What will you do if you are only an adopted daughter or son?

Though its a tough situation, I would say, look at it positively. In a world where all parents want their kids to become quickly independent and do not want to carry the responsibility of their own kids, someone else has actuaaly taken so much of an initiative that they they have adopted you!! Look upto them as the very hands of the God - and always love them for owning you up, for grooming you and investing their precious and only lifetime - thinking for you... :-)

I have a best friend who was not able to conceive but adopted a little boy. Now the boy is already 7 and we are planning a party for him. Unfortunately for my friend she and her husband separated I just don't know whether there will still be a reconcilation. We are giving much love to the boy as I am being his second mom and my daughter his older sister. Of course my friend said she will tell the boy in due time. We don't know how the boy will take it but maybe with the love and support he got from his immediate family--I hope he will learn to forgive his biological parents and be thankful that a new family has loved and supported him to become a better person.

I would definitely talk about it to the parents I have come to know. I just want to have no lies between us. I am sure that they would also be relieved to finally let go of the burden of keeping my adoption a secret. Of course, I may feel sad about it. But I am sure I would also be grateful. I have been cared for and loved all my life, I do not think I would ever have the right to feel angry. Have a nice day!

If I discovered that I am only an adopted son, at first I will be dismayed and many questions in my mind that will rise. However, I cannot do anything about it, it's just my only choice if I will search my real parents or stay with my current parents that adopted me. I should be very thankful that they adopted me and treated me well as if I am their son, I will just be asking many questions like why they adopted me, why my mother gave me to them, etc. In that case if they answered clearly I can understand my situation.

hello aira. if this situation will happen, my initial reaction would be is feeling upset with them, it's really painful for me. but when the time comes that i'll be okay, i would really ask them how does it happen and who are really my true parents. and definitely, i would give thanks to them for making me grow as this far. if they're not here, maybe i was killed by hunger of food, care and mostly love.

It would be really embarrassing for me, if I can know that I am an adopted son of my parents. However, I would be rather happy knowing my real identity. Thanks for initiation of such a nice post.

knowing the truth is not always a positive feeling, new questions will rise from one another. but i not feel hatred to my poster parents if i found out i was only adopted, specially if they treated me well. I may also find time to think if i wanted more truth further by knowing my real roots, my real parents, their reason and all.

hi airasheila I think I would be shocked and have to rally around a bit to remember those people are really my parents and they adopted me out of all the other children when they could have had their pick. then I would want to know why my birth parents decided to put me up for adoption. but I would reassure my adoptive parents that I think they are my real parents who were always here for me. I think that I would not be upset with my adopted parents but might be really angry that my real parents just threw me away so to speak.

As what you have said the truth will always prevail no matter how hard it was kept. Not to mention that peopl around you would most likely talk about it and the child will over hear it fro someone else and I think the impact will surely be different knowing that others might feel cheated. If I were in that situation I will just have to be thankful for my adopted parents knowing that they have provided for me and they loved me as their own. Well of course I have to know who my real parents are just to make me whole as a person. Just knowing where and who I came from would make me whole. Of course I have the right to know the reasons why I was given or was adopted and I just have to be thankful that I have two sets of parents my biological one's and my adoptive one's. No need to be bitter and feel bad of the situation. Hated will just do me no good so I just have to take things positively.

I'm an eligitimate child and my little sister is adopted. When I learned I was an eligitimate I feel ashamed of myself and I felt I am not deserving of the love my father had given me. If my sister were to find out, no matter how she reacts I will understand and I will guide her as much as I can. Its hard being eligitimate what more being an adopted child

I will really feel bad and I will do a deeply survey. Trying my best to know the truth is my only expect.Then I will work harder but won't do harm to my 'parents' after that. In the end,maybe I will regard them as my true parents.

So? I will be then thankful that I am alive. That someone took me in and make me live. I am living a life so comfortably here. If I find out I am just adopted then I will be so much thankful. But I will not look for my biological parents anymore.

hi there, thats a very tough situation, no secrets had been kept forever,. If i were in that situation ofcourse at first i would be very upset and hurt coz i was abandoned by my real family, time will heal the wound as they say, i would confront my real parents if i would be given a chance for me to know the reason why they left me. On the other hand im still very thankful to my foster parents because despite the fact that im their real daughter, they love and cared for me and without them i wouldnt be a responsible person today,as to my real parents im also thankful to them coz they made me and let me live rather than they aborted me. we are just human we should learn to forgive.

Everyone's life is not perfect.A saying is that if you cannot afford a stocking,just think those guys who have lost legs. Why to touble ourselves by the problems that cannot be solved.It cannot help us the least.Just be positive and do what we could do to achieve happiness,and let other troubles gone as they should. If it happens to me,I will continue the normal life as before.