Why on your way to the top, people always wanna bring you down?

Hi momma! You just have to leave those behind that can't be happy for you! If someone is going to try to diss you or bring you down when you are doing good then they are jealous and not worth being their friend. You don't need people like that in your life. I have learned that along time ago! Not that I have ever really had a reason for anyone to be jealous of me, but I wish!lol I don't have time for people who want to tell me how to do something or what to do when they can't even run their own lives so I just turn my back and keep on steppin'! That is the best way to get rid of "Haters"! And believe me there will always be a few!

wish I could say that so and so did this and that to me on the way to the top but alas I never made any earth shattering climbs to any tops at all. I guess I according to most people am a failure but I seem to be a happy failure and while my son wanted me to go further in the library system I did not feel like a failure and I worked and I noticed when he was out of money that my money was spendable.So maybe I made a little success in my job as a page. So I do not know about climbs to the tops at all.I have not had any haters or did I ever get up into higher echelons where anyone would have cause to be jealous. I think that those who rise in a company are to be praised, notto be condemned. jealousy is sick.

because that's they way things go presently. People prefer the easier paths and resent others for their accomplishments rather than rejoice with them and learn from them. I know I have turned into a more skeptic person as I age, and maybe - just maybe:) - I'm getting grumpy at small things, but as I see it s lot of people would like to go to the top with us, but get lost being upset at us for being there.It's a matter of if I can't be there, neither can you. How dare you getting there while I'm still here???? Sad but true. Yes, I have had quite a few encounters with them, and learned that there really is not much we can do other than recognizing that they are doing it and that we best ignore them as much as possible taking away from them the satisfaction of knowing they affected me.

I don't really block the haters in my life, I give myself time to listen to all that they'll blab and then ignore them. At least I know what's wrong and If I know that I'm not doing anything to them, then I guess its not my problem anymore if they have a problem with mine. I guess some people would bring you down because they're jealous, a bit insecure and selfish. As for me, I'd never want to put someone down because I don't want them to do the same as well.

If I may elaborate on this situation that has happened to me. I work for a major manufacturing company where I was the head of customer service amongst other responsibilities that no one else was trained for; not even my supervisor knew how to do my job except the basic customer service. When one of my girls left I was left to do the whole department and it was very overwhelming. I was asking for help for more than 5 months because I was putting in way too much overtime for a salaried person. We had a lay-off this past December and one of the girls was going to lose her job if she could not be placed somewhere else. I got her. She was in accounting but they took the job away from her due to she was not doing the best that corporate america thought she was. My supervisor, which was her direct boss, as I did not have a boss, I really was my own boss, my supervisor was only there when I needed to report when I was sick or going to be out of the office. Anyway, from the start this girl undermined my way I did things, said things, etc. You can tell she definitely wanted my job and she tried so hard that she started gossiping about me, reporting me on things that I never did and would twist my words around. At first it did get to me and stressed me out termendously. People said she was jealous but envy can play a part too. But as the days went on she would watch me, listen to me on the phone, etc. For a person who did not like the way I did things she sure paid attention to detail and would do and say the same things as me. I am not saying I always did or say the right things but I was good at my job, but it took time to get there. What is boiled down to to me is that she was competing with me. After a while I would just smile and tell myself she was doing a good job and at times I would tell her that also. She never stopped competing for my position, although I knew she would never get it. BUT she could have if she was able to break me down. The best thing to do in a situation like this is to not let it get to you, keep smiling, keep being nice as you need to show them that they cannot break you down. That is what they want to do so you lose your confidence, screw up, etc. Fourteen months later, she got laid off. I forgive her for all the things she tried to do to me, but in the end, I stayed strong and let her roll off my back. Matter in fact, to end my post, the day she left she came over to my desk and made amends. I only told her two things: that she was forgiven after each time she hurt me, and that if she would have gotten to know me that she would of gotten to know me better that maybe she could have been a team player instead of a competitor. She cried and I gave her a hug and wished her the best in her endeavors. To me, don't let others bring you down to their level as the only person who knows you is you. Do your best and feel good at the end of the day.

