Would you say that you are the type that falls in love easily? Or not?
By dierdre
@dierdre (2207)
Philippines
June 29, 2010 1:24am CST
I was watching the bachelor and i have always wondered at how fast the people on that show 'fall in love'. In a matter of weeks, they claim that they have fallen hard for that person. This is a very tricky question though, since no one can really explain how love works, the duration of time that you have known that person doesnt matter once you have been struck by 'cupid'. So i wanna ask you, are you the type that generally falls in love easily? Let me give you an example. A guy friend of mine is complaining to me and at the same time asking for my advice on how to avoid this girl that 'fell' for him. And that girl is just a textmate/chatmate. They never have seen each other. They just talked on the phone for a couple of days. So that is an example of easily 'falling in love' although there are alot of other variations to that example. So do you happen to be that type? Or are you the one who rarely falls in love? I can say that i belong to the latter, lol. I dont know, its just that i dont get 'developed' to a person easily. How about you?
8 responses
@markmarslu (19)
• China
30 Jun 10
That is really a hard question to answer . Some one love in first sight ,some one getting better . however ,when I in colleage , do not believe love in first sight ,until I meet miss right ,haha,anyway ,there is no absolute things in the world .if you say you are a girl not easily emotional,that is ture until you encounter your Mr right.Or you say you belive love in firt sight ,wait a moment ,clam down ,are you really falling in love river ,or just like this beautiful girl? So ,ther is no absolute type of lover ,until you right there !
@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
Yeah some people get developed to a person little by little, while others fall in love easily, even the instant that they see that person. Although for me, i think that its not love, its just infatuation/attraction, that given time, can develop into love. But yes, to answer your question, 'love at first sight' occasionally happens to me, the euphoric feeling and all, but now that im older and wiser, i very well know that its just infatuation. :-D
@callmecat (247)
• United States
30 Jun 10
Well, I think I get crushes easily, and that's probably true for a lot of people. Like I can fall for someone without knowing them very well, but I don't think that means the same as falling IN LOVE. At least, not for me. I don't fall in love easily at all. It would take much longer than a few weeks for me to be in love with someone. But yeah, I get crushes on people easily all the time, but I'm not in love with these crushes, ya know?
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
I do not fall in love easily. I believe that falling in love takes a long long time. Attraction, yes, it can be instant. But to say that one truly loves a person, I believe that it would take a lot of time spent together, getting to know each other, being true to one another and letting each other show their good and ugly selves. I do not know how it is with other people, but for me, it took me a long time, maybe a year of dating, to conclude and say to myself that I love my then boyfriend (now hubby).
Have a nice day!
@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
Wow, thats sweet, you guys ended up marrying each other. :-D well i definitely agree with you that it takes a lot of time to get to know each other before you can finally say that you really love the person. Coz sometimes, attraction can be mistaken for love right? And thats the misleading thing about it.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
29 Jun 10
I do believe that i fall in love easily. I can also honestly that i can get my heart broken just as easily. I can be a very emotional and sensitive person. My heart is always open and love can usually find its way there. I am more of a giver than a taker when it comes to matters of the heart. When I fall in love, I am sureit is forever.
@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Reading your response reminds me of my friend, she also falls in love easily, and in her own words, she described it like a 'light switch', coz it always goes on and off, lol. Well, i think thats the only disadvantage when you easily fall in love, you are prone to get hurt more often and more easily, since you also mentioned that you are a sensitive and emotional person. But i hope that with every hurt or heartbreak that you experience, those things will make you a better and stronger person eventually, and more wise when it comes to love.
@de_toya (2429)
• Indonesia
29 Jun 10
Well, I think I am type of a man that fall in love easily. I feel that and psychology test indicates that is true. I fall in love easily but I always try to control my feeling. I am afraid falling in love and can not avoid my self for being unfaithful to my wife. I always try to avoid girl that make me have feeling to her. Actually, there is a bit deep in my heart to be unfaithful but I just afraid and I say thanks to the God I still have fear.
@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Ah i see, as long as you dont do anything about your feelings towards that certain girl or girls that you like, you will stay out of trouble. Coz once the trust has been lost, it is almost impossible to 100% regain it back again. And it will definitely cause problems in your marriage. So i hope that you will be faithful to your wife, no matter what.
@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Lol, i do believe in that so called 'love at first sight' thing, but technically, if you analyze it, since you really have to know someone really well in order to say that you love them, so it would be more fitting to say, 'infatuation at first sight', not 'love at first sight' lol! As for the bachelor, i wouldnt jump to conclusions that what they are feeling aint real, since i have no proof, haha. I do have 2 adjectives to describe it though. The ones who join there being a bit too 'desperate' to find love, (cmon, the ones that join there look good most of the time, so why bother to join there? I says like, 'i cant find anyone in my circle to marry me so im gonna search on national tv) and 'dubious' coz i dunno if what they feel are really sincere or just for show.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
I am not sure if I am easy to fall. I know the feeling at first when I get attracted to certain guy, I know what i feel is an admiration. When I can't stop thinking about him, I know that feeling can be an infatuation. Falling in love only happens when we are together,like spending a day on dating and other things that we can do together. On the process I will develop a deep care for this person because I get the chance to know him but falling in love happen when we are moving on to more than friends stage. I can say I am easy to be infatuated not easy to fall in love.
@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Yeah, alot of us have alot of crushes most of the time, but it never really goes further than that. Its nice to know that you know the difference between infatuation, admiration, and love, it helps you to wisely discern what you feel. Its true that love really takes time to develop, coz alot of things have to be taken into consideration, coz infatuation fades quickly, while love tends to stay, for better or for worse, towards a certain person.
@atha13 (159)
• Malaysia
29 Jun 10
It's a good topic you started here :) Talking about falling in love, I'm not the kind of girl who will fall in love very easily on any guy even though how handsome or good looking the guy is. I need time to have the feelings and to know more about him first just like my current boyfriend. I've known my boyfriend 8 years ago but we only started going out on date a year ago. During our time as friends, I've learned to know him inside out and that makes me feel comfortable when I'm with him. The long friendship eventually blooms into love. That's how long the time I need to love someone :)
@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
Oh that's the ideal kind of relationship if you ask me, coz you guys started out as friends, so you pretty much know the good and bad traits of each other and you can accept and tolerate it. Unlike when you've known each other for just a short while then proceed right away to dating, where it can be kinda tricky coz you'll always put your best foot forward, unlike when you start out as friends, with no romantic intentions whatsoever. The only bad side when it comes to dating friends is when the other person doesnt feel the same. It then becomes awkward. But in your case, the feeling is mutual, so good for you. :-)
