Who makes more mistakes in relationships? men? or women? why?

India
June 28, 2010 11:55am CST
It's true that both men and women make mistakes in relationships. Men may cheat more than women.They may not be expressive like women. Women may want their men to spend more time with them and also want them to shine in their career. Women may talk more than needed. Now let me know who makes more or severe mistakes in relationships?
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
28 Jun 10
Hi anna, it depends, we can't say who will do more mistakes, my question is why should we do mistakes. Of course, women wants men should shine in his career and also at home. But i didn't find any wrong in this anna. I feel women wants her husband should be top of world always. It is her wish, but i don't feel she will be harassing her husband for that she will be more supportive.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
28 Jun 10
A woman cannot want her husband to shine in his career. She can do it herself.If a man is motivated he would do it himself.She can support him by being quiet and not making any demands on him Jotomy.That would give him frredom to concentrate on his career.
• India
28 Jun 10
hi, Jotomy there is nothing wrong in woman wanting her husband to shine well in his career. But she must allow him to spend more time on his job, is it not? How about you?
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
28 Jun 10
yes kalav,
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
28 Jun 10
Not an easy one, sweetie. Men and women can both be freaking mean and nasty in a relationship. Mistakes are made and sometimes not resolved. I cannot tell you men nor women. As both can be freaking childish and without manners. TATA.
• India
28 Jun 10
yeah, that is evident that both men and women make lot of mistakes in relationships, but who do it more or who make serious mistakes that can harm the relationship, so we are back to square one
• India
28 Jun 10
at least we tried swetie, let us be happy and content with that
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
28 Jun 10
As usual. We will never be able to get to the bottom of this.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
28 Jun 10
If this is in the caSe of love marriages, then it would be the men who make more mistakes.Women are smarter and would think hard before they make their choice and final commitment.If it is within relationships I honestly do not know.Men or women may not understand their partner completely and can make a wrong assessment or some mistake in calculations. THis also depends on who is cleverer .
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
28 Jun 10
I do agree. Woemn are very smart when it comes to certain interpersonal dynamics.
• India
28 Jun 10
Agreed.
• India
28 Jun 10
Hi, Kala about the love marriages men may not do a big research as marriage is not a big risky commitment for them. For women it's very important, so they judge better, may be I think men make more mistakes in relationships and this is my opinion, I may be wrong
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
29 Jun 10
Both have their flaws. No one is a saint in any relationship. Both are capable of denting the relationship which can lead to total breakdown of no return. There must be total commitment to make the relationship work and blaming each other for mistakes is uncalled for.
• India
29 Jun 10
well said zandi. Both make mistakes. No one can be perfect. What is important is we should try our best to learn to live with the flaws of the partner.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
sorry to say but guys are more into not honest in any relationship i can say so far when it comes to mistakes.they cheats more than women your right but there are increasing number of women cheated on their partner nowadays its very alarming they are quite liberated and out spoken women.sometimes out of control they hanging with guys friends and later on they dating and thus its starts fight and arguments.to conclude i still view men a lot committed mistakes when it comes into relationship.
• India
28 Jun 10
Hello amyson, as you said men cheat more than women. It's true that women of today are trying to compete with men in cheating and that's not good for the family set up, I think. Still women are much better and this is my opinion only.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
yes women are much better they think in advance they knew if their partner doing bad and mostly they are correct.intuition thing we have we can able to sense a guy who is a cheater.
• India
29 Jun 10
it does't depends on gender. it depends on the situations they face
• India
30 Jun 10
It's true rajesh. But in general either men or women may make more mistakes. It must be like that. We need to do proper researches to find who makes more mistakes. thanks.
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Jun 10
Personally, I think that men and women make equal amount of mistakes. I don't feel that one makes more mistakes than the other, based on their gender. We're all human and we are all going to makes mistakes at one point or another.
