Hi, Mylotters, Are you careful not to hurt the fellow Mylotters with your words

I do try to be as nice as possible to other mylotters, and respect everyone's opinions even though I might not necessarily agree with them. I understand that everyone is entitled to their opinions and there is no need to be nasty to people just because they think differently from you.

Yes, I try to be diplomatic in my words to ensure that I won't unconsciously hurt tbe feelings of other mylotters. But again, we are no puppet on the string and allow ourselves or our friends be hammered by others. Neither am I a 'yesman' just to keep the situation at level head. I will speak my mind out without fear or favor and at times embroiled in arguments but at the end of the day, we come back to the round table and talk thinks over 'nicely'. There is no permenant enemies in mylot when it comes to discussions especially when both sides have declared themselves 'matured beings'.

Hi anna, it has happened with me too, i felt sorry for that later, why i asked like that, i misunderstood by the words by the admin. That must be their common words. I apologize. Because that words seems to be a different for the Indian people but we must also understand their language too, without understanding any language or the circumstances we should not comment. I strongly apologize for my disrespect and the misunderstanding. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2344390.aspx

yup...a very good point there vijay but then again, we as the readers of comments & discussions posted by others, should also learn to see things from the other persons point of view before jumping to any conclusions and stuff..

I tried to write what most on my mind when responding to a discussion. If I could not find gentler or nicer words, then I would write whatever is my true feeling. If the write is offended, what could I say?

There are certain guidelines here in mylot that inhibits the use of explicit words of any kind that's why the users must be careful so that their account will not be terminated. You can also report the verbal abuse that other mylotters may post.

Although I try to be considerate to everyone and certainly will not offend or hurt anyone on purpose, I will not walk on eggshells just because I might be misunderstood. Specially because we all know that there are members from all over the world, we have to understand that we might find phrases, sentences and even ideas that might offend/hurt us. If the person can't take that, then maybe this is not the right place for him/her. That said, the best way to deal with something like that is to respectfully ask exactly what the person means or to refrain from using those words for example. Then the misunderstanding can be straightened up. If someone asks me nicely if I can abstain from using a certain word or sentence in their own discussion, I will certainly do that. But if the same person comes to my own discussion and demands that I don't use those words then I am sorry but I won't, it's my post. I was always thought that when I visit someone in their house, their rules are my rules, but when they visit me in my house, then they will need to abide by my rules - as long as we're all respectful and polite, there should be no problem. I believe that to be in a place like this, people need to have an open mind to co-exist peacefully and not take offense easily.We know that there are many different cultures represented here and we should expect that not all are like ours. What I think? I think that the main thing is that we should be polite and respectful in our dealing with everyone, both here and anywhere else. But I also think that the other side needs to do the same and that we have to keep things realistic. Balance. The other person will have to also be open to understand that I mean no offense and respect my own culture/ideas/language as well. Lately things are really too " one sided". Both cultures - if different cultures are different - need to go halfway, not only one all the way.

hi vijayanths you are so right as we all have different cultures and I know as an American we may say some things or do things that an Indiam might frown at but mostly we have no mean intentions at all. Just a little clash of cultures. but we can read up a bit and also learn from our Indian friends here so we are not unintentionally insulting or rude. I think you are absolutely right. I know I have many friends from all over the world here and I do not want to say something that may sound offensive to a person from a different culture..Here we can sort of help each other out. I would really appreciate if I have made some comment one of my mylot friends finds unpleasant , that they point it out and tell me why so that I will not make that error again. So lets all try to be careful how we 'word things. hugs from hatley.

I agree. I will be careful in future when I type response messages or starting a new discussion. Thanks for the advice.

Yes I do agree that tact is paramount here as it is in the ‘real world’. It is easy to get excited about something and blurt out the wrong words which may possibly be hurtful to another. The advantage we have here is that we have to type our words so we have an opportunity to choose them more carefully. If I ever suspect there has been a misunderstanding with anyone here I usually try to rectify as soon as I become aware of it.

Yes I try really hard not to hurt any of my fellow mylotters because they are all incredibly nice and good people! All of them have some incredibly intelligent ideas to share and I will always encourage them to share them. Sometimes we all just need to truly give people a chance because we all have something important to say I feel.

No matter how careful you are they are existence of bullies who like to pick the underdog most of the times. Even some are courteous or respectful. They just exist few who seem s happy picking then bashing other so it is their choice. Until they get tired it is then one could feel safe. In the matter of cultural differences a lot of patience is need since not all speak or write fluent in English. So if other have a hard time to understand the topic they should not reply instead or criticize the poster which try to comes out with a topic even it is not really his languages.

hello dear anna, I don't use bad words to offend someone. I express my opinion and idea according to what i really feel. I know that,without using any bad words i can still offend other mylotters,but,i also write my apologies with what i have wrote. I believe that,mylot is an open forum,to inter-act and have discussion. To offend other mylotters unintentionally cannot be avoided. Unless the person is really looking for some trouble. Cheers my dear anna

When 99% of the MyLotters have no real profile photo and personal details, it is hard to understand why there should be misunderstandings. No guarantee the person I am having discussion is real. One may be an Iranian yet claim to be an American, and vice versa. A male may put up a female's photo in his profile and use a female's name as his username to deceive readers. Talking about words, we sometimes get emotional in our discussions and forget about some MyLot guidelines. We should choose proper words for our discussions as far as possible. Best wishes from this real MyLotter !

Yes! We need to be careful with our words. When I'm responding or commenting in one's discussion.. I choose my word.. That's because I don't want to have an enemy and don't want to hurt others' feelings as well. I respect all of the opinions that others' gave to my discussions.. Because, I want to be respected too, when I comment in others' discussion. :D Well, sometimes misinterpretation cannot be avoided... when we're like talking to others. Because I believe that everyone has different opinion. But still, be careful with the words we use. :D