Would you agree..........

Hello Deepak, How come Deepak, I think a person has only one personality? The others are thinking different than his/her real nature that is the conclusion of the third person and not the real personality of that particular person. (It is the mistake of third person). Is it possible to think himself/herself differently than his/her real personality? I am confused much; let me think more and I will come later with my reply.

Yes you are right Deepak.....the first personality is very formal and well behaved, a kind of acting that breaks your back...... Second personality is where you are always running to achieve something.Always trying to work hard to achieve higher standard of living and make a respectable position in society.A kind of personality where you work hard but enjoy it. And the third one "what actually you are is the best, where you can close the door and dance in front of the mirror, with clothes or without no matter, sing loudly, talk all nonsense and laugh and etc etc nonsense, the most relaxing personality, But as soon as you see that you are not alone, you have to kill this joyful personality of yourself and get back into the other two to show how decent person you are. This is life.

Hullo Deepak! I feel thAT what others perceive about a person and what one really is may be the two categories in most cases. What others perceive-- we all have a public face and would try and be courteous, sweet, gentle and be on our best behaviour.Whatever we may project, some of our intrinsic qualities would be seen and felt by others. So this would be the real perception of others.THis would be realistic to a certain extent. Now I am saying all this in reference to others like friends and outsiders. What I think of myself and what I really am would be more or less very close Deepak, because except in select cases where people refuse to see reality, are drunk with ego and think too much of themselves or delude themselves , most of us would know within our conscience what we really are. I would be aware of both my negative and positive qualities if I am capable of good , objective self-analysis.

hi dpk only one personality but three different slants on that personality. We may view ourselves as a calm placid shy person. other may see us as shy, aloof, hard to get along with, and the truth may be 'some of each of these. Probably shy, jumpy, nervous person. But we can only see ourselves the way we feel we are. lol lol lol

i dont worry about who i come in contract with at all. and i dont worry about what people think of me, i do worry about who i am, because as long as i go out there and be the best person i am and respect and do the right things that what matter

I am inclined to agree with you. There is the personality we show to the world and I think that can be different depending on who we are interacting with. I have to wonder whether we generally try to display the part of ourselves that the other person is going to approve of. The idea that we have of ourselves, sadly is not always the correct description of ourselves, for example I thought I was a bad and ugly person while I was growing up in an emotionally abusive environment but as I have grown older and wiser I can see that it was a very unfair view of myself. The authentic self is what I am working on at the moment as I would like the ‘real’ part of me to be displayed at all times; forget the masks and cove ups. To be able to be truly yourself is a gift.

Another googly from Deepak Oh well….I think everybody has myriad shades to their characters, which might or might not be part of their personalities. To survive in this jungle, God never gave us any weapons except for our intelligence and that’s what we are expected to put to good use…so its but natural that most people change colours like chameleon depending on the situation… people who don’t are thought of as stupid or simple and taken for a good ride. What I’m trying to say is that ...I think I agree with you OR maybe I dont...actually I'm totally confused the more I think on this I need more time to reply

Yes. I am not as sweet as others think I am.But I am finding I am not as evil as I think I am either. My close friend would keep telling me Not to call myself Evil. He Knew Evil and I am not evil. My guy finds me as I am, a good combination of sweetness with a lurking hair trigger temper waiting to come out. I wish I could get this saying on a t-shirt " Warning , I go from nice to b!tch in 6 seconds!"

hi deepak myfriend! hmmm you know i am also thinking something like this, actually i was about to start a discussion about 'do you know yourself the same way other people know you' i think its somehow true. and i guess i was to agree with you. i know that i know myself more than anybody else, but lets face it and admit it, that the way other people knows us is different from how we know ourselves and sometimes we actually don't know much about ourselves. lol! maybe the real us is the combination of how we see ourselves and how other people see us. haha do i make sense? lol!

