Do you have a close relationship with your parents?

Philippines
June 28, 2010 10:12pm CST
In my previous discussion, I pointed out that I am a middle child and I feel like I am stuck in the middle and haven't gotten much attention from my parents. I grow up without asking or consulting my parents on every decisions I made, they weren't be interested anyway since they don't even appreciate me with all my achievements. I know parents do care about their children but I always felt some bias in terms of reaching out with their children. Right now, I am an adult but still we don't discuss things much about my personal life. I am very responsible in providing them their needs but lately we had a fight with my father and I heard a very painful words from him. Anyways, I would like to ask you how close you are with your family?
9 responses
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Hi Denz. Thanks for accepting my friend request. I'm sorry to hear you're not that close with mama and papa. OR is it mom and dad? Anyway, growing up with my parents supporting in every step of the way is a great thing for me to hold on to whenever I feel happy or sad. I'm thankful I have a great family. I'd like to think all of us do. It's just that when one cannot express himself/herself well to the other especially a family member, they'd get used to it. Thus, they seem to be far from you. As you said, parents love their children and vice versa. Try opening up to him a bit more. He has a heart disease (hope the condition won't get worse). Now is the right time to start reaching out to him and your mother. Don't wait for them to come to you. Even if you didn't feel like they eevn reached out to you before, there maybe some underlying reasons like I metioned earlier. Life is so short so don't miss the chance to show your love to them. Good luck! All the best for you and your family.
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Thank you for your very nice response, I will just let it heal for a while because I was so hurt by the words he said to me. Time heals anyway, I will just find some time to talk to them. I don't want to carry this burden for life, thank you so much.
• United States
29 Jun 10
very close to my family. a little too close. Sometimes I wish they would let me live my life. They get very angry if we don't talk. They don't know to let go. I love them very much. I think sometimes I am glad that they do. I just wish it wasn't so hard. I've younger sister. For some reason she shuns my parents. I sort of understand. My parents are kind of hard to get along with. She needs to realize that they are her parents.
@smartjack (520)
• India
29 Jun 10
sad to know about you my friend. I understand how difficult it must be for you that you have not received love from your parents. But that doesn't mean you don't honor them. Do take care of them in their old days. Have respect for them even though they didn't care for you. This will give you lot of blessings in life. i have a close relationship with my mother. I share a lot of things with her. As a child i was always depended on her for all my needs. I am very emotionally attached to her. I love her lots.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
I have a close relationship with my parents but its a kind of relationship that also have some limitations. I respect my parents and I am afraid of them too. I was raise not to talk back or do anything like that to them and I think its also good because even though it was hard on our part. Now that my siblings and I are older, we feel much closer to them already.
@PB1990 (13)
• United States
29 Jun 10
im very close to my mother because my father was never there for us. So my mother was as well as a father too. even til now im close to my mother and always play around and having fun saying jokes n all. before all the good times is happening she did said some words that made me angry. but i never get mad at her because she raised me through out my 18 yrs by herself. parents say stupid things because you just gotten on their nerves (i think) and make them say those nonsense. but in the inside there hurt also. and now that my mother got married. i got close to my step father too. and i dont have problems with them nor they have problems with me. well that is my story. I hope u can get close to your parents and have fun with them.
• China
30 Jun 10
I have a brother.When I was young,I feel my mother and father love him more than me.So in my mind ,my mother and father don't like me.But when I graduate ,I feel that my family love me very much.My father trust me because I am very well-behaved and considerate of their hard work.But we have little time to communicate with each other.I hope that we can take spare time on having a chat with each other.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
29 Jun 10
As a child growwing up, i was always close to my parents. My father would do anything he could for me. I was always very close to my mother, and I still am to this day. My father passed away about 30 years ago. I still think of him often and wish that he was still with us. I will always hold that special closeness bond with and for my parents. I hope my own children will do the same for me one day.
@markleob (1902)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
DEFINITELY yes... i am lucky i have parents who are so good and are lovable.. i am blessed having a close tied family...
• India
29 Jun 10
everyone should have close relation with their parents. Then only we know how to manage our family in every situation. i also very close with my parents. i tel everything with them. i share anything with my parents.. they are one of my friends also