Can you be in love with the person you are with if you cheat on them??

United States
June 28, 2010 11:53pm CST
Okay, say a girl is with a guy for about six or seven months and they are in love, the girl is forced to move about an hour away from her bf, the still stay together, the girls mom that made her move tells her she isnt aloud to talk to the boy anymore. They stay together and talk when they get the chance but, dont see eachother because of the distance and the mom. So, one day the girl gets a call from her cousin sayin that she seen the girls boy friend and best friend flirting. The boy friend and the girls best friend admitts that they flirted a little bit but only complimented on eachothers eyes and the boy told her she was beautiful. So thats the end of him flirting with her best friend. The couple break up for about a month and a half, the girl sees that her ex has been flirting with a girl who gets around(a whxre). And he got her number, they text eachother. The girl and the boy start talking again, they get back together within a week the boy still texts the whxre but claims it was only as friends. About a week after they start dating the girl hears rumors about the boy talking to a bunch of girls right after they broke up a couple months ago. She breaks up with him again. They get back together. The girl hasn't been able to get ahold of the boy for about a week and a half, everything goes down hill in the relationship, they start arguing alot more then they used to. So I guess you could say the boy feels hurt, lonely, and unwanted. The boy sees a dating account pop up in his yahoo email account, he makes a dating account and says that he only talked to one woman, he is Seventeen he said she was in her thirtys but he told the woman he was twenty one. He claims he didnt flirt with her and that they only talked about jobs and eachothers lives. But, the grl doesnt know for sure waht realy went on. The girl doesnt want to break up with the boy because she doesn't feel the same torwards any other boys, should the girl dump the boy or stay with him? Would you consider any of this as cheating?
1 response
• United States
29 Jun 10
I wouldn't consider this as cheating, I would consider it as absolute lack of love and caring for the person.If you are going to be with someone it should be because you love them and want to be with them ONLY. Be interested in having a relationship with noone else. You might love them, but maybe not as much as you should love someone to go ahead and ask to be in a relationship with them.
• United States
29 Jun 10
Okay, thanks for the advice. :)
• India
6 Jul 10
shotgun... hats off for being very sincere in your comments. I appreciate your help! .. I hope the stater of the topic.. SEXYBABYY .. will listen to you with all earnest, and apply your thought .. when she decides about everything related to life and love. welcome to mylot.. both of you! .. this is going to be a really great time, .. with you all joining hands here.