I do not know how to handle my brother.

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What will I do with my brother and with the kind of situation we are facing now? He only do what he used and want to do. Like lately he'd been closed to a gay friend of mine. I was eventually alarmed; almost all of my friends noticed such closeness. I hated it! I want to tell him I don't like them seeing that way, but I just can't do it..even until now..Shortly after I noticed their closeness, I talked to my sister through the phone. She told me that our brother had been into a boy-gay relationship even before. She tried a lot to convince him that it was not healthy for his future but he insisted of not getting into his own affairs...My brother and I have difference in the level of attitude and awareness. We grew up separately. He did not saw our mother's last breath on Earth and he was put under the wing of our uncle for almost 18 years. May be that could be one of the reasons why his having this very hard attitude---being away...not totally spending the days of your lives to your real parents and siblings could be breaking yet challenging moments for our lives..but it's different to him. He learned bad attitudes. He hated my father, he used to have misunderstanding with my other sisters and he walks out if I'm saying something for him he don't like. Even if he was separated from us, he knew who his real family was and so when he went back to us temporarily for school I took the full responsibility towards him...I found it hard to deal with him because he grew up differently. He doesn't have the values I want for him. I do not expect him to be perfect, nor had any expectations towards him, but I cannot just accept his values as they are because I can see that if I let him go with his values he will have a vague future. It seems that he does not "see" my toil. He does not "see" my sacrifices. He does not "see" how much I care...I hate to care too much becuase they may be somethings I am not... I know my brother has days off too, I know that he was also hurt...But I will not be just any of his friends. I am strict on him becuase I am his eldest sister and we have no mother to take care of us at all.