This is for the guys...:) hope youll help me with it

it could be from many reasons, from everyday stress or whatever. but i guess you might need to find that right thing to have those specail nights. how did you do on your test ?

hi princess, I understand what your insights about being into a relationship. You know, not all in a relationship can definitely all turn good. IT has its trials part, an ups and downs when in a relationship. Mainly because, as time goes by, you can see the true color of the person you have committed with. The love before may change for better or if not, can be tiring or bored if one or both will allow a stagnancy in a relationship. He may not be the same man as before, because maybe, things for him had subside regarding his plans in having a better and growing relationship. Or he maybe, contented with that kind of relationship, whereas you being part of it, is unhappy of the things he maybe not intentional affect you or understand the real score you expected for the said relationship. Loving a person, in his totality is being accepted him as person regardless of his weakness, but, if passion in love or open communication towards a unified plan improving your relationship growth are suffered, then, I guess, the more harder for you to jump ahead and look for someone new because 4 years had cost so much memories for both of you. I suggest to, try discussing these matter with him, ask him all your doubts and explain your reasons, by which this will enlighten him that you are trying your best to have a growing and contentment in a relationship. There are some people who will be aware through communications and sharing of thoughts, that realizes his lackness and do cope up for the best again and re-united for the sake of love. Some guys had the feeling of not making the relationship as productive because maybe in their hearts, they have no guts to directly say that the love he has for the girl is not that as before and taking considerations also the feeling of the girl, and some have no purpose to tell the girl for a break up because he do not want himself be blamed and just wait for the girl to call the said relationship off. IT depends really on the personal view of the person. The action of any person is a clear evidence of his thoughts.. It is better to have a relationship if decided be ended because it will not work even tried many times, than jump into another someone without closing the existing relationship in a formal way. Because, the past unresolved matter may somehow affect your new relationship. Though for 4 years, there are things that had changed, still you are together and a test of time for both of you. Better, deal this matter directly with him, to know his actions and how you truly feels. AS what other said, a growing relationship that is filled with true love and contentment, will never feel the emptiness in one's heart, because, for every single day , to hours, months and years, it grows stronger and better everyday. HAppy mylotting

you have known your man for 4 years and do you think he just changed like that for no apparent reason? There are probably other factors to that, maybe from work or he has something that bothers his mind. Make a talk with him, understand him and trust him if you loved him that much.

i hope you do not like that , just some time that to long relationship make a bored but its still can fixed to make ways not the same again , why i say that because maybe married is the way to not good discussion for both of you but try back to comunication you two started new again asking him what make he chance ??? just do not saking he about women new , just nice asking him abaout yours relationship if him talk like want broke up just is that you opportunity to get some new okey.

Maybe I can help you.It's true that guys will feel a little bored after spending 4 years loving their women.It's not surprising he wants to find for something or sb new to add some changes to his regular life.I think you should do something to change the routine life,which may excite and please him.Your love is fading,but it will be ok if you can become a completely new beautiful girl to him.Remember what really important is to keep his passion on you and do everything you can to achieve the goal.

Wow! What a question! I have been in this relationship 14 years, and yes, there are times when things are sometimes boring. After a while You get into a routine: work and money sometimes take over too. Buying a home, perhaps children, can make a relationship more of a functional thing than a romance. You also start to discover each other's faults too, which can be an eye opener! But with all that, I'm not off looking for something new. Perhaps the two of you need a little change of routine to make life more interesting? Hope this might help.

boredom in a long relationship is a natural phenomena. That's not strange. All couples will definitely feel it. But remember, boredom should not be a reason to end a relationship. Boredom should be avoided with creative ways such as go a place nostalgic or remain attentive to each other