Do you maintain a distance with your children or are you close with them?

hi buchi_bulla, most of the time my grown children are close to their mother,mostly they will tell pros and cons of the most of their activities,we have some problem with my elder son ,he wasted ten lakhs rupees and still he is not revealing what he did with that money,he will tell us ,he is evading the real thing and telling stories to us,due to that we are now in debt position,have a nice day

I try to create a balance. I maintain a distance to give them the freedom to make their own choices but at the same time I am also close to them and leave the lines of communication open. As you have experienced, that is the right approach.

Hi Buchi, I don't maintain any distance with my loved ones especially my kid. I always tried to get as much time as I could to get along with him. I felt uneasy when I had to leave for my working place during his infant and toddler age. As I realized that it's the very time that my young kid needed parental love, as mom was his most intimate person then. And it's the right time to cultivate him with all the good habits. And of course it's a must responsibility for a caring mom or guardian My little did burst into loud sobs the first several times when I left for my office during his toddler age. This made my tears running down as well. Both his dad and I really closed to him. And he had acquired different info and knowledge from us. We grabbed every minute to get along with him as we know he wouldn't be together with us in the same roof when he grown up. Yeah, he left for his four years university life in another state till his graduation. After spending a couple months of holiday with us he then left for his brand new career life in the adjacent state. We keep in touch closely often talking on phone or via email nowadays. He would back to the hometown whenever having holiday We enjoy the reunion gathering and have lots to share with pleasantly. Happy posting

I will not keep a distance with my children and we are very close. They will play with me like they are playing with the children of their age, kidding, pulling my leg, and teasing just like a friend of their age and I too feel great if they share their good and bad with me. So that we can come to know what is there in their mind and solve the problem or correct them if they err.

Well I am very close to my kids as they pretty small and this the time when they need their parents the most so I always try to understand her needs without her telling and she also like to share everything with me , so that she never feel that she is alone or no body loves her at home .

i think parents should be close to their children. this kind of relationship makes them more confident about themselves. my 3 year old son also feel protected and loved everytime i'm just around.

As much as possible I try to maintain close relationship with my son. I had a bad experience with my childhood days, I don't want my son to experience such. I always ask my son if he's feeling alright and a lot of stuff. I make sure I attend to his needs.

i dont have children yet but i think you do the right thing^^ you must be close to them and let them share their things with you and also ask you for advises^^ all mothers should be close to their children if they really care for them they need to know them well. when they have problems they must be there for them and help them so for sure you are a good mother^^ they can still respect you is not bcs you are more close to them like a friend too that they will lose the respect for you^^ so keep doing like you do^^ you are a good mother^^