why ex-lovers can't be friends?

why not?, it,s depend on our self the common reason is because as a lover we already know is is Boy bad and good side or maybe little secret and so on girl side but the main reason is this 2 human being afraid to fall in love again , so they want to change , Adam and eve become ex? how? it,s impossible right? like old said" there are a lot of fish in the sea" so there is an ex- so got to know our self playboy, playgirl, impassioned? etc etc etc

maybe its bcoz u broke up with lots of pain in ur heart....thats why every time u see him the pain comes back...

It's not really hard if you are over him COMPLETELY. Or maybe, it's just an awkward feeling between an ex-lovers. Go on, talk to him just like an ordinary friend.

why not ,although it will be difficult

it really is so hard to be friends with your ex at first because both egos have to be protected.but no matter how painful and bad the reason of the separation I think lovers are the real best friends if they have finally accepted all that happened to them.i hope you still become friends with you ex one day.

i feel sorry for it :( but sure he has to understand that you need to talk about your daughter bcs even your relation ended you will always be connected by your daughter so she needs to receive the best from you so both have to give money for her to have a nice life^^ try to talk in a sweet way with him and maybe you can be good friends. just both need to forget the issues you had that separated you and start again by being friends ^^

I think it is a case to case basis. What I mean, it depends on the reason why the relationship was broken. Moving on is a process. When you get out into a relationship, especially when the break up is not good, of course you will not expect that you two should be friends. One person may be fine with the idea that you can be friends, but the hurting person cannot deal with it. It is a defense mechanism. I became friends most of my exes, but I had this ex whom I cannot deal to be friend with after the break up. It took some time for me to handle meeting him and talking to him. Another reason perhaps is that, who caused the break up.

I think that it can be difficult but if you have children with someone you have to learn to get a long with them as hard as that may be. it depends on how angry the two of you were at the time of the break up, eventually you should get over it. If you don't have kids you never have to see each other again. Also if their is a desire for one another it makes things really difficult.

It depends on your ex on how he or she took your relationship. I had bunch of boyfriends before but only one is still my friend until now. He is my friend because he treats me that way and I like it. No strings attached.

I think your situation is different and is really hard because you have a baby. Also if money is involve or whatever support you are looking for, for sure there will be arguments. But if we will just be talking about ex lovers without baby, I think it is possible. If they can't be good friends, at least they can be civil.

I don't have a problem becoming friends with my ex-girlfriends. But if they don't feel like to then its also fine with me. I don't think ex-lovers "can't" be friends. They can if both of them are open about it. Its just really hard sometimes to be friends with someone you loved before.

In my view,good lovers are very good friends to each other. If they are not good lovers,that likely means they are also not good friends.

We cannt be friends because we hurt eachother,we cannt be enemies because we loved once.

I think ex-lovers can still be friends after everything happened. It depends on how you ended up the relationship. but sometimes or should i say most of the times, ex-lovers cannot be friends because of what happened. If they argue a lot, there was a misunderstanding or conflict that can't be fix. Oh i'm sorry to hear that you guys parted ways, i'm just hoping your little angel is in good condition.

i think ex-lovers can be friends. but they really have to understand and accept why they broke up to get over it. that way the can forgive each other. both parties need to forgive though, to be friends again. if not, it's really hard to even be civil with each other.

excuse me. Well well well. You are totally different. Thinking about it, all of my ex, we still kiss, hug etc. Is like we never left. The only difference is that we had it in our minds that we have left and if anyone ask, the answer would be that we are not together. Or maybe because i am still a child, that is possible. All i know is me and my ex's are so close and if i snap my finger i can get back anyone i want.

Nobody said that ex-lovers cannot be friends. This is only for those who cannot move on from their past relationships that's why they are having a hard time accepting that friendship is the only thing they can only have. They don't want to make friends with their ex's maybe because they no longer want to have a connection between the two of them or maybe they are still hoping that they can still be more that friends again. There are several reason for that but personally, I believe that ex-lovers can still be good friends. I have some ex-boyfriends who became my friends nowadays, though we are not really close with each other because I already have my present boyfriend but still I know that we are friends.

Actually, it really depends on both of you, for me, you can still be friends. There will come a time when everything will be settled

You have the answer to your question. You say u cant be friends thats the reason that dealing is different. You have created a boundry in your mind saying that you cant be friends. You need to accept things that if you are concerned with your daughters future you need to be friends. A fight start when ego's clash. keep your ego's aside and think of your daughter.

why not? it will just take time but you will soon end up friends.. no other friend have loved you this much.. no other friends have you shared a lot of exclusive and intimate times.. no other friends may know you more than he.. had been through in a lot of failed relationships, in the end we turn out to be good friends.