I think a lot of it is down to jealousy on their part. People get very jealous and envious of others that are doing some great things, or bettering themselves. I know some people that get like this, if I go somewhere nice, or do something for myself. I started a home study course, and I got people saying... "Why would you want to waste your time on that, nothing will come of it" but really it would have been nice for them to say "Yeah thats a great idea, maybe it will lead you to something big"... Be like me, and just become ignorant of other people's comments and jealousy, you do what YOU want to do, and don't worry about anyone else.

You are right as these days people have become very selfish and they need everything at the cost of others.In olden days people were not like this as they were all helping each other ,but that helping nature seems to have gone with the wind these days and its really bad.I feel like living in those olden times which was really beautiful and the world was very beautiful with not much hatred around like today

I don't know why some people are like that they should be happy for your success an all they want to do is bring you down my only advise to you is don't let it bother you even though you seem alot like me an don't want to step on toes an have hurt feelings but you need to worry about you an just let the haters hate

I think jealousy plays the major part as others have commented. But it has also something dealing with chances. The fact is the more senior it gets, the fewer openings there are. For instance, there is only 1 CEO in an company and if it is you, then it surely isn't me. Similar things goes for almost all senior positions and thus, they definitely want to keep those positions open so that they can make their way to that. If they are occupied, their chances of climbing and upgrading is likely lower.

The people who try to ruin things are the people who know they will never achieve what you did, it is all simply down to jealousy. 'If they can't have it then neither can you' is their attitude. Some people are just bitter about others success. Don't let them stop you from doing what you dream of

That is what they call as the "CRAB MENTALITY" Put many crabs in a pit and observe them. Whenever a crab makes it a step higher than other crabs nearby, a fellow crabs would pull him down back to the bottom of the pit. This mentality happens in real life too. Just like what you said in this discussion. I will assume that this happened to you already that's why you are able to open a topic concerning this issue. Well, if ever you get into the same situation again, don't let anyone pull you down ever. They may hurt or pain you, say discouraging words to you, or even do something stupid to impede your good plans BUT DON'T you let them scare you, demoralize you, discourage you, distract you, or stop you. GO GO GO and just GO. If it need be, don't even look back until you reach your goal. Then once you're there... it's up to you to decide if you want to pull them up too. Good luck!

I don't get it either. Some people just want to bring you down just because they're in the bottom. Some are unconsciously bringing other down. Like, what we're experiencing. That's why my Mama is having a tough time. :| :( My relatives are like unconsciously bringing our family down, we can't advance because they cannot support themselves and they're depending on my mama's salary. Mama is supporting them too. And I think the reason why my mama and her boyfriend broke up is because of my relatives. My mama's bf thought that what we all want from him is only money. He didn't know, that my mama is suffering too much pain. I can't even stand it. My mama doesn't deserve this. She deserve happiness. :( Hm, I can't accept the fact that she's suffering like this. My relatives are too lazy, dependent and insensitive. Why not, get a real job. :| I'm not trying to put all the blame on my relatives but I can't just stop because they are way too annoying. :| Hmm. Wish us luck! :) God bless you! Have a great day!

well that is a nature of human kind always envy , jealosy , pride and arrogant but that factor is which had climbed higher than if we were about to or already to the top and the famous is higher we climb higher and if it is definitely in the face of hurricanes

Simplely, you there ,not they .so they don`t want you success,if you get the top ,you will get everything ,but they will lost ,so they pull you down ,then they will get everything some day ,maybe! That`s we always said jealous. But not always like that ,someone don`t compete with you ,they tell you that some trouble of the way to the top ,you feeling they want to bring you down ,but that`s not true!

I guess it just comes down to the popular phrase...Haters gonna hate!