@delkar (1712)
• Romania
29 Jun 10
I do belive that both of the partners are making mistakes. I can`t agree that men cheat more than women. I think women are cheating more, but it really depends of each person. In a good couple, mistakes should be avoided, and even if it happens, they should have a method to pass on . I consider cheating the most unforgetable mistake and i would never forgive that one. I just hope that it will not happen.
@novelcai (600)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
hi there... as i read your discussion the 1st thing comes on my mind are my exes. im not telling that im a perfect person.. but i dont think that its my fault why my past relationships didnt last... i dont want to elaborate more of my experienced. just take note of this 'MEN ARE BORN POLYGAMOUS' so,,, tell me who women will like that their love still sneaking around :)
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
29 Jun 10
They both do great things. And they both make mistakes. When they do, they should come together to work out a solution because they compliment each other. Each is the other half that completes.
• Malaysia
29 Jun 10
hi Vijay.. that is a very very subjective question there.. i'm not sure who will make more & severe mistakes. usually things like that would depend entirely on the dynamics of those who are involved in the relationship.. and also what may be severe for some couples may sometimes be not that severe for other couples..
29 Jun 10
Honestly, it does not matter whether you are a man or a woman that you are prone to commit mistakes in relationships. How a person is in a relationship still depends on the kind of person he or she is. It also depends on how much one person values the relationship and loves his partner. As I've always believed, there's no right or wrong in love. It still all depends to the parties concerned.
• Canada
29 Jun 10
Men do. But that is because, us woman are ticking time bombs. If a man looks at another woman in a way we women find threatening, we explode at the men. If they say something wrong, we explode at them. If they forget an anniversary, we may explode at them. So men do, but it's not their faults. By nature they tend to want to spread their genes around, and they aren't exactly the most emotional. They tend to hid their feelings, and it isn't until we start chasing them with knives do they spill (This is a figure of speech. Do not take it seriously.) But it's because of us woman being so emotional that men make so many mistakes. So we cause them to make the mistakes in a way.
• United States
28 Jun 10
this is my opinion. They both make equal mistakes, but view their own as the worse one. for example a guy may cheat on his partner, but if he had no feelings towards her then his partner may take him back. But if a woman is attracted towards another guy, the guy is usually oblivious, until said guy touches her, if he touches her, then the guy will blow his top. woman are emotional, men are physical. So they make as bad of mistakes, just in different ways.
• India
28 Jun 10
You said it so beautifully alexorejana. But I am still not sure who makes more mistakes, ok let me wait and see other responses as well.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
29 Jun 10
I don’t know if you can generalise when it comes to relationships. There are a lot of issues that are typically male or females a lot of the time but when it comes to serious relationship problems I think it is a combination of the two people involved that create the dynamics. I don’t think you can put it down to either men or women, it depends on the relationship and the people involved, every case is probably very different.
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Sorry for this answer - statistics say it's men. Men are always the culprit. As I have observed it depends on the culture. Like Western women are impulsive with their decisions whereas Asian women are of the martyr type and they are usually the forgiving creature. They consider their children first before making a certain decisions that would ruin family relations. Well of course there are also that commit mistakes but most of them are martyrs.
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Women says men, men says women....fingers pointing at each other. That is a question that can have no absolute answer my friend. In terms of experience, I err in terms of communication. I put myself in a cave with a sign "Do not disturb, solving problem!". Then, immediately after that, she'll commit her mistake of blowing up, and telling this and telling that...... and on and on and on and on it goes.... Well, it doesn't really matter who makes more mistake but it does matter if one counts the other's mistake....(after your error, you say sorry, and when it seems that all is forgiven, the next time you err, she will brought it up back into your conversation...whewww.) For me, mistakes are treated not as stumbling blocks but as stepping stones into a better and more wonderful relationship. (hmmmm....wait, my wife is commenting....what honey? You disagree....but....but...wait a minute....how about .....and if.....what the heck is that!!!..... but I thought.... welll I.....)