hello dpk, How about "first impression lasts" Some people judge the others from the first day they met without even knowing the person inside and out. So,i can say that,you are right. Some people are judgmental,without even thinking that they are not also perfect. Other people are self conceited without having consideration with the others,they even think of themselves like gods.(power and money made this kind of people,mostly) And,the other one is...what he is actually,speaks and acts naturally,without inhibition,with confidence(not boastful)and knows how to handle every situation without hurting other people's feeling. Have a good day always

Oh, dear, I'm the first to respond... I hope I will not fall short of your expectations.:-)This seems complicated but I will try my best to answer this as briefly yet honest as I can. Lets see... First first. The person as seen by others.Well, this could be right.For everyone have perception about everybody. And that perception varies depending on the person you are dealing with.So, a person can be multi-persona in this aspect. Second. The person you see in yourself. Who knows us better but ourselves? The way we act, speak, think are all the products of who we perceived ourselves. There's no denying to that, but again, depending on who we are dealing with. Again,a multi-personality we need to possess. Third. Who/What we really are.The real us, in a nutshell. But, who are we for real? We constantly changing. trying to adapt to the things around us to survive.And, because of the adjustments, what we were then is no longer what we are now.We go through so many personalities along the way. And, what about the personality created by God, seen by God? Doesn't it to be counted? Heck. I might already sounding so philosophical here, my dear.I believe, Ihaven't confirmed nor denied your question..:-( Have a wonderful day, dear Deepak.:-)

Oh yes, dpk! I am in total agreement with this one, particularly since it applies to me. Others (though maybe not online as it cannot be seen) perceive me as open, friendly, optimistic, popular, easy going, silly and happy . . . and for the most part I can agree because that is what I show on the outside. As far as what I think about myself, I can be pessimistic, stubborn, want to be alone, opinionated, judgmental but most of the time I keep these traits inside. And what I actually am . . . well, definitely both as what I described . . . and only the people who are truly closest to me know both sides of me!!

I would say several personalities depending on how a person projects oneself. He/she will be a different person in the office, at home, with his friends, with his neighbours, not to forget the virtual world where he is free as a lark and it is here I think one can be ones true self.

yes, i agree! there are times that we are unaware that we have different personality or that we act differently depending to situations.

A hard call but I have agree with you there. There are so many things that go into this that it's actually hard to explain easily. What others think about me could be similar as what kind of person I am or what I think about myself. This coincides rarely though. However, what I think about myself and what I am actually are not really different. So, in that regard I have the same kind of personality. So, it's rather two than three in my case. Hope that makes sense.

I would say everyone has two personalities...one that he actually is...and one that he tries to project to others..what he would like others to think about him.

Hi, I remember reading a book by Gokak. It was on Indian culture. There this man explains 'integrity' by saying that it is the capability of holding two or more opposite idea at the same. As long as the three types of personalities, that you've mentioned, remain distinct, the man himself remains subject to contradiction. An integrated personality first assimilates three personalities. Then he runs them together. At this point all the three personalities coexists. Then the superior mind identifies the truth in each of them and facilitates some reaction among them, thus eliminating all that is false and keeping only what is true. Thus an ideal, integrated personality establishes itself. Thanks. God bless you

No. I believe man has only one personality and with that he does everything. The others are just the parts of mind he has and how he thinks. A man does sometimes have split personalty disorder which comes from inner states. If he is not able to do something which he wants to do and if the will to do it is string then the person can change his personalty but he may or may not know that. That is indeed a rare case and only happens when a person is very strongly determined.

Nope, i do agree that a person has 2 personalities but not three. For me, what others think about him is not classified as his personality, it's just an impression that others have towards him, then the second one is just his thoughts about himself and it doesn't really affect his personality at all. For me, the two personalities a person has will only be known and acknowledge by people who really knows that person a lot. It's a kind of positive and negative personalities. The personality that they used to see from you and the other personality that will accidentally appears when you are in a bad mood or to cope with other persons' personality. I hope you get my point.

i agree this discussion.one person has three types of personalities.and i also observe thses types of personalities in so many people