soft, sentimental man, cannot be a man at all. Well, that's the way it is I guess

Unfortunately in most cases this is true. Men can treat women with all the love and care in the beginning of a relationship. But for some reason, as they get used to each other, that expressive love and affection fades away. Sad, actually. TATA.

Hi anna, Since our family is a joint family, we may not get time or place to express our views to each other, but i can guess the expressions from his face. He some times tell me you are an angle i think this word is more than enough for a women i feel.

the few men in the world who really don't express themselves enough has made a lot of women stereotype all men as being the same way... i for one will always strive to make sure my lady feels appreciated...because for me a happy lady makes a very happy man but then, this is just my humble opinion

Vijayanths! Men [especially the men of our generation and the older generation]are made that way.THey do not think that these small gestures are necessary to keep things going. Even as far as expressing things like " the food is good or bad", "the dress she wears is good or bad",they never said all this.Probably they took it for granted that the food ought to be good . My father never paid many compliments to my mother. I have always found a way to this.I would immediately ask my husband if I make a good dish "Is it good?'" .Similarly when I wear a new saree I would go and parade in front of him and get the compliment[Karandhu vanguven complimentai]-no heart aches this way.These are silly immature expectations and we have to cope with that in the above manner if we have expectations and we want to be happy.Why keep complaining?-- I deal with it by asking for it[it does not cost a penny.] My husband is a very good person who would give the compliment when I ask for it.[I would also be very careful and ask only if the dish is really good]Otherwise, the fact that he does not complain and is very tolerant is compliment enough.

Vijayanths, I think men care, and they care a lot! Just that they dont know how to express it! They are idi*ts! Now just think - the man surrenders his monthly income to the woman every month of the year, every year of his and her life! Would he do that even for his best friend? Would he not grumble? Would he do that even for his parents? He'd have plenty of electronics, mobiles, watches, shoes, perfumes, etc., that he could've spent those monies, which instead find their way into women's clothes and jewelry! And he doesnt grumble about it - ever heard of a man complaining, my wife took 50 percent of the salary this month and bought herself a diamond necklace that doesnt even suit her! Then again, when the wife gets sick, he is there for her when it matters. He could very well say kids are there, my parents are there, my in-laws are there, or my sibling is there. Is that concern to be discounted in front of verbal communication? Personally, I trust men who are not very vocal about their love. Using words is the easiest way to express love, whether heartfelt or otherwise. Pity, most women are stuck on the not so important gestures.

My man is different. He is so expressive. Sometimes it's already irritating. Between the two of us I'm the one who is not that expressive and sweet. I guess it's really that way. In a relationship there should be at least someone expressive and emotional. It's just weird that in our situation it's not me but my husband. I hate it whenever he get's mushy in public like would say "I love you", would kiss me in my cheek and would treat me as if we are still teens in a girlfriend and boyfriend relationship. I find it too immature. I don't know why. I feel so uncomfortable specially when our friends start teasing us. We already have two kids and I think we are too old for that stuff. However, I like and love my husband that way. If we have the same individuality and personality I guess our relationship would be totally boring. What do you think?

Good thing I have no problems regarding that and we are in 3.5 years right now then by the time we are still friends or in the process of being develop to become lovers my boyfriend did not ever courted me, instead I felt the courtship during our long years of relationship. By expressing it with sincerity of how gorgeous and pretty I am, he even likes me to see wearing dress, every time I am wearing formal he always telling me that "baby you are so beautiful" and he even told me that the word that he is not pissed off of telling me is that how much he loves me. Some men prioritized their pride rather than humility as part of their human nature which is I can't explain at all. They are too conscious of their manliness. But some of them are those that can't be ever trusted like they were just so good at the very start in the sense that they can be patient just to get the woman they like then after that they just want the idea that a woman is having problems to man.

You are correct. May be they are shy; lazy; lack of word power. at young age they express their love and feelings verbaly. As you said after a certain period only this change. So the wife must train herself to read his mind. Need not to wait for words.

well, u really started a psychological discussion. the problem here is, most of the men likes verity and creativity. and most of the women likes stability. so, men will praise dress and food for some starting days as they felt difference from their regular once. if they got habituated to that daily, they'll not there after. when it comes to women, as they like stability, and as the men praised for the first and second time for what they did(eg:-nice dress, food),they want to get praised all the time for the same thing they r doing daily because of their stable mentality. this is not in all humans, but in most of humans. u cannot change any one. what we can only do is just bare them

wow ...awsum topic i must say :) hmm at a serious note ...this 'shikayat" of women depends on what type of love she likes...there are many girls who enjoy silent love in which they will feel each other but not express anything whats there in their heart...they feel maybe expressing too much will ruin the relationship ...but yeah that doesnt mean they will not even express their love in their birthdays or anniversarys but yes those who like silent love for them occassional expressing of love is acceptable and they are haapy with that... but for the women who are expressing they will always want a guy who will atleast once in a day say I LOVE YOU...will expect the guy to say each and evry feeling of his...will show love,affection in each and evry word...for them words matter more than actions... and the above question comes up only when both are of different kind as in one silent and the other expressing...so it is not that wther women want or not...it depend totally on the want and demand and nature of the woman... :)

i agree with this.... men sometimes don't express their love for their women not because they are shy or less of words, don't know what to say but i think, for me, and in my own opinion men aren't capable of this, they cannot sustain what they say because they think that it would hurt us or we will not going to like it.

This is a feeling that is probably shared by women all over the world. Women seldom feel that the man they love loves them enough in return. Women are often secure in their feelings of men, but they can be insecure of a man's feeling about them.It's hard to say where to draw the line of loving enough.

Yes I agree. Men always wanted younger women; they like their wives to stay good looking but they don't analyze it well that their wives have no time for vanity because of so many household chores. The way they commented their wives as if they are the ugliest woman in the world. But of course not all men do these. Women are very expressive and sentimental and if they feel they are just taken for granted, they always go to their friends for a shoulder to cry on. Other women resented by avenging and if this is the case, I'm sure it's going to be a big trouble. Asian men mostly are very hard to understand but you cannot blame them also because of their cultures factor.

I'm not married yet... So,can I tell my opinion??... 50% of what you said is right.. Men must express their...feeling to women..show them love.... 50% wrong.... Men have other things to do too... they fail to say..something...because..either they may be fed up off telling...or they got accustomed with it.... But this is not the case with some gents... They lose interest in their partner ...either they are not satisfied..or they are not matured enough for a married life or they had a wrong concept about married life......they are 100% failures... Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray is a must read book for couples... thanks for the topic... have a great day/night.........

I have no problem with expression and I am very generous in showing positive reactions and appreciation... but I also notice that men have real difficulty in showing their emotions.... its maybe because men don't express themselves too well as women do...

I think in general, women do tend to be more emotional and sensitive and therefore, more expressive. However, my boyfriend is just as expressive, if not more, than me. He is constantly telling me how much I mean to him and that he loves me. He also gives me compliments. I think most men find it very feminine to express their love and that is why they don't do it enough. I don't feel this way though.

I have seen such women too that complain that their lover don't express their love like the beginning of their relation,and i kind of agree with you I think that after a while being married to one person it becomes monotonous and you kind forget to express you love