He's married, get over it.

In my opinion, people don't value wedding vows as much as they used to and morals have deteriorated a lot. Some people find it as a competition to be the other woman/man and play it as a game, regardless of who is getting hurt. I do agree with your thoughts on this subject. We are given a chance to really know the person we choose to marry, so this shouldn't ever become a problem. In February, I got divorced from my ex-husband who lost interest in his family and got with a younger girl. Getting divorced was probably one of the hardest things that I have had to do, but it's also the best decision that I could of made for my children and I. Now I'm in a relationship with someone that has proved all of my theories with my previous marriage to be misleading.

I know as a kid I always fell in love with girls elder to me. I used to admire girls elder to me. I liked to hang out with girls elder to me. The same has happend to me now. Most of the girls who have a crush on me are almost half my age. They know i am married but still they like to talk and flirt with me. Bcos, experience always counts...hahhaha...

Hi redphile, I was married. It was a bad marriage yet still. ...I took my vows and I didn't cheat ...not once. I thought of it for sure but no...never did. I did have men hit on me. Why do they go for married people? I don't know. I'll never understand that myself but then again, married people go after singles too. we can't judge or control what others do as it is a useless waste of time. All we can do is do is make sure that our own home is clean. I left my marriage with good concious and never cheated no matter how rough things got. On the flip side, I have had married or taken men hit on me and I've always turned them down.....If the wife gets upset then my thoughts are that they need to pay attention to the men they are with. I'm single so I see it all the time.....I would not want to be the woman waiting for these guys.

Hello redphile, It's easy to say those things when you're single. of course, I am single too but my brothers are married. before, they too were passionate and loyal to their wifes, and i thought they're lives are almost perfect. until recently, i heard rumors of my eldest siblings cheating on their wifes. one, i caught red handed when i got back home, he had the nerve to keep it from his wife so i had to tell her. he's so pathetic knowing he has a job and a smart man, probably smart stupid. that's why am not getting married out of passion, you gotta focus on the courtship and getting along thingy, or when one goes bored then that's when the problem starts.

I agree with you, when a girl or guy to get married, they can't go to play for other guys or girls, if they don't want to married,they can wait.

I do agree with redphile cheating is wrong and i know friends and relatives that have cheated and their marriages have fallen apart. If you get married make sure you love the person who your marrying

Well,It absolutely annoying me.I really hate those guy whom have a family i mean have wife/husband and kids,and they just come out and say they are single,and destroy others family,They dont take their responsibility.we are not just call it affair..

I agree that is very true, but unfortunately it does not work like that.... there are so many men and women, who end up having affairs and such with other people. I got involved with a man at the age of 17. He never wore a wedding ring, and was not married... but after a long while of seeing him, it turned out that actually he had a girl friend who lived with him, and they had two children. I was gutted, I did not know, as he spent so much time with me. I guess I was vulnerable at the time in being so young, and I fell for him. I think this is what happens in most situations involving married people, but obviously there are some single people who know that people are in committed relationships... I guess they just try their luck.

I don't condone cheating, but I also don't think that married people are in jail and should never be allowed out of the house. The person who is sleeping with the married person is just as guilty as the married person.