How does it feel to be second best?

Completely a horrible feeling. Yes I have experienced that and it is not such a great feeling. I believe as I began to mature I demand to be made to feel first and only number one. I know that being number one in someone's life is not always possible, I mean think about it for a second. I am divorced and a single parent for a very long time. Then I meet this wonderful man whom we live together now for 4 years. Realistically my children will always be number one in my life. So by that I mean, I do not believe it is always possible to be number one, just do not treat me like second best. Make me feel like you number one and well that's it we work together.

There's a saying about that. It's wanting the cake and eating it too. Sound like some one has a lot of nerve, and if this has happened to you, I'm sorry. It's sure a slap in the face! I would walk away. It's not in me to be kept in reserve as a consolation prize. It's first prize or nothing. At least in walking away you are free to find some one who appreciates you like we do. If in the fullness of time, this individual comes crawling back, asking for a second chance, then you perhaps could rethink your strategies. ALthough you would probably always wonder if some one else is in the unlucky position to be waiting in the wings. Guess what? The step-daughter is gone! I feel bad. I can't even offer to send her over to cheer you up....

A new person will never replace a person you knew before. Your first friend will always be your first friend, there is simply no way to change the past. But why should this concern you. What ever place you fit in another's life is yours to keep. The wonder of my first love was never the same with the others, but it was not a better love or a worse love, it was just the first, that is the way of life.

I don't think i would accept it.

Yeah i have come across that situation To be frank if we keep that person in our heart in first position .Then that means we love that person very much.The problem is that person is not true to me.Never ever like to hurt others feelings so i will accept if she likes any other person then her wish.I want her to be happy for ever. tks for the article.

Being rejected by someone else and see your love with another can be the end of the world. But remember that there are other women/men better then her/him. This world is huge... your true love cam be anywhere!

I havent experienced that situation yet but someone is 'wooing' me now but he told me that he was trying to forget his ex of 3 years and he is trying to learn how to love me. One of these days i will frankly tell him to stop bothering me if he's just gonna use me. Im not even interested in the first place, haha. That's an example of a 'future second best' if i give in lol.

You mean a rebound relationship? I have tried this in the past and all I did was to feel sorry for myself because I can't really force myself to love the new guy. It's like I'm still longing for my past love.

Hi, I remember once Doglas McArthur said, "Being No 1 is the loneliest thing." There is good and bad side in every situation. Why then, one is predominant and the other is hidden? This is because we can only see what our mind wants to see. We pick things that we have an instinct to choose. There can be a positive deduction for every incident. Anyways, if someone's girlfriend is mourning for her lost love while presently having a boyfriend, it can easily be deduced that the girl is not ready yet for another relationship. She just wanted to find shelter, some kind of comfort in some body, so she chooses you. With the enormous amount of support you are giving to your girlfriend, she has mistaken it for love. Its a hasty decision on her part and has every possibility that the relationship will not be a happy one. There should be a pause between two relationships. This is necessary in order to analyze and understand what went wrong. Now the duration of this gap varies from person to person. But entirely omitting such a gap will be a blunder. It will feel like you have decided to have this relationship just to amuse yourself and to divert your mind from the painful thoughts of your lost love. Thanks. God bless you

there could be times that being the second best would be a disaster for a person. bu there are also times that the position of being the second best wont matter at all. that happens normally if the person that is being considered as the one who is always better that you is your idol. it happens to me and my sister. i am rated as the second best most of the time but that doesn't matter t me at all because i am proud that they are proud of my sister and i am also proud tat she is my sister. :)

I haven't and I haven't met a girl who can make me a willingly pillow. But love is mysterious, I don't know whether there's someone who I'll sacrifice myself to her. But in my mind now, I won't be so selfless.

love born of betrayal is better lost than lived. that is the old saying where if a person cant be totally honest with you then they are not totally honest with themself. accept such a person who holds another in their heart as a friend, because ultimately you will just be second, and if the other ever comes around again if they are able, you will be overlooked. and if they cant come back, that is a spot that may not be able to be taken unless you went in the same direction as the last person. if you love them, let them love the object of their affection. that is the least a friend can do

Hello silvercoin. Most of us experience that kind of thing, it's very unfair especially if you are trying so hard to be at your best and just realizing that it still isn't enough. But, remember this, we as a human doesn't control emotions of another human. Human makes mistakes and it sometimes take time for them to realize what they are missing, until then they would definitely regret everything. And this is when forgiveness comes in. ^.^ You love that unfair person, because if you don't why would you agree on being just the pillow? but if you are also fair to yourself and wouldn't agree on these things, why don't you try telling what you feel about the situation? something like "Hey, I love you but could you please get over your GF/BF?! you are not dumb to recognize that I am not HER/HIM!" lolz.. just kidding... do you know the kelly clarkson song... oh.. i forgot... but there is this line that says something like, "I don't know how to cook but I can clean up the mess she felt." (i don't know if it's the right lyrics but I hope I did get the sense. and lastly, have I ever been treated like that? No.. thank God. But I would just like to leave the favorite motto of mind to everyone... no matter how it hurts "what doesn't kill you makes you strong." ^.^

I haven't and would rather not. : Maybe as a friend, I would comfort him but not as a partner. I don't want to be a rebound. .

No, I haven't and I'm pretty sure I wouldn't accept it.

Recently I just felt the same with my girlfriend, and I really having cold war with her right now. She didn't call me, nor I call her. We both playing cool. She has someone else in her heart more than me, and I couldn't accept this fact right now.

Yes I have, and no it is not very nice at all. You feel like your just not good enough. Unfortunately for me, I put up with it, for the sake of love rather than feeling the pain of hurt.

I don't think I could ever live being the second best. It's hurtful, and sure one could take being second best for a while, but if it goes on for a lifetime, it hardens your heart. Maybe, I could settle for a second choice beau, if I cannot be with my first choice, but to be a second choice of the other person is a whole lot different. In the first instance, though he is my second choice, I can always change me and forget about the first choice, because I have control over me. But, if I'm the second choice, I don't have control over the thoughts and feelings of the one who chose me second. And, no matter what I do to make him forget the first choice, if in his heart, he doesn't really want to - I can not make him change heart.