breaking up and getting back together

Give her some more time to become more aware what she really wants. If she finds out that she can possess you 100% she will not appreciate you. She needs to miss you in order to gain you back. Sometimes people do not know what they really want until they lose it.

Well would you like me to tell you what you want to hear, or what you should do? You sound young so it's even harder. Before I tell you my advice, first I want to tell you I know how you feel: You feel like this is the most important thing in your life. You keep thinking of the fun times you had. The first hand holding, touching etc. Your trying to analyze phone conversations. Your crying, so much your eyes feel sleepy. You so despretlatly want to feel "that feeling" you always have when your with her. Young love is intense. Even this feels like the worst thing ever, it really isn't. In the future your going to look at this situation and wish you had not wasted your time. But you sound a little younger which makes it even harder sometimes. I can't tell you to not be sad or want to be with her because you can't help your feelings. I feel for you girl, just know it will get better I promise. Know this is what you should do and try to think about: Put yourself in her shoes. If you had an ex pop up could you possibly be in love the that person? No because you know who you love, she does not. Either she is really confused about who she likes or she is playing you. She might be playing the ex also. She is probably either keeping you around cause she likes you (not equally to how you like her which is never good in a relationship) and she knows if the thing with the ex doesn't work out (which it probably won't that is why she is an "ex") she can always have you to fall back on. When you love someone, you don't want them to hurt. If she really loved you she should have left you alone knowing she would hurt you. You know what to do. You know what your gut instinct is telling you. You don't need to be with her. It's going to be hard, but you have to. Even if she says she is sorry and she never loved the ex blah blah blah you are still always going to be paranoid that she will pull this crap again. I hope this helps, and again I promise soon this will not seem as gut wrenching as it is right now. Hang in there, stay close to your friends. Lastly, I am sure before you read this you already knew what to do. Move on. You don't even have to make it ugly. You can even just say you personally can't handle all the drama. Every moment you waste on her, you miss the chance of meeting someone who feels for you what you feel for her. In relationships and in true love there is no room for second place.

hi dinorawr It sounds like she should not be back with her ex and her parents know that. I would give her a little time to decide what she really wants in her life and just be there for her if she is ready to come back to you. But I would alsol make it plain to her what you have told us, that you do not want to play second fiddle, if she comes back to you you must be her true love or else all bets are off.

Every body deserved a second chance..why you don't try to give her another chance to prove herself that she is yours? what you are going to do is give your best to her.. talk to her what you gonna do to win her hearth back all to you..give her long patience, and understand and accept her past..talk to her heart to heart talk..

It happened to me and my husband before when we were just boyfriend girlfriend. I admitted to him that I still love my ex boyfriend, but I want to move on. I was just lucky that he did not leave me for that confession. But everytime we faced problems, he always brought up the issue that he's not the one I really love, it's my ex, blah blah blah. But since we were married already, time passed by and I was able to prove him that it's different already, that he is the one I already love. With your situation, I think you both deserve more time for yourselves first. Give each other time and space before deciding of going back to each other. After some time, definitely there will be realizations on your part and hers. That's the time you have to decide after thinking everything for many times. It is not really easy to forget the feelings for an ex lover, it will really take some time and it is a process.

I think you just need to give her time..being a good friend without pushing will help.. but dont let her walk all over you either..she sounds like she doesnt know what she wants.. and she needs to decide in her own time.. because the ex was her first love.. its going to take alot of time for her to get over her.. the best you can do is be there for her.. if the ex is that bad then she will get over her .. but it WILL take time

Obviously something is wrong with the ex because she isn't suppose to talk to her but if she still loves her ex and tells you she loves you and her ex was her first love, what I get from that is she is wondering if you can be more for her. I say find out about the ex as well, there is a reason she is talking to her ex and why she isn't allowed to talk to them. Ohh and I think you should give her a chance because everyone can get a second chance.

I think if she wanna fetch up with you again...tell her that maybe she needs more time for herself and to think about whats in her heart... then when everything is clear if your still willing to be with her...tell her that you will wait...why make her wait? so that she will really know that you dont wanna be confused again... and to make her feel that theres something negative in you...that she needs to work out when she get back to you... While waiting go hang out with your friends...or even try to meet other girls... and think about how is she different to others... and if you cannot find any difference well theres a lot...out there im sure who will die to have someone faithful like u.goodluck:)