Betrayed?
By ilovemellow
@ilovemellow (44)
Philippines
June 30, 2010 12:58am CST
What would you do if one of your friends told you that she loves your long time boyfriend? Would you feel betrayed by your friend or your boyfriend (thinking that he must have done something that made your friend feel that way)? Which one would you hold on to? Would it be the man of your life or the long time friend?
I heard my friends talking over this kind of dilemma. What would you advise them? I'm sure your comments would certainly help.
6 responses
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
30 Jun 10
possible, suggestions that you have to give to your friend is, dare to tell the reasons why you left the old lover so that she will be able to consider the right choice.
@ilovemellow (44)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
Thank you for your comment advokatku. I really appreciate it. Happy mylotting! :)
@jose431 (164)
• India
28 Jul 10
Recently this was happened to me when my boyfriend and my best friend became lover.I really don't know whom should I tell to my best friend who is living together with me or to my boyfriend.I don't tell anything to both of them.Now I am betrayed by my best friend as well as by my best friend.Hope they still together. What would you will do if it is happen to you?
@dierdre (2207)
• Philippines
1 Jul 10
Well, a vaguely same situation happened to me but it was underhanded though. Unlike your situation which was brought up by a friend. If you are always with your bf and you dont really think that it is possible that they could communicate or get close to each other behind your back, then the blame is solely on your friend. She could have easily avoided your bf for the feelings to subside but no, she went ahead and told you about it. The fact that she told you means she is willing to risk your friendshp for the guy. So ditch your friend, and keep a close eye on your man.
@bournecaindelta (2477)
• India
30 Jun 10
WHy would I feel betrayed. I mean if I was in love that with that friend in the first place and had expressed it to her/him, then I would I guess, but each person has the right to have any kind of feelings.
If they both are good friends of mine, I would surely tell them that I was very happy for them.
If I feel that one of them is just playing around, I would warn the other about it and tell them to play safe
bourne
@VANILLAREY (1470)
• India
1 Jul 10
First check with the boyfriend if its true. If its true then, to hell with both of them for betrayal.
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
30 Jun 10
Sweetie, it doesn't always mean that the boyfriend feel the same about the friend. People have feelings and emotions and we cannot decide who we want to like or have feelings for. It just happens. I won't reject either of them. There has to be a way around it.
You might feel betrayed, but make sure of the boyfriends feelings, before you loose the one that is most important to you.
TATA.