Getting tubes tied??
By jessi0887
@jessi0887 (2788)
United States
June 30, 2010 8:25am CST
I was hoping to get opinions from friends and others. I just can't figure out what would be best. I found out i was expecting my second child back in april. It was a shocker considering we wanted to wait untill my first child was school aged at least. But not so bad considering he will be four when this one gets here. Well my hubby and I decided if it is an girl which we will know next monday then we want to get my tubes tied to call it quits i guess. If its a boy then i told him it will be a real long time before a girl gets here LOL!. Well the thing is i told my decision to alot of other family. Some supported my decision and understood. TWo is enough in these days. Well others questioned me. Some said what if later down the road i change my mind and decide for more or what if i remarry and we want our own. The future is unpredictable and it is what scares me. MAking such a permanent change to my body that will be a big decision. I would love to have more and maybe some of my family is right. Who knows if several years from now i want another baby. Im still young. Im only 22.
So i came on here to ask other opinions on such a decision. Should i practice another birth control option? Is this decision too rash for my age? If we do have any more I just don't see it anytime in the future before my other two or both school age. This is just such a hard decision for me.
Also i did speak of it to my hubby and he actually is on the same terms. He is afraid of making the wrong decision as well when it comes to this. Its rather fustrating.
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@mama_len28 (56)
• Philippines
30 Jun 10
hi! i think you are really too young to have your tubes tied. i too once asked my OB if i can have my tubes tied after my second baby; i was 25 then, but she told me she wouldn't do it until i reach age 30 or more. she told me that a lot of her patients who had their tubes tied ask her later on if those can be reversed. sadly, it is not. it is permanent. it is true we do not know what will happen in the future. your relatives are right. who knows, you may re-marry again or just feels like having another baby, and having your tubes tied will not make you get pregnant at all.
there are lots of contraception methods available. you just need to talk to your OB and get what best suites you.
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@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
30 Jun 10
Thanks, the only thing is im staying away from contracepts that have hormones in them because of all the side effects they gave me previously. And i have tried them all over the course of seven years. The shot, the pills, the patch, the IUD, the ring thing. So im well experience with hormones to know they are not good with my body. THanks though for giving me insight on such a major decision. By the way did you ever have any more considering you wanted your tubes tied?
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@mama_len28 (56)
• Philippines
12 Jul 10
what do you mean do i have any more? a baby? if i got your question right, the answer is yes. i had my only daughter at 27, im turning 28 then. i once told myself im already contended with my two boys. but then god is sooo good he gave a daughter. now, i really wish she's the last, but i still haven't had my tubes tied. i tried pills but i skip once in a while so i stopped it. i also tried the calendar method. it worked well for me, but in the latter part i got tired of looking at the calendar and counting and eventually stopped counting at all. that is why when i was one day delayed i knew right there and then that i was pregnant. now, im taking the minipills (and taking it religiously).
@snapdragons (91)
• United States
1 Jul 10
Hi jessi! I think you're pretty young to be making a permanent decision like this one, too. There are so many differnt forms of birth control available these days so there's really no need to rush into this. My sister originally was set on having two kids and she got what she wanted, a boy and a girl, but she didn't get her tubes tied and down the road they decided to have two more.
@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
1 Jul 10
Thanks for your reply. That is my main concern is what if we want another one down the road. Right now two seems like it would be all we want but who is to say ten years from now i want just one more. Thats why this decision is soo hard.
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
1 Jul 10
Good morning, jessi....I concur with the responses that you have received regarding your age, you are far too young to make such a permanent decision, as none of us knows what the future holds, and how life changes things.
I also understand your issues with the "hormones" in contraception....but, the alternate is worth weighing!!! What about a vasectomy for hubby, as there is good reversal results, in case things change in his life! This serious permanent move warrants a good deal of research and discussion with your Dr. for alternates! Good luck and weigh this decision heavily!
@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
1 Jul 10
Thanks for your reply. Unfortunately can't afford a vasectomy and my hubby doesn't have insurance. I have state insurance for low income women. It would cover tubal ligation. State insurance though doesn't help adult men. Our state sucks...LOL
