I bought a book and want to give it to one grandson..

FInd books on something the other 2 like then give books to the for ever whick one they like but I woud really give the sar book to the one that is interested can get the otehr 2 somehing else if ya have too

Hi I have 9 grandchildren and if I see something that is suitable for one of them I certainly don't buy 9!! I would explain to the others that this is something that he is interested in and that when you spot something similar that you know they would like then you will get it them.

I would never consider buying 3 of the same book if they all live in the same household! You did not say if they were siblings if so they could share. I would make a point of asking the other two what interests they had and let them know that you would look for books for them.

We are so worried about hurting feelings nowadays that we kind of loose track of things sometimes. There is nothing that says that in this situation you should give books to all 3 kids. If one of your friends shows interest in something and you decide to give him/her an item you have that you think he/she will appreciate because it's related to that interest do you go around to find similar gifts to all your friends? This child showed interest in one thing and you happened to find a book about it and thought of him, you bought the book, and decide to give it to him. Maybe at another time, you pass by something that grabs your attention related to the interests of one of the other kids and get it for him, or maybe not. Kids - and adults - need to learn that gifts are not the only measure of love and caring and that sometimes someone gets something, other times someone else gets something. There is no damage. It's life. And we're not teaching them anything valuable when we feel we should give every child a gift just because we're giving one of the children a gift other than showing them that they're entitled to something when someone else gets something - is that real life? The same with birthdays. Many people feel that when it's one child's birthday they should give a gift to the other siblings as well so they won't get jealous. Children understand things pretty well. If we explain,that it's the other child's birthday and that when it's his/her birthday then they will get something as well, they understand. I'm not saying you cannot bring a special treat for everyone, like a cute lollipop, or something similar, but kids need to learn that it's not always their turn to get something. We are creating a generation of "want it" and "have to have it" and "it's not fair" children and are damaging them more than guiding them to what real life is. SUre we're doing it out of love and not wanting to hurt them, but it's still not helping no matter how much we thing it is.

Hmmm...good one, Quita. How well do you know the other two? You might just ask them if they'd be interested, &, if they aren't, ask them what they'd really like! Do the boys usually get along, or is there any antipathy or jealousy among them? Those are the criteria I'd factor in to make a decision. Are these Christmas gifts? Birthday? That's another thing to consider. Are you merely interested in helping the young astronomer-in-training & you think the others will just be jealous for jealousy's sake, even if they had no desire to have such a book? Sigh...politics start at earlier & earlier ages, lately, or so it seems! Good luck! Well, wait...I don't believe in luck. Better get a heavenly assist on this one! P.S. I know I'd love to have a book like that! I've always loved the stars! Maggiepie “In questions of power, let no more be heard of confidence in man, but bind him down from mischief by the chains of the Constitution.” ~ Thomas Jefferson

I know I'm kind of late coming to this discussion and no doubt you have already got much good advice, but since I have five grand kids of my own at my house I can identify with your dilemma. First of all just let me say that giving one gift for more than one child to share is very problematic. Children don't do sharing very well. When I run across something that one of my grand kids would especially love I will go ahead and buy it. However, before I give it to them I will search for and acquire gifts for all the rest of them as well. When I was raising my own kids this didn't present a problem because I taught my children that just because I got something for one of them didn't mean that the others were being left out. They knew that at a later time I would get them something special too. Teaching my children this fact saved me a lot of problems and saved them a lot of heartbreak later in life wen they didn't always get their way.

hi quita88 why not find out what the interests are of the other two and give each boy a book about his particular interest so that way nobody will feel left out and all three will have a book that really does interest them too.Three books for three probably very different brothers should do the trick nicely. lol.

Perhaps the best thing to do to keep the other two from feeling jilted is to get them each a book that has something that they are interested in as well. Then everyone is happy and the grandchild who is interested in the stars will appreciate the book and be able to read it and look at it without haveing ot share it whith his siblings which might be less interested.

Give the book to the one who shows interest. Buy something else for the other 2 that they are interested in. The other 2 won't care that they didn't get a book on stars. However, they most likely WILL be jealous if the one grandson gets something & they get nothing. I don't even know if their gift needs to be a book...just make it something that you know they enjoy!!!

Well, if you want it even steven, you can always get books for the other boys in their interests. Or if not books, something else - again, whatever they have interests in. I would have a reading in the round . . . show all 3 of them the book and read some of it with them to peak everyone's interest . . . maybe the other 2 will learn a thing or two - and like it!!

Well depending on the age of these grandsons, their reactions will differ. If they are age 5-12, then they will get mad because they didnt get anything. If they are older than that, then they will understand if you gave it just to the one child.

I have three daughters, with some time different interests,,what i find to be the best solution,, is if i find one thing for one daughter,, i tell the other two that when i can i will get them something they like,, and i do ,, it seems to work and they understand that they are not always gonna like the same things,, I hope this helped,,