why do men can't stop themeselves from cheating?

I don't think that all guys are subjected of cheating. There are also a few that are committed with their relationship. I think, we, guys, will not make that thing if the relationship is intimate. One way of saying an intimate relationship is to enjoy the time you were together. The couple could might experience some problems, but they are facing that problems not just as a wife or a husband but importantly as a couple.

Hi gracielle. You stated in another topic that your husband is a working musican and plays a lot of gigs. Everyone knows that the girls and women throw themselves at these guys. There is tons of temptations every time he plays a job. Apparently, he is not mature or strong enough to ignore all the attention he gets from other women. He is in a position to take advantage of what others are willing and eager to give. It seems that many performers--in music, acting, sports, have the same problems, and there are a lot of divorces over it. He needs to get his proioities straight and take care of his wife.

I am with my boyfriend for almost five years and I think men never change for the better, they will always want to change you though, I always say that men are the descendants of pigs, no matter how much they take a bath they will always be smelling bad.

Well,my dear,that's one of the question that is still hanging in my mind until now,i haven't got clear and definite answer for that question. Maybe some reasons are there,like,women flirts with them. Ego tripper,like,the more women,the more men looks handsome or being proud to be called as womanizer. The only thing i know is,we as humans were given our freewill,to choose between good and evil. The womanizers and cheaters,choose the bad side...let them be.

You cannot clap hands with one hand. There has to be another woman for a man to cheat. Why do we only blame men. What about the women who cheat their husbands and boy friends in order to be with the man who cheats his wife?

Hello, that if that is the point in question, self-control, and I have to say that everything depends on our education and winth whom we relate, at work and at school always called friends abound, often hurt you in many ways or simply because you´re so, problem is one you can trust.

I do not know either. That is why, I am very much afraid to get marry because of that matter. I am afraid that my husband will cheat on me and it is very much painful. I have ex boyfriends where third party has been an issue and the reason for break up. Likewise, my current bf is also dealing with that and I hate it. I am thinking so much that when we are in a bf-gf relationship and there exist a "cheating" thing, how much more when we are already married and have a family. I am being stupid now because of love and understanding. That keeps my bf and I to stay in the relationship. I hate it though. My grandfather and father have no issues on womanizing although they are that attractive to be easily fond by women. My mother would also tease my father having another woman, but there is n truth to that. I want a relationship with no complications. However, I cannot find someone who is contented with only one. I think, out fathers kind are all gone. The species of womanizers are all spreading.

some men think that they can buy women through their money. maybe that is why they can't stop cheating. they think they can do anything with women because they are stronger than women

Bad men do bad things. Many men do not have moral values. So in their minds, nothing is wrong with cheating. Sometimes this is because we lost our faith in God. If there is no God, then whatever feels good, is right. Also women have made it easy to cheat. It used to be a woman would never sleep with someone unless they were married to them. Now, you can sleep with all sorts of woman without any commitment at all. Conscience is not some automatic thing. Conscience is only what you have been taught, or have chosen. If a man says in his mind "I will not eat pizza ever again." Then if someone offers him Pizza his conscience will bother him. But like I said most men find nothing wrong with sleeping around. So no it does not bother their conscience. Bad men do bad things. That's how it is. The first time, should be the last time. If a man cheats on you twice, that's a pattern. It means it really doesn't bother him to cheat. You should end the relationship right then.

My man never cheated on me. Yes, before i thought men are all the same but i have a great man who loved me so much and i know from my heart that he did not cheat me. Communication would be the best one to do so that your husband would be able to know what you are feeling and stay faithful to him also.

Yes, that is very true. Men were born polygamous, and because girls are always their temptations, there are big chances for the men to cheat. But don't and never think that all men are polygamous there are also about 10 percent that is really faithfull.

Oh, please. don't generalize men. I am in my early 30's, married for 11 years, blessed with 4 kids, and even on my deepest part of the so called mind, I did not even think of cheating my wife. I look on other girls, yes, but only to appreciate the beauty that God scattered here, To look is not cheating on her, but when one thinks lustily of others, that is already a form of cheating. Many times, I tell my wife, whenever we are travelling together, those things I often looked at. Like, say, a girl who walks across us has a beautiful body, I will tell her and she will react if I am correct or not. Most often she will ask me if a girl we will bump into is beautiful or not. I hate to cheat on my wife, not only because I love her, but also I am afraid of God. I also would like to be an example to my boys. For them to know that a men could zip up his pants and give the only keys to his wife, I have to show them that I can and that it is possible.

im sorry for what he did to you :( but you know not all guys are cheaters^^ there is two friends i have in internet. and one of them his gf broke up with him since 2 years ago and he still wants her back. he tried to date other girls but he cant. even she has a bf now she still wanted her back so im absolutely sure he would never cheat on her. the other friend i have he had a gf that cheated on him and i never saw him flirting with other girl only girl i saw he said he loves now was me and i never saw him talking with other girls neither in chat neither in nothing just in facebook he talked with girls but not a flirt he didnt even wanted to meet my friends in that site when i told him to. he is one of those guys that just dedicates to one woman you know. also my friends in school i had a friend that was so handsome and always a lot of girls were after him but he never cheated on his gf.there are still guys like this in the world just is so rare to find them^^

I have been with my partner 14 years, and never cheated. A previous female partner did cheat on me, which is why she is now in the distant past.

First off not all men cheat..Secondly...the ones that DO cheat continue to do it because they get away with it! If their wives, girlfriends continue to put up with it then of course they'll continue to do it...why wouldnt they? Its a game of sorts and when the wives/girlfriends stay the guys know they are winning..

hi gracielle thats a great topic and I wish I could tell you the answer. A few months back I would have said at least my dad never cheated on my mom,then while doing my familytree I found that my dad had had several affairs while married to my mom,leaving me with two half sisters somewhere in the US and that news I could have done without. I think my own husband cheated just once on me but could not prove it, and as he passed away a year later I have just buried the idea.I think that men are the ones who claim all men are womanizers so the women will just shrug it off and forgive them. I have a hunch a lot of this cheating is to brag themselves up to their men friends,see what I did.I'm a real stud. I hate this way of thinking. If a man is not going to settle down with his wife then do not marry.that way you will at least prevent one wife from getting hurt.

That habit is a nature of men all over the world. we can not change that, you don't need to care about their lies, just face it, then you will be used to it.

For me because our society is full of immoral they like to cheat if they don't like that they lost there trend to there friends and best friends.

Women is disadvantageous for their dependence on maintaining relationship with a man.Men cannot tolerate a woman to cheat him,if it happen,he will abandon that woman and find new one.What about woman in the similar case?Could she abandon that bad guy and find a new man?This unfair case is caused by bad culture formed in history.Cheating should be punished and them stopped.But women can hardly punish men who commit cheating.

That's an interesting viewpoint. I have been with my partner for nearly 14 years and never cheated. A partner previous to that did cheat on me: hence that relationship is no more!