Straight into my face....

Hi bluemoon, I usually am pretty good about taking constructive criticism. My reaction really depends so much on how the criticism is delivered and the motives of the person delivering it. The example you tell here sounds like constructive criticism to me but I don't know the tone that it was spoken in. It sounds as if she was trying to let you know that she didn't understand you and that it would be helpful if you explained yourself further??

Whenever I receive criticisms, I evaluate whether it is constructive or destructive. There are many factors to consider like my relationship to the person, the way he/she said it, and many others. When it is constructive, I use it as such. When it is destructive, I find ways to use it constructively. If there are no ways I could do so, I just forget I ever heard it.

The problem with people is that they are very cautious. They don't want to hurt others' feelings. They don't want others to be angry with them or distant from them. That is why they don't talk to you about what they like or dislike about you. You don't know if no one had the same feeling as the person who criticized you in your face. I actually salute the person who criticized you. That person had the guts and the understanding that one wouldn't solve a problem that one wouldn't address. You won't be able to improve on what that person pointed out if you weren't aware of that. When faced with criticisms, defend yourself only when necessary. Most of the time, one must accept.

Hi, bluemoon. Hmm... I don;'t take criticism very well because I have always been a downer. Criticism will always point me to my inferiorities and I don't like it. But sometimes, we just have to learn from it. There's a saying a friend shared to me and it goes like this, "The critic has to educate the public; the artist has to educate the critic.” So either way, I am sure the one who criticized you also has been criticized. Try to take it lightly because when it consumes you, you will only feel bad about it. But if you are positive that you did not do any harm or wrong, take it as a learning. Evaluate it as your own. I just hope that the person is not jealous of you.

Hello Blue Moon, I've always hated Criticisms but some times by not listening to it makes us more ignorant with what's happening. I remember criticizing during the election period here in mylot. and then when i am just defending my answer i suddenly being criticized and then my star went down from there. i don't even know why it's nice to be criticized but i hate it so much

well bluemoon. her criticism may be true at the same time its false. I say its true because she finds you "assuming everything" and she needed to criticize for you to clear yourself.( and to press out to you that everybody don't gets your assuming factor..in law it says "express" not implied)

hi bluemoonpavilion It depends of what we were talking about as sometimes I know what I said was clear to most people but this one person would always go out of his way to find a tiny flaw in what I said.So I found myself making myself so clear a kindergartner would understand me , but only to him. I reflect on any criticism and respond according to the person who made the criticism. If that person is one who has only mean criticisms I will not go to any trouble at all. If it is from, someone who means well I will heed it.

criticism indeed painful but that's good for self-development and our personalities in the community association. I'm often criticized and although hard to accept it, sometimes I must accept and follow it. Not all people who criticize are evil, you must understood, that people who criticize us it is people who care to us

I seldom get confused by your discussions, except the one started this morning about complaint. So I don't think you're a person who always assuming that people knows what you are talking about. So just be like yourself is OK, I think. For me, I never refute any criticism, I only hear them. If I think it's reasonable, I'll take it and correct myself, if it is irrational, I'll simply ignore it and do myself.

For me, there are two kinds of criticism: one, is destructive criticism - where people say harsh things about another which in return gives a bad reputation to the one being criticized. Sadly, some even go waaaay out of bound just to put someone else below them. I guess this is where libel and slander came about. and the other is constructive criticism - yes, it is criticism, but in a good way. It lets the person being criticized grow as a better person, that is, by letting him/her know what he needs to improve on. Let that "she" you were talking about know that you're going to take hers as the latter. Thank her instead for giving you that kind of help. If her sole reason is to give you a destructive criticism, then showing her goodness would drive her crazy ;) but of course, you yourself maybe should stop for a minute and reflect about what you just have learned. Maybe she was right after all. If she is, then give yourself a chance to change. :)