Don't You Hate Arguing With Close-Minded People??

lol! Think about it this way; if they disappeared how would we know to be grateful for good and constructive arguments? I agree that trying to hold a discussion with someone of that nature can be a bit taxing and even draining if we continue. It is best to leave that person to themselves and find some other discussion to involve yourself in. Fortunately there doesn't seem to be many closed minded people on Mylot!

Unfortunately, this is something everyone will encounter from time to time. A librarian really isn't any more intelligent than any one else is. And for him to use his occupation as a glorified element is just insulting. However, when people like him get this way, as in insulting your intelligence through belligerent words, and then hiding behind his occupation as if it'll protect him, it proves to me they're afraid. I've seen many people like this myself, particularly in the Religion section, and on other boards too, where people insult others just because they realize they have nothing conductive nor substantial to go on, and believe that calling a person a dumb, insert derogatory insult here, makes them look cooler. In reality, it does nothing of the sort. I like debates myself when I am not bundled down with stress from outside events, and I like my debates to be civil. I've had many debates with people, and only a few of them have proven to be substantial. Another reason for insults is often because a person becomes so enraged by something they feel the need to nit pick at a person's sensitive area to break them down. And apparently, it makes them feel better, which is what I believe this librarian was trying to do to you. Try not to worry about what he said and did, even though it may be hard. If you encounter him again, just ask him nicely what would he do if his supervisor caught or found him behaving like that online, or ask if he would act that way if you were a patron in his library. Sometimes when you hit the head of a nail in the middle with just the right rhythm, it drives it straight through.

I have found that with close minded people when they start to lose the argument they will resort to name calling or accuse you of not caring. I argued once with a person over parental choice in schools. I was able to give some very convincing arguments. I knew I had won when the person told me that I guess you just don't care about kids and are only concerned with saving money.

I have encountered a few of these kinds of people. They mean well but they are not a people person. They have no regard to keep an open mind and can be controlling. I just ignore them, smile and go on. With this discussion, however, it is a written discussion. I understand you want to put your point of view out there, but it may be best for you to just let it lie and not reply. This person should not be taking shots at your intelligence, as everyone is intelligent in their own way. But when he had to put himself in a position of what his occupation was to make him a better person, well that is just not right. Just because he is a Librarian does not make him any more intellegent.

Arguing with someone who has a closed mind is a waste of time. Everybody is entitled to his or her own opinion.If you are to disagree, do so but make sure it will not spark fire. Otherwise, I end the argument with the person.Its no use..

Yes I do hate it and that is why I avoid it. I have to remember myself that it is only my opinion and not theirs. I guess everyone has a right to belive what they want to belive. I don't think I would want the to disappear even though I know that feeling. be pretty boring if everyone felt the same way. But I agree he should have aleast given thought to your opinon and if he did'nt agree just left it alone. but your not alone. They are out there, not much you can do but just keep living. trying to change a persons views that is close mindind is impossiable anyway. so why try.

Some people think arguing is the same thing as discussing. A librarian, of all people, should know better. But I run up against the same thing quite often. Someone posts a question, such as 'Do you believe in abortion?' and when you answer, the attacks begin - not discussions - attacks because you made the mistake of not holding the same position the poster does. I respond once or twice and then ignore them, since they get nastier and nastier if I continue talking to them. If I don't ignore them, I find myself falling into their trap of insane arguing. There are more important things to do with my time. I realize I won't change a person's mind if it is made up, but discussions aren't necessarily to change minds. They are meant to put up different view points so we all have something to think about.

I hate it, too. In fact, I hate any arguments especially when it is something negative. It could end up into a heated one which is very awful. Whenever I am responding or commenting I tried to lee away from those kind of people. If I can sense that there's animosity in the way that person is responding to me then, I am backing out. It is not that I am coward and he has proven that he's right but because that argument will just be a senseless one. Silence doesn't mean you are believing every word spoken but rather it is a way of dismissing the other's chance of telling more nonsense things.;-)

I definitely hate arguing with a close-minded person. It is like arguing with yourself. They just don't or won't hear what you have to say. It leads to your frustration in the end. If you have to argue with a close-minded person, you might as well leave the room.

I so totally hate them! Its like they are so perfect that they can't accept the fact that different people have different views. Anyway, people like that are everywhere. THAT is also a fact. :p Anyway, we dont have to waste our time with them, why bother right?

Well its completely useless according to me. They wont accept your point or rather wont understand it. And you cant change their mind ! So its just not worth anything to argue with them.

I Don't Care what you guys say, Your all wrong!! And I AM the warm little center of the universe!

i hate to argue with those people. Sometimes, we are telling them our opinions for their sake. But they are being defensive to us. Well, i am usually say "up to you, if you consider my opinion is good for you, then do as i say. If you have better way, just use your own", after that i leave those people. I think, "experience is the best teacher", is proverb which suit them the most because they will understand what we mean after they had experience it.

ya certainly.. i appriciate..

Hi Mrscallands, I actually like debating back and forth with them as long as they stay civil. I don't let age bother me at all and neither should you. Being old doesn't entitle one to be mean and rude.

I do not waste my time with such kind of people. The thing is, argument could become nasty if ever you continue. There is no point on insisting considering that they always think that theirs is a better idea or they have the best answer for all. I always believe that everyone has their say and I respect each opinion but it should be the same on the other end. Not just a one way ticket.

I don't even bother to argue with close minded people anymore. I just sit there and let them go on with their little opinionated speech . . . and I don't put in my two cents because I know they're going to chop my head over it. Worth it? No. We actually got rid of a friend like that . . . throughout the years he became a bigger know-it-all and there was no telling him anything. It did get to the point where he was being a jerk about it (over dumb issues), so we had to let the friendship go.

That's the reason I don't argue and challenge anyone's opinion. I just usually give my own personal view about something and if that person ends up challenging my ideas or ideals I don't take the bait. If it's a debate competition it would be a different scenario though. The reason I don't argue with someone is not because I don't know anything. In fact I'm very good and well- experienced specially when it comes to a debate. It's just that I believe there is a proper room for an argument or may I say a debate. I know that we should always respect each and everyone's personality, ideals, individuality, etc. That's why I'm really very careful whenever I post discussions or respond to a certain discussion. I always make sure that I'm using politically correct terms and that I'll not be offending anyone. However, different people have different personalities. It just happened that there are people who love challenging and arguing.

Ah but doesn't it make the discussion so much more fun!! It would be a pretty boring discussion if we all felt the sam way!! But it is an insult and very bad manners to critiscise a person's intellect, not good at all

Yes. I hate it too. They are like people who do not have ears. They really don't want to listen to others. And don't like to listen in others suggestion. Well, I wish.. that They should use their ears well. :D